The daughter died unexpectedly, and the parents only care about the compensation: children without parents should be self-improving

Guide: When I watched "Ode to Joy", many people around me felt unworthy for Fan Shengmei, and at the same time, they were very angry at having such a pair of parents. However, Fan Shengmei was not bold enough to indulge her parents and elder sister-in-law, as if she did not love herself enough.

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The TV series "Ode to Joy" has already ushered in its finale, but people have never stopped discussing it. The series has always been used as a family "cash machine", Fan Shengmei, the girl of the "problem solver", was the focus of discussion.

She is very good and sensible, but her parents will always care about her unbelievable brother. Only when the family encounters difficulties, her parents will think of her.

Fan Shengmei's role has attracted so much attention because there are too many girls like her in real life. They are required to make selfless dedication to their families, but they have never been cared for.

Art comes from life, but life is sometimes more absurd than drama.

The news broke a few days ago that a girl died unexpectedly. The parents found her place of work before her death and demanded a compensation of 410,000 for her brother as the down payment for buying a house. The girl’s mother even shouted: “A life is worth a life. Sixty thousand?"

In their eyes, their daughter's life can be measured by money.

As the incident went deep, people discovered that the girl had been squeezed out of breath by her parents, and she even committed suicide twice.

Parents and younger brothers continue to ask for money from this girl in the name of family love, just like a group of vampires. Now that the daughter is dead, they still have to make money behind her.

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Born in a patriarchal family, this is a fact that there is no way to change, but when faced with oppression, you can choose not to compromise.

No parents hurt,Then love yourself more.

When the family needs help, they should still help, but the premise is "reasonable."

For example, the younger brother does not go to work when he is an adult, so his sister will pay for living expenses. I'm sorry: no!

Fan Shengmei has a sad line in the play: I don't have a penny savings when I am 31 years old. I paid for the down payment for the house of my brother's marriage, and I paid for the loan. I even paid for the childbirth.

When encountering such unreasonable demands, we must bravely say: No!

Everyone should have their own life, should not live for whom, let alone become an accessory to the boys at home, meet all their needs, and let themselves live humble.

If the family relationship is unreliable, then rely on yourself.

In addition to relatives, there are lovers, friends, careers, and ideals... The world is so big, if you stumble in a corner, then go to a wider world, why be in a dead end Spin around.

In addition to distracting oneself, not allowing oneself to be immersed in the partiality of parents, breaking the shackles of the family, but also strengthening oneself.

Let’s travel and take a look at the world. It’s not just that you are the only one who has a hard time. With a broadened vision, you will find that the hurdle you are going through is not an abyss that you can’t overcome.

Read more, seek inner peace, and reach reconciliation with yourself.

Exercising more, sweating, physical fitness, physical strength can also bring inner strength.

Wait for you to stand up to a certain height, and then bend down to look at the past. The past is nothing but the past.

03

Guo Rong used to be a "helping brother demon".

My younger brother is going to study abroad, so she will work hard enough to work as a tutor after work to earn extra money.

My younger brother is looking for a job, so she asks her brother Zhang Luo to have an interview.

The younger brother talked about his girlfriend, so she put out her life savings,I went around to pool money to buy a house for my younger brother, but my family of three was still crowded into a rented house with less than 50 square meters. For this reason, he had a big quarrel with her husband, and for a time it was the point of divorce.

However, her parents and brother did not care about her marital problems, so they kept urging her to remit the money quickly.

Until then, Guo Rong suddenly realized. She simply bought her own house with the money, and a family of three moved into the new house happily.

When his parents called and scolded, Guo Rong replied: "You can get married if you don't have the money to buy a house. You can rent it first, and then you can buy it when you save enough money."

"You are too selfish, thinking about yourself only."

"The mother blamed on the other end of the phone.

"Yes, I was too selfless before to make myself so tired. Now I should plan for myself." Guo Rong retorted.

After telling her true thoughts, Guo Rong felt more comfortable and relaxed. She thoroughly understood that if she did not get the appreciation and love of her parents, then she would love herself.

Now I don’t send money to my younger brother any more, and I feel much more relaxed on hand. I can buy two more beautiful clothes for my child, and I also bought a bag that I’ve always been reluctant to buy. On weekends, my family will go to a restaurant outside to eat and live. It's much more chic and happier than before.

Why let yourself be squeezed to death? The fertility is not repaid like this. You have to make yourself well before you can spare your energy to help your family.

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Who doesn't want to be the jewel in the palm of their parents, who doesn't want someone to hurt and be a little princess, but not all girls are so lucky.

There is no way to be born in a patriarchal family. Patriarchal is the fault of the parents, but if you are stuck on the ground, if you have to compete with your brother and brother, it is that you can’t live with yourself, and there is no way to change your parents’ corrupt thinking. Then change yourself.

Don't care about your parents, don't become a demon to help your brother, and live your own life.

There are too many helpless things in life, but fortunately, we still have many choices.

The world is so big, I hope that every unfortunate girl from the original family can get out of her own demon, out of the shackles of family love, and become a better self.

End.

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