When the ten-centimeter needle pierced through my spine bowed like a shrimp, it poured into my body with a fluid that would take away my pain.
soon the pain that I couldn't take the initiative to bear and could only passively endure disappeared.
I also started to quiet down and not shout.
I lay quietly on the cold operating table and handed over my body to the doctor, with medical instruments inserted into my nose and mouth. The doctor used something like a nail to start the test from my bulging belly. She asked me if I was conscious until The position of the heart, I have the feeling of being stabbed by a sharp object.
I have no fear, only relief from the boundless despair of frequent contractions.
I felt my hands start to tremble uncontrollably. The doctor said it was a normal human reaction during the operation, so I closed my eyes with confidence and fell asleep.
was awakened by a loud cry in the haze, and I knew that the guy who caused me to die was stripped from my body by the doctor.
I was a little new and relieved, and wanted to say something, so I asked the doctor how much the child weighs? Is it a boy or a girl?
The doctor brought a wrinkled, bluish-white skin to my eyes, and showed me a boy or girl? I barely opened my eyes and glanced at it, and the doctor said it was a boy, and then I couldn't resist the drowsiness and fell asleep.
This is my production process. The reason why I choose for cesarean section is that I have been unable to sleep and eat for three days and two nights, and I have tried my best to endure the pain of my waist and abdomen swelling to the point of exploding. The pain of
has no end in sight, so I chose cesarean section in desperation.
Women and women always share some experiences, and women who have had children almost always share their experiences of giving birth with each other.
I heard from a sister who gave birth naturally. It was very painful after giving birth to the stitches. She felt that the stitches were much more painful than when the child was born, and every time she went to the toilet, the wound would hurt until she collapsed.
Therefore, every woman feels that it is very painful to have a child, no matter whether it is a straight or a cut.
After the cesarean section, I lay on the hospital bed for about a week. My hips and lower back were swollen and swollen. It was difficult to turn over. I couldn't walk after I got off the ground, and my feet didn't seem to be able to move freely.
Every time we talk about the experiences of having children, women who haven't had children express their fear, but no woman around me really chooses not to have children.
I have also heard countless other people's birth experiences before giving birth. I am also very scared, but at the same time, I have no choice but to choose to have children.
I never thought about why I had to have a child before, but the elders urged me to think that I should have a child, so I gave birth to a life in the best state.
A man is a father in a pleasurable sex, while a woman has to bear more as a mother, all kinds of troubles during pregnancy, prenatal anxiety, pain during childbirth, postpartum depression, and hardships in the parenting process.
Therefore, more and more women around me are reluctant to have children, always thinking that it can be delayed for a while, but that kind of anxiety bothers them, but many people who come here always urge them in a mocking tone Having a baby, and there will be some malicious guesswork mixed in.
I have a friend who has been in a relationship for several years. He got a certificate two years ago, and he has not given birth to a child until now.
Her sister-in-law, mother-in-law, mother, and friends all urged her to give birth from time to time.
And she is a very sensitive person, and she is more anxious when she hears these urgings.
When I asked her when she planned to give birth, she joked that she was going to get pregnant together, she said it could be a while.
In fact, many people can't understand it. They will feel that since they have to give birth sooner or later, why not give birth at one go, afraid, it is not about to give birth, and when they are old, their body is not in the best state, and they will suffer a lot during pregnancy and childbirth.
It’s just that they don’t understand that once they give birth to a child, they can’t return to their former self. Physically, they have given birth to a life. The body is not as good as before. Psychologically, they are no longer their own self. The child is a continuation of their own blood. The fetters in the upbringing process bind you and him deeply. He needs your care, and you can't leave him gradually.
You are no longer free, your child's cries and laughter fill your life to the brim.
The experience of having a child is actually bittersweet. Life after having a child is a happiness that you will never experience when you are alone. Watching the life you nurtured grow day by day, your smart eyebrows and bright smile are enough to impress you. Or even calling her mother with a milky voice makes her feel very happy in an instant.
I would love to tell the anxious sisters who haven't had children yet, don't care what others think of you, and don't be swayed by the urging of others.
In fact, it doesn't matter if you have children or not, when or how many you have, the choice is always yours.
Live your life by yourself, don't be coerced by others to make choices, they won't be responsible for you.
You can fully measure it, take it slow, and give birth when you feel ready.
Although giving birth is not a very pleasant thing, there is no technology that can completely eliminate the pain of childbirth. Even a cesarean section can be uncomfortable. However, giving birth to a child is really not that scary. Anxiety and fear are nothing but the unknown of pain. Once you know and prepare for it, you won't be so afraid.
However, life is short for a few autumns, and there is always an adventure, right? Considering giving birth as a safe adventure, (with current medical technology can still be assured) the pains and joys of having a child are never as enjoyable as listening to others talk about it.
I hope everyone can give some understanding to those women who are caught in fertility anxiety. Having a child is really a big hole, and if you jump, you can't get up.
Once you're on the pirate ship of motherhood, I can only advise you to be a happy pirate.
