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I remember watching a documentary or a variety show before.
In short, it is about the rich going to experience the life of the poor for a few days.
At the end of the day, how did the rich feel about being interviewed.
Then the rich man said that he felt very bad. If I really had to live like this, I might not be able to survive it for a month. It was too uncomfortable.
Then the interviewer said, "I see you have survived these days."
The rich man said that this is because I know that if I survive these few days, I will return to my old life of wealth. I have hope, but these people are different. They may have no hope in their lives. They have to live in this environment all the time, so if I am really in that environment, I can't guarantee that I can survive for a few days!
Of course, I can’t remember the exact words, but the general idea is this.
So, this is the reality, people really just come to experience life...
This actually tells us a very important truth, that is, Most of the decisions we make in life are actually made based on hope.
Such as getting married, having children, buying a house, these major life events!
If you are full of hope and confidence in the future, then some of your behaviors will be relatively more radical, such as daring to increase leverage and daring to consume in advance. On the contrary, you will be submissive and dare not waste money.
So, coming back to our title, what does it have to do with the fact that people are not willing to have children now?
In fact, the key lies in two words, hope!
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First of all, we need to know one thing, that is, the voice that agrees that people are not willing to have children now dominates the Internet, but this does not actually mean that our entire society is like this.
The reason is very simple, it is the famous silent majority theory.
often expresses opinions on the Internet. Who are the people who express their opinions?
At least most of them are not those people who work more than 12 or even 16 hours a day, right?
If you are or have been a small town girl or young man, there should be many people around you. These people actually don't care about what is happening in the world. They may just want to watch a few short videos or play two games to relax after get off work every day. They don't want to pay attention to the declining birthrate and aging, the declining marriage rate, etc. Their bandwidth is no longer enough, and they just want to lie down.
and that's it.
But these people are the majority. They are too lazy to express their opinions online, so they become the silent majority. But just because they are silent, they cannot be treated as if they do not exist.
So when we discuss on the Internet why so many young people are marrying late and having children later, we may have forgotten to include this group of people.
If we include them, we may find that the real world is actually polarized.
That is to say, people who marry later and have children later may not get married until they are in their thirties or forties, while there is a group of people who may have children as early as their early twenties.
In fact, when we look into the reason, it is still because of hope!
三
There are many people in rural areas who drop out of school early to work before graduating from junior high school or go out to join the so-called world.
There may be more or less people around you, and you may also find that this kind of people often get married very early.
In fact, the main reason is that their parents also feel that the possibility of them turning over in this life is very small, so they let them take advantage of the young woman who is not so concerned about interests and is still in the relationship stage. At this time, even if you are poor, as long as you talk sweetly, you can I have great hope that I can find a girl to marry, but there is no guarantee after marriage. After all, you can divorce after getting married. At this time, you need children. Children are the key point when couples quarrel or divorce in the future. You may have often heard words like, if it were not for the children, I would have divorced you.
Therefore, this kind of people often get married early and have children early, because this way they can tie the woman to death and not dare to divorce easily.
I know that girls may feel uncomfortable after reading my words, but discomfort is uncomfortable. This is the reality. How has reality ever made me feel comfortable? Everyone is uncomfortable.
Therefore, one of the poles of polarization I am talking about is this group. They also need children as a link to marriage. How can they not get married and have children?
Don’t be ridiculous!
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As for the other group of people who marry late and have children, I don’t think you need me to say more, right?
In fact, many people on the Internet have said a lot about this, such as the polarization between rich and poor, or that the bonus has disappeared.
But my opinion is actually hope.
Because of hope, the poor at the bottom got married quickly after experiencing severe beatings from society or being urged to marry by their parents.
Let’s think about it, if they still have great hope and many possibilities in their future, will they get married early?
will not, because they will wait for that possibility to come true, because marriage is actually the reorganization of resources between two families, so they have to wait until they get married in the future, because the partner at this time will most likely have better resources than before!
I know that many people may not accept what I said above. They may say: How can you say love is so utilitarian? This is love!
Yes, I don’t have much to explain. Anyway, you will understand after being beaten up by society a few times.
So, speaking of it, these people who get married early know that they have no hope in this life, so they place their hopes on their children. This may also be one of the reasons why they have children early.
And what about those people who don’t want to have children no matter how hard they try to persuade them?
Because he knows that he is of high quality, and he knows that he can still find a successor even if he wanders for a few years, so he does not panic. Under such a premise, why would he hang himself on a tree so early?
tell me, why?
Due to the limited space, many more in-depth things cannot be discussed, and those more in-depth things may be more unacceptable to some romantic brains.
So this article is planned to be written here.
In short, the conclusion I have said so much is that when you have hope, you will not rush to get married or have children. When you have no hope, you can’t wait to get married quickly and let your children pass on your hope.
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