Author | Inspector (1946 words in total, about 4 minutes to read)
Children can grow up happily and live a worry-free life under the protection of their parents...
But as adults, when faced with cruel competition and the blows of life, they are often prone to become discouraged, depressed and even self-destructive.
In order to avoid these situations from happening, parents should lay a solid foundation for their children to help them go smoother in the future.
★Families with these three types of children should be careful, as they will easily be eliminated by society in the future. The sooner parents find out, the better.
► People who lack the ability to withstand stress
There is nothing smooth sailing, it's just that someone will smooth everything for you and protect you from wind and rain.
Children's lives are often safe, happy, and worry-free, because their parents protect them and prevent them from being harmed or in danger at all times. Therefore, in the children's hearts, life is simple and worry-free.
Although this is a responsibility and love for parents to protect their children, if they are overprotected and their children do not have the ability to withstand stress and cannot face pressure, setbacks, and challenges, then when they need to stand alone as adults, once they are frustrated or enter a low point in life, it will be difficult to stand up or even give up on themselves, and be eliminated by society.
Yao Yuan, the top scorer in the college entrance examination, has been very sensible since he was a child and has excellent academic performance. He was admitted to Beijing Institute of Technology as the top scorer in the province. Just when everyone had high hopes for him, he failed to resist setbacks, could not accept being ignored, could not cope with the intensity of work, and so on. He sank step by step and ended up living on the streets, which is very sad.
When facing the same difficulty, different moods and ways of thinking often determine the direction of the situation.
The key to success or failure is not IQ, grades, family background, or appearance, but the ability to withstand stress. Whether you choose to slump or become more courageous with every setback depends on your inner frustration and degree of stress resistance.
Parents should let their children have a certain degree of psychological endurance from an early age. When they face difficulties such as being quarreled, scolded, ridiculed, failing in exams, getting sick, parents moving away, etc., they must face it calmly, adjust their mentality, and be unyielding.
No matter how dangerous the road ahead is, no matter how difficult the predicament is, as long as you have goals, the ability, the perseverance, the courage to move forward, and never give up, I believe things will eventually turn out to be bright.
►People with low emotional intelligence
●IQ determines whether you are hired, while emotional intelligence determines how high you will be promoted.
The quality of a person's performance does not indicate his future development level. In today's society, ability is more important than knowledge, and EQ is more important than IQ.
Emotional intelligence accounts for 80% of whether a person can have both ends of the spectrum in social interactions and whether he can thrive in the workplace.Emotional intelligence accounts for 80%.
People with low emotional intelligence may have strong working ability, sense of responsibility, and knowledge reserves. However, once they say the wrong thing and handle all aspects of relationships improperly, they can easily go astray and even hinder their career progress.
"It's okay for me to do this. Why do you always find fault with me? You are a great manager." Because of this sentence, one of my friends was fired. When faced with the manager denying his design, he did not look for reasons from himself, nor did he communicate reasonably. Instead, he insisted on going his own way and was self-righteous. After being fired, he even felt aggrieved and complained that the workplace was too complicated.
Emotional intelligence is cultivated from childhood and needs to be taught by parents step by step. When children say wrong things, do things without considering the feelings of others, and are self-centered, parents should tell their children what to say, learn to think in other people's shoes, and take care of the feelings of those around them.
High emotional intelligence can give children more opportunities, improve their competitiveness, and make the future road wider and wider.
►People who lack self-discipline
●Self-discipline is an indispensable ability for a person.
If you can still be persistent and conscious when no one is supervising you, then such a positive force can keep pushing you forward.
Self-discipline is not something everyone has, nor can it be just casual talk. People who lack self-discipline will find it difficult to accomplish anything. Not only will it be difficult to achieve success in their careers, but they may not be able to handle even the most inconspicuous things in life.
Principles, judgment, and determination all need to be developed from an early age. If parents themselves are not self-disciplined, how can they guide their children to be self-disciplined?
There is a child in our community whose grades have always been in the top 5 of her grade. Her good grades are not due to her talent but to the hard work of her mother behind the scenes.
Every morning at 6:30, her mother wakes her daughter up and reads with her for 30 minutes, sometimes English, sometimes classical Chinese. Instead of watching her daughter read, the mother reads each one with her daughter, and then communicates and shares her thoughts after reading.
Just like this, my daughter, who resisted at first, got used to this early reading method. In the extra 30 minutes every morning, her daughter gradually developed strict self-discipline and her grades remained high. Moreover, she can do her own thing without her mother's supervision every day.
It is actually very difficult for a child to have the ability to self-discipline since childhood. Because children’s nature is to eat, drink and have fun. They want to go out, run and play, and eat delicious snacks. They will also get tired and annoyed. Then at this time, parents’ guidance and demonstration are needed.
Self-discipline is for yourself, knowledge is learned in your own head, keep learning, plan your daily time, endure loneliness, resist temptation, work hard with your heart, from breaking through small goals to completing big goals. Then, after going through this process, I will also achieve a qualitative leap.
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Parents always hope that their children will prosper, but if they do not have the ability to succeed, cannot resist temptation, and are extremely fragile inside, then no matter how good their grades are, the road to the future will become increasingly difficult, and it will even be difficult to get up after entering a trough.
Let your children have the above abilities from an early age. Even if they don't have any great achievements in the future, they can live a nourishing life, handle their work well, live a smooth life, and have sunshine in their hearts. Isn't this a happy life?
Parents, have you paid attention to cultivating your children's abilities in these aspects?
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