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I am a full-time mother, and my eldest son is a girl, who is very easy to take care of. The second child is a boy, and he will be exhausted to death in one day. However, they are all healthy and studying well. Now I feel a lot more at ease, and I no longer take the grievances I usually encounter to heart.
Of course, I can say that. It’s about a friend of mine. She is a working mother, and her mother-in-law helped raise her children.
When my son was young, we often played together, but I saw the child’s grandmother not letting the child crawl because she said it was too dirty. The older the children are, the boys will be naughty after all, but his children are very stable and honest. My son once broke his face and arms while playing roller skating. As a result, my grandma said that we young parents are irresponsible. He controls his grandson even more strictly.
At first, in our eyes, the mother-in-law took care of the children mainly for safety. Later, we found that the children became less and less courageous and always curled up in grandma's arms. We just realized that this concept of raising children is not good for the growth of children, especially for a boy.
Indeed, some ways of raising children do require parents to be wary of their children.
1. For the sake of safety, let the children grow up in a static environment.
Elderly people raising children are always worried about their children bumping into each other, so they simply let the children sit quietly in their arms. Of course, there are also some elderly people who are in poor health and cannot catch up with their children when they are running and jumping, so they hope that their children can stay by their side honestly.
is a child, she still needs to learn and grow through constant exploration and tempering. They may suffer some injuries during the chase. But they also collected and summarized their experiences of being harmed again.
At the same time, exercise is also a kind of massage and promotion for children's brain development. Especially for boys, when their enthusiasm for sports is excessively suppressed, it will harm their physical and mental health and cognitive development.
2. Dote on children and have no principles in education.
The elderly have very different parenting attitudes towards their children and their parents. As the saying goes, " one's parents are separated by one generation". The old man treats his grandson and granddaughter less harshly and more dotingly than he treats his children. I am also worried that my children will be hungry or cold. From getting dressed, to eating and drinking, there was nothing he couldn't think of.
In this situation, how can you let your children go out into the wild? The outside is dirty and there are many dangers... In short, children are the treasures of old people. They are afraid of melting when they are held in their mouths, and they are afraid of falling when they are held in their hands.
3. Grandma takes care of the baby in a perfunctory way, as long as the baby doesn’t cry.
There are also some elderly people who do not sincerely want to help take care of their children. Therefore, in the process of raising children, they are often very perfunctory. As long as the children don't cry, everything will be fine.
There are even some old people who do their own thing and do not pay attention to their children. If the elderly do this, it is probably an unreliable form of parenting.
Faced with an old man raising children like this, do you still expect him to take his children out to run, jump and play? We already feel very lucky if he can avoid losing the child or the child will not be injured because of him.
Having said that, educating children is a responsibility of parents. No matter how busy we are, we still have to return to raising our children ourselves in the end.
We thank the old man for helping us. If the old man doesn’t help us, we will do our best to do it ourselves.
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