Women, you must learn to plan your life and stop being confused.
What I will share with you tonight is to have a planned life and not be confused. I hope it can help everyone.
This is a story from a video. I was very moved after watching it and would like to share it with you: One day I came home late from get off work. My daughter has a fever. My husband got angry at me, my child’s face turned red, and I blamed myself very much. Just when I blame myself. He apologized to me: he held my hand with both hands and said: "Resign and go home, don't work so hard! I'm fine with the job. I just got promoted, don't hesitate, think about your children, think about our family."
The word "good" was written on my forehead, like a medal: I am your good daughter, and I am a good wife to my husband. I am a good mother to my children. But mom, now I am just like you. I could only hide in the bathroom, turn on the shower head, and see the image drawn in the water: the man has a regular and legitimate income, and the woman has been unemployed for many years and has been separated from society. Based on the actual conditions, we applied for child custody. This is what his lawyer said. My mother was so anxious that she suffered from high blood pressure . I held her hand outside the sheet. There were a few blinking age spots on the back of her hand. Hear Him Said is the country’s first female monologue play. I also really enjoy watching this show. Focus on the pain points of contemporary women's existence and send women's most authentic voices to society. The protagonist in the
video, Yongmei , plays the role of a woman who listened to her mother's words since she was a child and watched her mother's tragic world. She slowly transformed into another version of her mother, thereby redeeming herself and changing her destiny. She has been a girl who likes geology and has dreams since she was a child, but the environment around her parents has domesticated her into a docile person with good teeth. In order to take care of her family and children, she sacrificed her career, and after her husband cheated on her, she was deprived of custody of her children because of her jobless status. In the end, she wakes up, rises up, and will not give up her feminine voice. Therefore, you must learn to love yourself in order to protect yourself, love and protect your family.
Women have to work hard and take care of their families, and men only need to work peacefully and peacefully. I am working hard to take care of your family from behind, but you are having sex with others in the front. This is the situation that many women least want to see. She is the epitome of millions of women. In today's society, how many women choose to ignore themselves again and again for the sake of their families. They are not willing to buy expensive cosmetics, but they remember to buy their husband a watch that they have been thinking about for a long time on his birthday; they are not willing to buy their favorite bags, but they rush into the toy store immediately and buy the latest toy car for their children. They devote everything to their marriage and family. What did they get in exchange for it? Therefore, it’s time for family members to wake up to how many women have lost themselves from the moment they enter marriage. How many women have gone from being aloof goddesses before marriage to being humble and humble after marriage? How many women, after getting married and having a family, think about their family all their lives and live only for their family.
They managed their families well, but they forgot how to manage themselves. Although family is a woman's support, please don't forget to live for yourself, so women must plan for their own careers. First of all, we need to understand that family is not everything that a mature woman should have. There is a saying that goes, a woman's world should never stop at home. If that were all, she wouldn't be living for herself. When a woman becomes a wife, sometimes she doesn't dare to do what she wants to do because she has children and elderly people, and her body has to revolve around her husband, children, and parents-in-law all day long, busy doing laundry, cooking, and housework.
As a woman, life is not just these, there is more to manage. A woman transforms step by step from being the apple of her parents' eyes to a wife, a mother, and a daughter-in-law. These changes in identity mean that a woman may have to change from a delicate girl with hands clean to a good wife and mother who washes her hands and makes soup. The focus of life may also change from skin care products, cosmetics, and beautiful clothes to daily necessities such as rice, oil, salt, sauce, vinegar, and tea.
Women, you must learn to plan your life and stop being confused.
What I will share with you tonight is to have a planned life and not be confused. I hope it can help everyone.
This is a story from a video. I was very moved after watching it and would like to share it with you: One day I came home late from get off work. My daughter has a fever. My husband got angry at me, my child’s face turned red, and I blamed myself very much. Just when I blame myself. He apologized to me: he held my hand with both hands and said: "Resign and go home, don't work so hard! I'm fine with the job. I just got promoted, don't hesitate, think about your children, think about our family."
The word "good" was written on my forehead, like a medal: I am your good daughter, and I am a good wife to my husband. I am a good mother to my children. But mom, now I am just like you. I could only hide in the bathroom, turn on the shower head, and see the image drawn in the water: the man has a regular and legitimate income, and the woman has been unemployed for many years and has been separated from society. Based on the actual conditions, we applied for child custody. This is what his lawyer said. My mother was so anxious that she suffered from high blood pressure . I held her hand outside the sheet. There were a few blinking age spots on the back of her hand. Hear Him Said is the country’s first female monologue play. I also really enjoy watching this show. Focus on the pain points of contemporary women's existence and send women's most authentic voices to society. The protagonist in the
video, Yongmei , plays the role of a woman who listened to her mother's words since she was a child and watched her mother's tragic world. She slowly transformed into another version of her mother, thereby redeeming herself and changing her destiny. She has been a girl who likes geology and has dreams since she was a child, but the environment around her parents has domesticated her into a docile person with good teeth. In order to take care of her family and children, she sacrificed her career, and after her husband cheated on her, she was deprived of custody of her children because of her jobless status. In the end, she wakes up, rises up, and will not give up her feminine voice. Therefore, you must learn to love yourself in order to protect yourself, love and protect your family.
Women have to work hard and take care of their families, and men only need to work peacefully and peacefully. I am working hard to take care of your family from behind, but you are having sex with others in the front. This is the situation that many women least want to see. She is the epitome of millions of women. In today's society, how many women choose to ignore themselves again and again for the sake of their families. They are not willing to buy expensive cosmetics, but they remember to buy their husband a watch that they have been thinking about for a long time on his birthday; they are not willing to buy their favorite bags, but they rush into the toy store immediately and buy the latest toy car for their children. They devote everything to their marriage and family. What did they get in exchange for it? Therefore, it’s time for family members to wake up to how many women have lost themselves from the moment they enter marriage. How many women have gone from being aloof goddesses before marriage to being humble and humble after marriage? How many women, after getting married and having a family, think about their family all their lives and live only for their family.
They managed their families well, but they forgot how to manage themselves. Although family is a woman's support, please don't forget to live for yourself, so women must plan for their own careers. First of all, we need to understand that family is not everything that a mature woman should have. There is a saying that goes, a woman's world should never stop at home. If that were all, she wouldn't be living for herself. When a woman becomes a wife, sometimes she doesn't dare to do what she wants to do because she has children and elderly people, and her body has to revolve around her husband, children, and parents-in-law all day long, busy doing laundry, cooking, and housework.
As a woman, life is not just these, there is more to manage. A woman transforms step by step from being the apple of her parents' eyes to a wife, a mother, and a daughter-in-law. These changes in identity mean that a woman may have to change from a delicate girl with hands clean to a good wife and mother who washes her hands and makes soup. The focus of life may also change from skin care products, cosmetics, and beautiful clothes to daily necessities such as rice, oil, salt, sauce, vinegar, and tea.She is no longer a weak woman who cannot open the bottle cap, but a female man who can carry rice upstairs. This is what the family needs for him to grow up. In such a life, a woman may gradually lose herself, her friends, and the things she should love. But the correct thing should be that a woman's life should not only include her family, but also her children and the elderly.
So what we want to say is that it is important for women to have an independent career. A female friend once told me that every time she reached out to her husband to ask for money, she always felt that she had no dignity. Whenever you want to buy something for your parents, you have to consider whether it will be too expensive. It is said that only by raising children can you realize the kindness of your parents. Looking at my parents' heads of silver hair, I always feel that I should be filial to the old couple. But I have no independent source of income. Every penny I spend is earned by my husband, so I worry about being criticized. She felt very uncomfortable, so from that moment on, she decided that she wanted to have her own career, at least to be financially independent.
Women, no matter what your external conditions are, no matter what your family background is, you must firmly remember that you must have your own independent job and financial resources. Maybe you are not short of money, maybe you married a rich husband, maybe someone is willing to support you, but a job brings you not only money, but also independent personality and dignity. No matter how much you earn, at least you have your own circle of friends. Doing housework at home and hanging around your husband and children all day will make you lose yourself more and more. will make you miss the wonderful world. Emotions are an indispensable and beautiful pursuit of women's spiritual world, but women must also deeply understand a truth in their hearts: love means giving your heart to others, while career is the one that firmly controls your life. Even if the whole world abandons you one day, at least your career will not abandon you. An independent life is the first choice for a wise woman.
It is said that being beautiful is an advantage, and living a beautiful life is the key. The most beautiful women are independent women, so women, women really must have an independent career. Let’s analyze together what exactly is constraining the pattern of women’s career planning.
There was once an implanted topic that aroused heated discussion among netizens: My husband earns 4 million per year and has a good relationship. Planning to have a baby. I work, but I have little money and many things to do. I don’t want to go to work anymore. I want to be a stay-at-home mom. Can I do that? What do you think? Some netizens believe that the focus of family life with an annual income of 4 million is obviously no longer on the financial aspect, but may be on children's education, family relationships, property management, support for the elderly, etc.
These all require someone to plan and arrange, and their value is far more than a job worth several thousand dollars a month. Some people think that they would rather find a job with less money and fewer things to do, but just live the life of a full-time housewife. After all, in modern society sometimes it is not work that needs people, but people that need work. What's more, believing that a stable relationship means a stable income is a very risky thing in itself. For this reason, the risk of losing one's ability to work in society is very high. The topic of
is being discussed very lively. This topic is no longer new. In modern society with the rise of women, it is discussed from time to time. Both sides can cite examples of success or failure after becoming a full-time wife, but no one can convince the other. But in fact, the reason why this problem exists for a long time is that, in addition to certain problems in social life and production structure, a large part of the reason is that women are still in a disadvantaged position in the workplace for a long time. In China, most of the labor is done by women. Coupled with some difficult-to-avoid problems such as childbirth and family care, it has had a great impact on most women's careers.
In contrast, the advantages of men in the workplace are particularly important. It has to be said that due to some traditional concepts and some characteristics of women themselves, women's career development path is full of ups and downs. This also makes many women who have ideals and ambitions and hope to achieve something in their careers very distressed.Of course, women’s career planning does have certain characteristics: it is relatively more difficult. Family members, let’s consider a question: why do many women consider career options within a small scope? Why do so many women still choose jobs that are traditionally female-dominated and have female-specific careers?
There are only three explanations for this: the relationship between work and family life. Women's self-perception in the professional competitive arena and lack of social support. I will explain it one by one to my family below. The three major shackles of women's career planning . The first work and family life relationship. First of all, women usually consider the impact of their chosen career on their current or future family life. When a young man chooses to be an engineer, he rarely asks himself, if I become an engineer, can I still get married and raise a family? When a man chooses a career, he does not need to consider his family. This is often taken for granted. However, many women have to make a choice between working and taking care of the family.
If a woman has a demanding and high-status job, can she still take care of her children during the day? Picking up the kids? What about weekend meetings and business trips? Who stays home when a child is sick? Can the husband share the responsibilities of housework and childcare? Someone once pointed out that the first choice many women make is about lifestyle. Do you want to get married? What type of marriage do you want? Be a traditional housewife or a new era career woman? Do you want children? Does raising children interrupt work, and how important is work? Only after answering these questions will women be ready to choose a job that matches their expected lifestyle. A woman's decision about when and where to take up a job is usually based on family requirements and needs.
As Joan Garros said, for many women, marriage and family relationships are the most important part of women's ideals and perceptions of themselves. And is work the most important? Perhaps because of these complex reasons, women are not as clear about their life goals as men when making their own choices. In this way, women will consider their career plans in the larger context of family and life aspirations. Various contradictory expectations often lead women to a low level and low expectations, leading a career dominated by women. Because even if you have to do these professions, you can still do them part of the time, and it is very possible to resign midway without involving too much energy. Within these constraints, a woman's true interests and talents cannot be displayed in her work.
The second one is the feeling of self-ability. Perhaps a second reason women are limited in their career choices is their sense of their own abilities. Data shows that women are generally less confident in their abilities than men, and the careers pursued by those who lack self-confidence are generally not as high as those pursued by those who are confident. Engage in social learning, emphasizing the prediction of self-competence for professional behavior. Both statements raise the issue of perceptions of one's own abilities. The prediction of self-competence is an individual's perception of his or her ability to work in a specific field. For this reason, the prediction of self-ability is also regarded as an important factor in determining personal goals and personal behavior. In other words, people are more likely to do things that they think have advantages and are attracted to careers that predict their abilities. Studies have shown that women's prediction of self-ability in mathematics is significantly lower than that of men. Proficiency in mathematics is regarded as one of the important conditions for engaging in technical occupations or technical majors. Women who had lower predicted self-competence in mathematics were less likely to consider careers in these fields.
also has research reports, in addition to mathematics. Women's self-competence is also less predictive than men's in male-dominated occupations. Typically, the lower people predict a certain non-traditional self-ability, the less likely they are to express a strong interest in that career.Generally speaking, female friends will think that some jobs may be more suitable for men, so they give up this career choice. On the other hand, it was found that women pursuing non-traditional careers showed strong self-awareness and high predicted scores for self-competence. These findings point to the importance of predictions of self-competence in the career choice process. How do people develop or change their predictions of self-competence in a specific domain? According to Albert Bra, there are four sources that can produce high predictions of self-ability.
The first one is that you have made successful achievements in a specific job in the past. Second, there are other people’s successful performance as examples. Third, he can persuade and verbally encourage. Fourth, concerns about the behavior are alleviated. These four sources are very meaningful for women's career development.
Generally speaking, if women are not good at math, or have trouble with other masculine tasks, they underestimate their true ability to complete the work. Then they will have less confidence in these fields and will avoid certain non-traditional careers. Furthermore, so far, due to the lack of role models of successful women in non-traditional occupations, it is difficult for many women to see successful samples, and women's prediction of their own abilities in non-traditional occupations is therefore relatively slim. In addition, many women want to enter non-traditional careers, but lack the support and encouragement to make career choices.
There are only three explanations for this: the relationship between work and family life. Women's self-perception in the professional competitive arena and lack of social support. I will explain it one by one to my family below. The three major shackles of women's career planning . The first work and family life relationship. First of all, women usually consider the impact of their chosen career on their current or future family life. When a young man chooses to be an engineer, he rarely asks himself, if I become an engineer, can I still get married and raise a family? When a man chooses a career, he does not need to consider his family. This is often taken for granted. However, many women have to make a choice between working and taking care of the family.
If a woman has a demanding and high-status job, can she still take care of her children during the day? Picking up the kids? What about weekend meetings and business trips? Who stays home when a child is sick? Can the husband share the responsibilities of housework and childcare? Someone once pointed out that the first choice many women make is about lifestyle. Do you want to get married? What type of marriage do you want? Be a traditional housewife or a new era career woman? Do you want children? Does raising children interrupt work, and how important is work? Only after answering these questions will women be ready to choose a job that matches their expected lifestyle. A woman's decision about when and where to take up a job is usually based on family requirements and needs.
As Joan Garros said, for many women, marriage and family relationships are the most important part of women's ideals and perceptions of themselves. And is work the most important? Perhaps because of these complex reasons, women are not as clear about their life goals as men when making their own choices. In this way, women will consider their career plans in the larger context of family and life aspirations. Various contradictory expectations often lead women to a low level and low expectations, leading a career dominated by women. Because even if you have to do these professions, you can still do them part of the time, and it is very possible to resign midway without involving too much energy. Within these constraints, a woman's true interests and talents cannot be displayed in her work.
The second one is the feeling of self-ability. Perhaps a second reason women are limited in their career choices is their sense of their own abilities. Data shows that women are generally less confident in their abilities than men, and the careers pursued by those who lack self-confidence are generally not as high as those pursued by those who are confident. Engage in social learning, emphasizing the prediction of self-competence for professional behavior. Both statements raise the issue of perceptions of one's own abilities. The prediction of self-competence is an individual's perception of his or her ability to work in a specific field. For this reason, the prediction of self-ability is also regarded as an important factor in determining personal goals and personal behavior. In other words, people are more likely to do things that they think have advantages and are attracted to careers that predict their abilities. Studies have shown that women's prediction of self-ability in mathematics is significantly lower than that of men. Proficiency in mathematics is regarded as one of the important conditions for engaging in technical occupations or technical majors. Women who had lower predicted self-competence in mathematics were less likely to consider careers in these fields.
also has research reports, in addition to mathematics. Women's self-competence is also less predictive than men's in male-dominated occupations. Typically, the lower people predict a certain non-traditional self-ability, the less likely they are to express a strong interest in that career.Generally speaking, female friends will think that some jobs may be more suitable for men, so they give up this career choice. On the other hand, it was found that women pursuing non-traditional careers showed strong self-awareness and high predicted scores for self-competence. These findings point to the importance of predictions of self-competence in the career choice process. How do people develop or change their predictions of self-competence in a specific domain? According to Albert Bra, there are four sources that can produce high predictions of self-ability.
The first one is that you have made successful achievements in a specific job in the past. Second, there are other people’s successful performance as examples. Third, he can persuade and verbally encourage. Fourth, concerns about the behavior are alleviated. These four sources are very meaningful for women's career development.
Generally speaking, if women are not good at math, or have trouble with other masculine tasks, they underestimate their true ability to complete the work. Then they will have less confidence in these fields and will avoid certain non-traditional careers. Furthermore, so far, due to the lack of role models of successful women in non-traditional occupations, it is difficult for many women to see successful samples, and women's prediction of their own abilities in non-traditional occupations is therefore relatively slim. In addition, many women want to enter non-traditional careers, but lack the support and encouragement to make career choices.
