When a girl enters the rebellious period, parents are often at a loss what to do. After all, in the eyes of many people, rebellion is more synonymous with boys, and only boys have a rebellious period. In fact, it is not the case. The rebellious period is a sign of a child's growth. Both boys and girls will go through the rebellious stage, but the degree of rebellion is different. Girls in the rebellious period must not be treated the same as boys. So what is the correct way to educate girls in the rebellious period?
1. Face up to children's emotional changes
Everything in the world has a cause and effect. The cause of a child's "rebellious behavior" is a change in emotion, and the result is a form of emotional catharsis, that is, rebellious behavior. We cannot only see the "effect" and ignore the "cause". We must face up to our children's emotional changes and establish a trusting emotional connection.
First, when the child is emotional, comfort the child and express comfort;
Secondly, clarify the child's current state and acknowledge the child's emotions, that is, allow the child to have bad emotional feelings.
Then, encourage your child to express their emotions and listen carefully.
Finally, give your child positive feedback to make her realize that you are listening to her carefully, accepting her emotional changes seriously, and gaining her trust.
Only after establishing an emotional connection and catching the child's emotions can the occurrence of rebellious behavior be reduced.
2. Learn to communicate and guide effectively
It is true that many parents are aware of their children's emotional changes, but do not know how to communicate. There are often situations where "the words do not express what is meant" and "the words are not enough to make sense".
teaches parents a quick "getting started" technique: 1. Talk less and listen more. Don't interrupt, don't interrupt your child's speech, and don't make long remarks that you take for granted;
2. Put down your airs and abandon your prejudices. Many parents always have their own theories and always want to put on a parental air and use authority to make their children obedient. This may work when the child is young, but when the child enters the rebellious period and as her mind matures, the child will not only refuse to accept this old-fashioned approach, but will also become bored.
Let’s do these two things first, then your children will be willing to let down their guard and won’t avoid you.
Effective communication will allow you to get into the heart of your child and stimulate your empathy . Slowly you will understand the plight of children who are in the rebellious period, so that we can better guide our children, and by setting an example, we can become a role model for the child and an object for her to learn from.
