In this time of electronicization and informatization, we enjoy the convenience brought to us by the times, and at the same time, we must bear the "temptation" that only exists under the times.
This temptation has been mentioned by countless people and has also ruined countless children, that is - addiction. Gaming addiction, computer addiction, TV addiction, etc. Once the child becomes addicted, his life may be ruined.
01 Bao Dad: "Nothing can attract him except TV."
My colleague's family has a 15-year-old son. Just a few days ago, my colleague smashed the TV at home. Before that, my mother had smashed a computer and a mobile phone. At that time, my colleague felt that the child's mother was doing a big deal, so the child's mother ignored everything and asked the child's father to take care of his son by himself.
Then, my colleagues in felt that this month was like living in a nightmare.
The teacher asked colleagues to give feedback to every now and then. The child talked to his classmates about an anime in school, and even drew cartoon characters in class, and did not listen to the class. Once, a few children did not do well in evening self-study, and three children secretly went to the bathroom to watch anime on their mobile phones; for the weekend homework of
, my son always couldn't finish . Either it was too difficult, or he said he had not finished it, or he said he wanted to do his homework with his classmates. Anyway, you can always finish your homework in the end.
But my colleague saw it with his own eyes that the child spent 1 minute to finish a multiple-choice question for an English test paper, and then pretended to behave for a while and asked, "Dad, I have finished my English homework. Can I watch TV for a while?" My colleague was furious.
Colleague dragged his son to the front of the TV, asked his son to adjust it, and then smashed the TV in front of his son and asked his son: "Is it good?"
son asked angrily: "Why can you play with your mobile phone and watch TV, but I can't?"
Colleague: "Because I am an adult, I can support myself, I am qualified to watch it!"
son: "You are unfair!"
Colleagues couldn't understand why the child became like this now? In order to watch TV, watch the anime I like, do my homework perfunctorily, don’t listen carefully in class, and contradict your parents...
In fact, children are also very unable to understand . Why can’t my parents play with their mobile phones, but I can’t watch the anime I like for a while? Studying is so boring, I just want to see something interesting and I like.
02 Why do children always think about computers and TV? The real reason for inner content is actually just
Why do children always think about computers and TV?
Why can’t children sit at the table and study safely?
Why can’t children talk to their parents and listen to their parents’ suggestions?
It seems that all the bad things about children start from watching computers and TV. In order to watch a computer and TV, you can tell countless lies, fight against your parents, and abandon your studies. Even some children can not eat or drink, just like being possessed by evil spirits, just want to watch TV and .
Why?
In fact, there is only one real reason - children are deprived of their hearts.
For us adults, when we are very confused in our lives, we will easily become addicted to Internet and game addiction. This is because the person's vitality has not found a suitable connection and projection point.
. For children, it is very likely that the children have not received enough attention.
Children cannot obtain energy from their parents and the environment around them. Due to social experience, they do not form a deep inner connection with their family, teachers and classmates. The child at this time is like a grass that needs nutrients urgently. He does not have healthy water to nourish him. Even if he encounters poisonous water, he will stretch out his roots to suck.
Parents might as well observe. Are there any children who are addicted to computers and TVs around them without the high-quality company of their parents, or do not have a warm family, and there is no group of active, healthy and positive energy?
Because of inner lack, children use TV and computers to make up for their inner lack.
03 How to make children no longer addicted to computers and TV? It is easy to solve
. It is actually very easy to solve.
tells a real example of people around you. A father who quits playing games with his child.
This father likes to play games himself, does not do housework, does not accompany his children, and always plays games. Then, the son, who was in the fourth grade, actually started playing games. There were still several "game friends" in the class, and his son's rank was not low.
Father was very proud at first: The tiger father has no dog son. But soon, my father couldn't laugh. Since my son also played games like himself, 's grades fell rapidly and his temper began to become irritable. Once, my mother urged me to do it because I didn't finish my homework. My son said angrily: "Dad also plays games, why don't you care about him?"
's awakening was instantly.
At this time, the father of noticed that the child who had good character and academic performance had begun to indulge in the Internet and games;
The originally gentle and kind wife now looked at him with disappointment.
Improperly this family was still very happy before?
Then the father did 3 , quit his child's addiction to gaming, and by the way, he also regained a happy home.
First point: to accompany your child with high-quality
The father started to accompany your child, read books with your child, do homework with your child, accompany your child to go out for a walk, do housework with your child, accompany your child to go to training classes, and chat with your child...
After accompanying your child for a while, the father suddenly realized: It turns out that my son is like this...
got the son who was accompanied by his father, and he was very happy: Next time, I want... Dad, you accompany me!
With the father and son accompany each other, it seems that they gradually feel that the game is not that fun.
Children's hearts are deprived. For children, they will only look for TV, games and other ways to make up for it. However, if parents learn to make up for it with high quality, it is like irrigating nutrient water for grass again, and grass will naturally gradually forget and abandon the poisonous water.
Give children high-quality company is the greatest respect for children's childhood.
Second point: Pre-game agreement
At the beginning, the child still wanted to play games, so the father made a "pre-game agreement" with the child.
For example, if the homework is completed and all are correct and you can only play the game;
For example, if you play at most one game a day, you can play 2 games on weekends.
Make these agreements for the child before the game, and it is that let the child know that in addition to the game, you have many more important things. You can rest, but you also have to be self-disciplined.
Third point: High-quality game
This point is ignored by many parents.
I didn’t want my children to play games, and I still let them play games with high quality?
In fact, the birth, algorithms, rules, etc. of a game are still very complicated. If the child just plays lightly, it will be a waste. But if you take your children to calculate the positioning and study the game design, then this is a kind of sublimation.
No matter what you play or watch, the ultimate goal of parents is to drive their children to think, rather than continue like this in a daze.
Just like on weekdays, parents take their children to watch TV, but their children may not want to watch documentaries and other real movies, but just want to watch some soap operas, online dramas, etc.
Instead of stopping, parents should watch it with their children, and then discuss the plot with their children while talking to them about their views, emotional intelligence, behavior, deep meaning behind the drama, etc. Only and other things are conducive to the growth of children.
Message
Generally speaking, children cannot grow up casually. Even if your body grows up, what about your psychology?
As parents, we cannot only see the "bad habits" on our children's surface, but we must look at the causes behind this bad habit. Only by giving children high-quality and effective companionship and teaching children according to their aptitude can children grow up healthily!
