Hello everyone, I am family education instructor Guo's mother ~
When you see your child drawing a family of three, will the old father and mother feel very happy?
But this father was furious.
1 The boy created "Happy Family", and the father was furious after hearing the explanation.
The little boy was drawing. When the father saw it, he pulled his son's head away to see what his son was drawing. The painting the boy is creating is called "Happy Family".
After the father saw it, he pointed to the three little people in the painting very confidently and said: "Oh, these are dad, mom, and you, right."
Unexpectedly, the son shook his head and said: "No, these are me and my wife and our children!"
The father was confused: "What about father and mother?"
The son calmly pointed to a pile of small mounds next to the big tree. There was no doubt that this was the grave, and there were two tombstones in front of the grave, which obviously belonged to 's father and mother .
After hearing his son’s explanation, the father was really angry! This son is only a few years old and he has already dug his own grave!
Comments from netizens hit the essence everywhere:
This is not "A Happy Family", this is "A Visit to the Graves during the Qingming Festival";
This child is very filial and knows how to take his wife and children to visit his parents with chrysanthemums in hand;
This is not very good, at least he buried his parents together and did not separate them...
Netizens have already imagined a drama about filial sons.
Just, why do children draw graves for their parents? Don’t you like your parents, or do you have a whim after visiting someone’s grave?
There are many reasons, but one thing we have to admit is: children’s imagination is really too big! Sometimes, we are unable to keep up with our children's thinking, or we cannot understand many of their children's thinking.
2 How big is a child’s brain?
How big is a child’s brain?
Probably, it is as big as a black hole in the universe!
Why children have so big brains? Perhaps it’s because children have “three brains”.
First of all, children have the reptilian brain , which is the original basic brain, mainly responsible for thinking about instinctive behaviors and functions related to survival, such as hunger, breathing, cold and warm, balance, etc.;
Secondly, there is the lactation brain , which is the emotional brain, which can control the child's complex emotions. and emotional activities, such as separation anxiety , fear, play, happiness, etc.;
Finally, there is the reasoning brain , which is our high-end human brain, occupying 85% of our brain, surrounding and governing the reptilian brain and lactation brain mentioned earlier, and is mainly responsible for creativity, imagination, reasoning ability, empathy, self-awareness, etc. The development of these three brains
is closely related to the child's age, life experience, family education, etc. and is gradually established.
The reptilian brain and the suckling brain were the first to be established and are relatively mature. When the child's language center develops to a certain level, the child's reasoning brain will begin to develop rapidly and develop self-awareness.
After about 3 years old, children's creativity and imagination are in the process of developing together with themselves and reality. There will be many ideas and ideas that we adults can't think of.
Therefore, this little boy’s “Qingming Tomb Visiting Picture” is not surprising.
I remember when our family held sacrifices during the Qingming Festival, Pistachio thought the grave was just a small mound and wanted to run up and down to play. After that, we explained to her what it was, and Pistachio's "imagination" immediately came to her mind: When grandpa also lives in it in the future, I will definitely plant beautiful flowers in grandpa's little earthen house.
Grandpa was confused when he heard this. The old man was a little unhappy but he couldn’t blame the child. After all, children’s words are unbridled. he could only say: Thank you, your idea is great, so don’t think about it anymore!
3 Children’s brains need to be listened to.
Why are some children very imaginative, while others have very conventional ideas? Is the latter because he is sensible? No, it's because they became sensible too early.
Children’s imagination needs to be listened to by their parents to grow bigger and bigger.
Parents can choose to believe in some of their children's imagination, communicate with their children, arrange the scene into the child's imaginary world, and "act out the real thing" with their children.
In this arranged world, if it is the way in the child's mind, the child will explain to the parents in detail the specific thoughts and world in his mind. As parents, we can understand the child's inner world. In the child's description, we can enjoy an auditory feast.
This process is actually adding more elements and filling more colors into the children's imagination.
Not only can children open up their imaginations, as "listeners" parents can also become "participants" to participate in their children's imaginative world.
For example, in the world of children's imagination, there are mountains and water, but no green plants. We can tell the children that there is a big forest not far away...
For example, in the world of children's imagination, there are universes, spaceships and aliens. We can mention Wake up the child, there is food and drink in the aircraft, how to save it...
Every time a parent adds something, if the child agrees, it will make the child's imagination more and more complete. If the child does not agree, then it is okay to follow the child's ideas. Our main purpose is to allow children to connect with reality in the space of imagination.
is an idea, not a whim!
's message
is that as our children grow up together, we will find that life is really amazing. When the time comes, we will thank our children for taking us into his mind and allowing us to see a fantasy, different and interesting world! This wonderful energy only lasts a few years in this life, so you must cherish it!
