In the minds of many of us, giving birth to a child is a very important thing for the expectant mother and even the entire family. However, there is such a piece of news on the Internet that has aroused everyone's heated discussion. Xiao Qing, a junior girl from a university in J

In the minds of many of us, giving birth to a child is a very important thing for the expectant mother and even the entire family.

However, there is such a piece of news on the Internet that has aroused everyone's heated discussion.

Xiao Qing, a junior girl from a university in Jingzhou, Hubei Province, was preparing for exams at school near the end of the semester. Perhaps due to the pressure of study, she gave birth to her baby in the dormitory one month earlier than the expected date of delivery!

During lunch break one day, Xiaoqing suddenly felt unbearable abdominal pain, so her roommates quickly called the 120 emergency center, but the ambulance could not arrive in time due to traffic jams.

With the help of her roommates, Xiaoqing gave birth to a nine-pound baby boy in the dormitory.

Later, this incident was posted on the Internet, causing heated discussions among netizens.

While everyone was shocked, Xiaoqing’s roommates were very calm. They said: This is not her first child!

It turns out that Xiaoqing had given birth to her first child as early as her sophomore year in college and left it to the care of her husband's parents.

Although Xiaoqing has reached the legal age of marriage, getting married and having children while in college is still likely to cause controversy.

Some netizens said: Although it is legal for college students to have children, there are many issues that need to be considered.

For example, school is a place for learning. Will getting pregnant and having a baby during college delay your studies? With no job or income during college, the pressure of getting married and raising children ultimately falls on both parents. Can both parents bear it?

As some colleges and universities have introduced the policy of adding credits to marriage certificates and , many students choose to get the certificates to get married and even have children while studying. When

attended the graduation ceremony, holding a marriage certificate and a graduation certificate in one hand, with her husband and baby in hand, it seemed to be a sight to see.

But is this phenomenon really a good thing?

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In early June 2016, Jiejie, a sophomore girl, passed away forever with regret.

"On June 1st, my daughter was video chatting with me on WeChat. During the video, she turned her body back and forth and asked me if she had gained weight."

When Jiejie's mother talked about her daughter who died young, she couldn't help but feel sad. She had no idea about her pregnancy and childbirth. My daughter Jiejie was just 20 years old. She was as young as a flower and had not fully experienced the world. It was so painful to leave like this.

Afterwards, Jiejie’s mother found out that Jiejie had given birth to a baby boy weighing 6 pounds and 4 ounces at full term in the dormitory of the internship school as early as May 17. During the whole birth process, only Jiejie and Jiejie were born. My roommate helped deliver the baby.

After the child was born, Jiejie’s boyfriend Xiaofeng took her and the child to the hospital. The examination at that time showed that everything was normal with the child. But Jiejie did not rest at home for confinement like other mothers, but went back to school that afternoon to continue her classes.

Seeing that Jiejie's condition was getting worse and worse, Xiaofeng, who could no longer hide it, notified both parents at this time. When Jiejie's mother rushed to the hospital, Jiejie had already fallen into a coma.

"Everything in this world is accomplished by hope. A farmer will not sow a grain of corn if he does not hope that it will grow into a seed... A bachelor will not marry a wife if he does not hope to have children..."

This is Jiejie wrote a paragraph on the title page of the novel "Muslim Funeral ", but she is now lying in the cold morgue, ending the love she once pursued with tragedy.

Hidden pregnancy, gave birth in the dormitory, delivered the baby with roommates, and went to class as usual after giving birth. Everything sounds weird to us, but it actually happened and ended in tragedy. What a pity.

Han Chuang studied hard for ten years and was admitted to college, which was the beginning of a wonderful life, but he lost his life because of a child who was born prematurely.

It is precisely because of her youth that she was at a loss when faced with this sudden arrival of a little life. When faced with a dilemma that was beyond her ability to solve, she only thought of covering up and concealing it, without talking to her parents or asking her teacher for help. How sad. ! Tragedies like

are not unique.

One early morning in March 2016, Xiao Li, a 19-year-old girl from a university in Shandong, was found dead on the balcony of the school dormitory. Next to her was her newborn child, who was also not breathing. It was later found out that Xiao Li died of postpartum hemorrhage.

No one knows what kind of pain and struggle Xiao Li went through before he passed away. At the same age as a flower, he withered in the cold morning, and the father of the child never showed up.

In December 2020, a freshman girl from a university in Guangxi secretly gave birth to a baby in the dormitory in the middle of the night. Due to extreme fear and fear of the huge pressure she was about to suffer, she covered the baby's mouth and nose with her own hands, causing her to suffocate and die secretly. He hid it in a locker in the dormitory and was later discovered by his roommate who called the police. Only then did the incident become known to everyone.

An immature freshman girl gave birth to a child without telling her parents, classmates, and teachers. She did not consider her responsibilities and future at all. She panicked and made a wrong decision that she would regret for the rest of her life.

Examples are before us. Is it really a good thing to choose to have children when we are still mentally immature students?

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There is such a topic on Zhihu:

# Married and had children in college. Are you still happy now that you married young? #

Under this topic, some people talked about their happy life, while others were tired of life. They tried their best to advise everyone not to be impulsive.

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Although it is said that as long as you meet the right person, getting married is not a matter of sooner or later, but the premise is that the person concerned has a mature enough mind and has detailed plans and thinking about the future life. No matter what you do, No matter what decision you make, you can be responsible for your own actions.

But when you have no material foundation at all, your thoughts are not mature enough, and you only have a passionate heart and an immature face, is it really okay to get married and have children in college?

From ancient times to the present, in the eyes of Chinese people, starting a family and establishing a career are an important part of life, but marriage has never been as simple as getting a certificate or hosting a banquet. More importantly, it means that both people need to bear an extra burden. A heavy responsibility.

If you choose to get married hastily when you are mentally immature, you may end up getting divorced quickly.

In general, the relationship during college is relatively pure, but without experiencing the temper of society, such a marriage is not strong enough. When the halo of love is worn away by daily life, isn’t what is left just a piece of chicken feathers?

There is no financial basis, and it is difficult to maintain a marriage.

Students in college basically have no source of income. The expenses for marriage and childbirth require the support of both parents. Parents not only have to raise "older children" but also "younger children". The financial pressure is so great!

It is difficult to maintain a marriage, and it is even more difficult to raise children.

For college students, it will be difficult to make up for the precious study time invested in raising children. Especially for mothers of children, at the age when they should be studying, are they psychologically prepared to get caught up in the trivial matters of life such as giving birth to children, raising children, and dealing with the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law too early?

For the father of the child, is he already capable of taking on the responsibility of a family? Can we be responsible for ourselves when the future development is not yet clear? Give a better life to the little lives that just came into this world?

There are many meaningful things to do in life. Marriage is just an option in life. Making the right choice at the right time is what we should do.