2022 is quickly coming to an end and it has been a tumultuous year with a lot going on. The popularity of the video "Returning to the Village for Three Days, My Second Uncle Reduces My Mental Internal Consumption" has made people realize that "spiritual internal consumption" is n

2025/10/2211:50:37 psychological 1704

022 is coming to an end. It has been a turbulent year with a lot of things happening.

No matter what, everyone has worked hard this year!

We specially selected 7 annual psychological keywords from this year's articles to capture people's emotional changes.

Let us now look back on the past year through these keywords ~

01 7 Little Things to Reduce "Spiritual Internal Consumption" (There is no second uncle version)

The video "Returning to the Village for Three Days, Second Uncle Reduces My Mental Internal Consumption" has been popular, making people realize that "spiritual internal consumption" is no longer just a personal feeling, but has upgraded to the mood of the times to some extent.

Image source: up Lord @伊哥guess

Thinking is originally the most wonderful function of the brain. It helps us understand and understand the world and creates human civilization. But overthinking, which leads to mental exhaustion, is different— it involves dwelling on a problem, obsessing about how bad you feel, and thinking about all the things you can’t control, and it won’t help you develop new insights. How does

cope with mental internal friction? Try these 7 little things 👇

◍ Be aware of your negative thoughts and distance yourself from them

◍ Come back to the present, come back to the present moment

◍ Get a piece of paper and write down your "fear"

◍ Focus on what you can control

◍ Treat yourself as your friend (learn self-compassion)

◍ Use action to interrupt thinking

◍ Give yourself a special time for "overthinking"

Thinking and emotions are like ocean waves, ups and downs, continuous, and we may never be able to control it. But as Joe Kabat-Zinn, the founder of mindfulness-based stress reduction therapy, said: "You can't calm the waves, but you can learn to surf ."

hopes that everyone can successfully navigate the ups and downs of life and get along well with their true selves.

02 "Relaxation" comes from giving yourself permission

In August 2022, a popular Weibo post triggered a national discussion on "relaxation": a family went on a plane trip, and unexpectedly caused all their luggage to be returned. However, they still behaved calmly and did not affect the mood of the trip at all, which aroused the envy of onlookers.

Image source: Weibo blogger @黑猫白 socks

People yearn for relaxation, probably because it is so difficult to relax in a world full of performance, social clocks, uncertainty, and other people’s opinions.

We have launched a solicitation for everyone: What behavior of a person will make you feel that he or she is relaxed? 👇

◍ You will not forcefully answer conversations/find topics for "fear of embarrassment", allows silence. (@mungbean)

◍ dares to admit its weakness. dares to admit that it cannot do well. (@凯)

◍ is not hostile to anyone. rarely uses rhetorical questions, but uses declarative sentences to solve problems. (@daidaicat)

◍ On the streets abroad, there are often girls with less than perfect figures wearing suspenders and leggings. They don’t shy away from their fat, they are generous and walk in the sun with their heads held high. Their complete acceptance of their own imperfections and the gaze of others makes me feel very relaxed. (@Alyssa L)

◍ Move your body freely. One evening, when I walked out of the corridor with my friend, we were faced with a gust of wind. She said it was so cool and pulled her skirt around in a circle. is very charming when it can get along with the body freely. hopes that everyone can dance. (@王王)

▷ "Camping Alone"
When we are attracted by a person's "relaxed" behavior, perhaps what really attracts us is their inner state: such as understanding their own limitations, allowing for uncertainty in the outside world, and building a safe psychological base for themselves... This inner state is related to nature and growth experience, as well as experience and time.

Therefore, what we can do may be to practice allowing ourselves in a world full of uncertainty, which of course also includes "allowing ourselves to be nervous - not so relaxed yet."

03 Young people who "mentally quit" want to draw a clear line with bullshit jobs.

"Mental resignation" is a popular workplace slang on the Internet in 2022. It probably means that there are some such workers:

◍ Although they did not leave their jobs directly, they gave up the idea of "doubling their progress".

◍ They have little interest in promotion and salary increase, and refuse to make work the only focus of their lives. They reject the expectation of “infinitely surpassing themselves” and certainly never pretend to work overtime.

◍ Their core proposition is: get the job done with minimal self-expense. Try not to reply to non-urgent messages (or emails) outside of working hours to ensure that your personal time is not intruded upon.

▷ "I, get off work on time"

has become a cultural phenomenon worthy of attention, partly because it accurately describes how people feel at the moment.

For example, in uncertain times, it might be an alternative to quitting: this is as much as I can give to this (bullshit) job. "Mental resignation" is a kind of self-protection in the face of burnout and stress, and it is a necessary behavior to draw boundaries for relationships - young people are paying more and more attention to their mental health.

or These people have put in a lot of effort at work, but lacked real trust, appreciation or reward. This may cause them to feel frustrated and experience mental withdrawal, which may manifest as "mental resignation" in their behavior.

Stopping and thinking about the motivations of our actions can help us take back the initiative in our work.

Behind "emotional value": the desire to be seen, responded to, and accepted in relationships

"Emotional value" has become an important criterion for contemporary people to fall in love and make friends. In the past year, "emotional value" has been a hot word that frequently appears on Weibo hot searches and Douban groups. People will break up with a person because they cannot provide emotional value, and they will also quickly develop a liking for a person because they feel the emotional value.

We have launched a solicitation for everyone: What behaviors of a person make you feel that they have great emotional value?

When this word is explained concretely, we find that behind the emotional value, there are actually "emotional needs": We long to be seen, responded to, and accepted in relationships, especially when negative emotions appear.

For example -

◍ Listen! is the kind that shows from the eyes to the expression that the person is listening carefully, and will interject something at the appropriate time, but not to interrupt you, but to encourage you to continue talking, and not to play with the mobile phone during the conversation. (@婷士教)

◍ responds to everything. such as "I ate barbecued pork rice today! Invincible smell" "Eat! Eat a big mouthful". I really like the feeling of being responded to by another person for such trivial things in life. (@lan)

◍ People with stable emotions can best provide emotional value! ’s boyfriend is a very self-consistent person. When he encounters something unhappy, he will just say, “This makes me unhappy, how can I solve it?” In contrast, I express my feelings by losing my temper, being cold, violent, and weird, and he will also tell me very gently that I can’t do this. A good lover can really cure my awkwardness. (@包)

◍ is a person who can hold the other person in the relationship. For example, when both parties are emotional, one party starts to attack, but the other party does not fight back with the same attack, but expresses it in a relatively calm, objective, and factual way. This approach also allows the offending party to calm down quickly, allowing the relationship to be protected rather than continue to deteriorate. (@ Ziphan)

◍ Others have said things that you yourself cannot see, have the ability or courage to say. For example, when you are confused and confused, can discover your underlying needs and desires in the language you are talking about, or the song the other person recommends to you can just reflect your mood at that time. The feeling of being understood and seen has great emotional value.(@qiyue)

▷ "Flower and Alice"

hopes that you will cherish the "emotional value" of yourself and others, and build more and more two-way and positive emotional interactions around you.

05 I stayed up for several late nights playing sheep: What is a "guilty pleasure"?

Are you still playing "sheep makes a sheep"?

There is no doubt that this is the most discussed mini-game in China in 2022. During the most popular period, my friend Xiao Liu stayed up several late nights in a row, and then fell into self-blame: "Am I too depraved?"

Image source: "Sheep Got a Sheep" game interface

In fact, we often long for a little bit of this "guilty happiness" and "worthless indulgence". Psychology describes this phenomenon as "guilty pleasure".

The very existence of "guilty pleasure" seems to deny the legitimacy of "relaxation" and attempts to score different ways of relaxation.

But in fact, our specific emotional needs are often hidden behind our guilty pleasures.

Playing games, eating cakes, reading pulp novels... There may be a more authentic need among these behaviors: such as the person you once aspired to be, unsatisfied willfulness, some experiences of self-growth, and connections between people.

The next time guilt creeps into pleasure, maybe we shouldn't ignore or internalize it, but look it in the face: I know why you're here, old friend. Thank you for giving me the opportunity to learn about myself and remind me that my needs matter.

If a pulp novel or two hours of puzzle games would make your current life easier, then enjoy it (without feeling guilty) .

The important criterion for choosing a marriage partner is the ability to divorce well: be careful of "breakup abuse"

If the 2022 annual entertainment news is selected, the divorce dispute between Da S and Wang Xiaofei will definitely be on the list.

After an intimate relationship ends, your former lover may become "terrible" - constantly harassing, smearing, and dragging you into the water again.

▷Big S Studio’s response to the ex-husband

This may trigger some people’s memories of their horrible ex. "Breakup Abuse" describes this phenomenon - refers to the physical or psychological violence that your ex performed on you after the breakup.

For example -

◍ repeatedly tries to violate your boundaries. You have clearly expressed your intention to end the relationship, but the other party ignores your feelings; interferes with your normal work life; violates the commitment you made.

◍ The other party usually shows strong emotions, sometimes it is hatred, sometimes it is a "romantic gesture" .

◍ uses digital tools (social media, etc.) to inflict violence. denigrates an ex on social media (this works especially well if the ex is a celebrity); engages in ongoing harassment with text messages, social media messages, etc.; stalks through online targeting; requests for nude photos or threatens to share them.

◍ Physical violence. In addition to direct physical violence in , some indirect behaviors, such as destroying your property and taking away your children, are also a type of violence.

In short, trust your instincts. If you are afraid of your ex and find yourself like a hostage under this person's entanglement. At this time, "abuse" may have occurred.

▷ Being rich and famous is not immune. The famous comedian Trevor Noah once commented that Kim Kardashian was harassed by her ex.

Any relationship that cannot be freely left is not "love", but a "prison".

This reminds us that Perhaps the most important criterion for choosing a marriage partner is the ability to divorce well.

07 My "Political Depression" During the Epidemic

This year, the epidemic has experienced twists and turns. We frequently read the news, care about epidemic prevention policies, and what medicine we should take when we have an erection... falling into emotions of worry, disappointment, grievance, and even anger.

In this regard, " political depression (political depression)" defined by psychologist Robert Lusson seems to accurately describe how we feel about each other at the moment - a kind of "personal level powerlessness and frustration" that people are prone to feel under various uncertainties such as "epidemic, isolation, livelihood" and so on.

▷ "South Park"

Episodes of political depression may precede, trigger, or exacerbate an existing depressive state. "Patients" experience depressed or irritable moods most of the day, and have thoughts or feelings of sadness, emptiness, and hopelessness, which may cause significant distress or obstruction to social, occupational, or other important functional areas.

On the basis of depression , political depression has another important manifestation: individuals feel that they actually cannot control their destiny.

For example: "Is there any use in trying hard? Nothing can be changed anyway"; "I dare not hold out hope, the worst will definitely happen".

Once people have this understanding, people will feel that work, education, and imagination are irrelevant, and that there is an upper limit to a person's possibilities.

The epidemic has been going on for three years. In fact, any mammal exposed to stressors for a long time will develop Pavlovian fear.

However, fortunately, the light of day has emerged and daily life is slowly recovering (several friends are already preparing to go to Sanya for the New Year✈️).

Picture source: Financial blogger @ Beast Ye

But the inner psychological adjustment may take longer. Don't rush to "return to normal", give yourself more patience.

(PS: When you feel that "depressive symptoms" are overwhelming, have lasted for a long time, or are beyond your control, please seek help from a professional organization as soon as possible.)

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