I am Weicheng Chaoyu, expressing my attitude towards life in words.
Emotional transfer law: Be careful, bad emotions can be contagious, a bad mood "flu" of the mind.
In life, our bad mood is like the flu, and if it is not controlled, it will continue to spread. The interesting story below is a good proof.
Mr. Wang is the general manager of a private company. He is very strict in management of the company and can set an example. He arrives early and leaves late every day. Unexpectedly, one morning, Mr. Wang was so fascinated by the newspaper that he went out late. He hurriedly drove, ran a red light, and happened to be caught by the police, and his driver's license was detained.
was late for work, but unexpectedly he was deducted his driver's license. Mr. Wang was immediately furious. When I returned to the office, I happened to meet the project manager who came to report to him. He asked unhappily: "Have the project been finalized last week?" The project manager told him that it had not yet. He suddenly shouted, "I have paid you 7 years' salary. Now we finally have a chance to do a big business, but you blew it! If you don't fight back that project, don't think you can step into the company again!"
project manager returned to his office with dissatisfaction and thought to himself: "I have sold my power for the company for 7 years, and your Manager Wang is just a puppet. Now, just because I lost a project, I'm intimidating and firing me. It's too much!" As soon as the secretary came to him to sign, he immediately asked the secretary: "Have the 5 letters I gave you this morning?" The secretary replied, "Not yet. I..." He immediately caught fire and accused him, "Don't make any excuses, I want you to write these letters quickly. Although you have been here for 3 years, it doesn't mean you will be hired all the time!"
secret Shu returned to his seat angrily and thought to himself, "I'm sick! For three years, I have been working very hard and often work overtime. Now, because I can't do two things at the same time, I'm intimidating and dismissing me. It's so bullying!"
Secretary came home from get off work and saw his 9-year-old son playing games leisurely. He immediately shouted: "How many times do I tell you, you have to study hard, and hurry back to the room to read books!"
The son returned to his room and thought to himself, "It's too much for mom to get so angry at me as soon as he got home!" At this time, his favorite puppy came over, but he kicked the puppy hard without saying a word: "Get out of here!"
Puppy ran out of the door in pain, rushed out of the door like crazy, and bit a person - the man happened to be General Manager Wang who passed by here.
Incredible , Mr. Wang's negative emotions were transmitted through a long chain, through different characters, and finally came back to harm himself. In psychology, this phenomenon is summarized as the law of emotional transfer, which means that if a person's bad emotions are not properly vented, they will be transferred to other people and things, which is a phenomenon of emotional spread.
In fact, such emotional transfer is not uncommon in life. Once a person's bad emotions cannot be properly vented and relieved, he will often find a punching bag to transfer his emotions to others, and sometimes even unconsciously, it is difficult for him to control himself. But no matter what, it is wrong to vent others and is unfair to others.
There is an old Chinese saying, "Do not do to others what you do not want others to do to you." Just like we don't want others to treat ourselves as a punching bag, we should also appropriately restrain our emotions and not treat others as our punching bag.
Since no one wants to be a blowjob, what should we do when we encounter bad emotions?
The answer is very simple. We must learn how to adjust our emotions, reverse bad emotions in time, and avoid its spread. Below, let's take a look at an example like this:
One day, a wealthy lady drove to a jewelry store, approached the counter, and started to choose a diamond necklace. At this time, a man pushed the door and walked into the jewelry store and came to choose jewelry. However, the man accidentally stepped on the lady's foot.Seeing that the man did not express any apology, the woman accused angrily: "Have you learned the word 'polite' to grow up so old?" When the man saw the woman get angry, he casually said, "I'm sorry, okay, okay," and then muttered to himself, "It's so boring." The lady felt that she had been insulted, so she slammed the door and left, and said, "I don't have quality!"
was inexplicably stepped on and was uttered by others. The lady was very angry. Unexpectedly, on the way home, I happened to encounter a traffic jam, and the lady became even more annoyed. "Where do you get so many broken cars? These stinky drivers can't drive. That guy drives so fast, it's a waste of time. This guy's level is too bad, how can he learn how to learn a car?..." The lady began to murmur.
Not long after driving the car, I arrived at an intersection again. She met a large truck that slowed down first, and then the driver stretched out his head to signal her to pass first, with a friendly smile on his face.
Somehow, the lady's unhappiness disappeared all of a sudden...
didn't expect that just a little humility and a sincere smile could bring happiness to others and let bad emotions end and spread.
In life, we must know how to forgive others. Moreover, when others are not friendly to us, they may not be really malicious to us. Perhaps it is because he encounters an angry thing and unknowingly expels anger on us. We don’t need to be petty for such people, as tolerant is often easier to solve problems.
At the same time, as Fang Yue said in the poem, "There are always eight or nine things that are not satisfactory, but they can speak with others." In society, people will inevitably encounter some unsatisfactory things, and we must learn to relieve bad emotions.
On the one hand, you can consciously divert your attention. When you encounter setbacks, feel depressed and troubled, and your emotions are at a low point, temporarily put aside the troubles in front of you, and stop thinking about the things that cause depression and troubles, and turn your attention to activities and topics that you are more interested in. Recalling more the happiest and most pleasant things you feel to dilute or forget your worries, thereby turning negative emotions into positive emotions.
On the other hand, you can consciously convert the environment. Such as going out for a walk, traveling, changing places of residence, etc. In this way, negative psychological emotions can be diluted and alleviated through the new environment.
can be seen that a wise life requires peace of "not being happy with things, not being sad with oneself". We must keep our downfall everywhere, be impatient when we are in adversity, and be calm as if we are calm. We must also keep a loneliness, endure a loneliness, and not follow the trend. You still have to make your own decisions about your own emotions.
Author of this article: Chaoyu, a writer who keeps walking, has been on the road.
