Although it seems that we are all at different psychological ages now, looking back, our starting point is actually the same, both starting from the "fetal stage" and also going through a naive and lively stage. The difference is that everyone stays at a certain stage for different lengths, which leads to different "psychological age" levels.
For those children who have not been raised by their parents since childhood, generally speaking, they are relatively old in their mental age. Because they need to do everything themselves, they are even busier in front of others. It is precisely because of this that they have developed their independent personality and way of doing things. It is precisely because of the development of such a way of dealing with things that such people have a great advantage in career success rate. Generally, people who can do things are more likely to succeed.
Of course, what I mean here is not just about life customs, but about all aspects that can be involved. In this regard, people who open up independent thinking systems when encountering problems will give people a feeling of calm thinking and taking the overall situation into consideration.
Of course, people who think about the system do not refer to one-way thinking, but to find all the necessary factors that affect success, and slowly take these factors step by step in life. After these conditions are met in reality, success will only be a natural development.
Of course, in real life, many people only see the good side of people with older mental age, and often ignore the side of struggling at the stuttering point of things. But generally speaking, when those mentally older people talk and joke with others, they do not directly say how troublesome and difficult they are when encountering things, but how they view and deal with things at the stop. This is also one of their practices that reflects their mature side in dealing with things.
As mentioned above, psychological mature people will think deeper when encountering things, and carefully pass on the past, cause and effect of the development of things, and then make the choice afterwards. Perhaps in life, the words they blurt out are all words full of multiple thinking. He takes into account the problems or obstacles you encounter and makes a decision that seems very emotional to outsiders. In fact, he knows best that the most reasonable decision you can make at present.
For example, when ordinary people encounter problems, their routine reaction is "What should I do?", while mature mental people will filter at least three or more problems, namely "Why does this happen?", "What are the factors that cause this happening to cause things to happen", "How can I make the most appropriate choice within my control?"
You see, the difference between ordinary people and mature people is here. The perspectives and choices of thinking are completely different for the same problem encountered. This also involves a knowledge point in the articles I wrote before (if I don’t understand these problems, it is more difficult to keep getting up early and reading continuously than climbing to the sky!): Defining the problem.
This is also a common thinking point for mature people in mentally. After encountering something, choosing how to define the problem will determine what differences you have in the direction of the outcome of the matter.
For example, a problem that everyone encountered before: seeing others get up at 5 o'clock every day to learn running, and they are very self-disciplined. You also want to be so self-disciplined, so the first thought that pops up in your mind is: How can I get up early? But many people don’t think too much about it: Why did I choose to get up early for? Judging from my current situation, is it really suitable or really necessary to get up early? Can I use other times to replace the early time to learn running? What is the driving force for me to learn to run? ...
The former seems to be solving the problem, but in fact it is just solving the superficial problems and not solving the internal mechanism problems. In our usual words, it is "When encountering problems, seeking outside, and no matter how you go, it is a detour; when encountering problems, seeking inside, and no matter how you go, it is a relief!"
summarized that older people tend to solve their inner problems and have hardly stayed on the surface of the problem.This also prompts the problems they encounter to be solved so naturally in the eyes of outsiders.
If you can really do it in Bridgewater Fund , the book "Hibern's Principle " written by Rui Dalio, and the famous psychological counselor Scott Parker, your psychological age must be over 100 years old.
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