Since the epidemic was released, it has gradually disrupted our lives and caused us to suffer psychological and spiritual disturbances and delusions. There are more and more yang symptoms, and they cannot be grasped and controlled. People around me are all "yang". My symptoms are the same as theirs. Are they also "yang", or do I have a cold? I don't know, and I spend my whole day in fear and panic. So, while listening to the experts, looking for folk prescriptions, and stocking up on medicines, I was at a loss for what to do.
After most people get sick, there may always be some people who will develop delusional disorder . This has nothing to do with the disease itself, but has something to do with the chain reaction of the disease. Such as not being able to buy medicine, anxiety, confusion, fear, especially middle-aged men and women, who are both old and young, are helpless when facing the elderly or children at home who are "yang", and the feeling of living like a year. As a middle-aged person, I deeply understand and understand: psychological suffering is far more direct and painful than physical pain. Life is actually short for everyone, and we don’t want to leave any regrets. The three-year epidemic has allowed us to see the warmth, darkness, good and evil, beauty and ugliness of this world, and has allowed us to see the absurdity, struggle, human heart, and confusion of this world. As a psychological counselor, what I want to tell you is: facing life with positivity and optimism is the attitude and way you should have, not negativity and decline, nor belittle and discouraged, nor hatred and abuse.
When I wrote this, I suddenly remembered "The True Story of Ah Q" written by Mr. Lu Xun. When Ah Q suffered a loss in a fight, he thought to himself: "I was finally beaten by my son. The world is really not good now. My son actually started beating me." So he went back as if he had won a victory. Although the Chinese people's spiritual victory method was invented very early, later on when they failed to deal with aliens, this method was fully utilized. Since Mr. Lu Xun published "The True Story of Ah Q", we have known a term called "Ah Q Spirit", and at that time another new term appeared in the Chinese psychology circle - the psychology of spiritual victory (also called the method of spiritual victory). Therefore, when we face the epidemic, we also have this kind of spiritual victory mentality. Although we are "yang" physically, we must be "yin" spiritually. At any time, each of us must have this kind of spiritual victory mentality.
However, it is undeniable that the bad habits of our people are universal, and there are ten main points: 1. Onlooker mentality, 2. Passer-by mentality, 3. Official position mentality, 4. Doggy mentality, 5. Herd mentality, 6. Exception mentality, 7. Slavish mentality, 8. Snobbish mentality, 9. Nice words mentality, 10. Nostalgia mentality. There are all kinds of bad traits, and there are probably these ten kinds of bad habits. Of course, I would like to add one more thing here: expert psychology. Especially when we are faced with indecision, the guidance of experts is particularly important. In fact, in my opinion, the psychology of experts is actually the psychology of dependence. It seems that only what experts say is right, but in fact we must know that we do not listen to experts when it comes to illness. There is no denying the importance of experts, but simply listening to experts may not necessarily solve the problem fundamentally. Three years of epidemics have shown us that sometimes experts may not be reliable. As for the first ten bad qualities I just talked about, I won’t expand on them one by one. You can also understand them literally. Only after we experience or experience many things, we will find that we can “self-heal”, but many of us have not escaped the psychological, physical, and spiritual torture before “self-healing”. Sometimes, what can save you is not necessarily good medicine, but inner richness and fulfillment.
The peak of new coronavirus infections is approaching day by day. According to digital model predictions and expert assessments, the number of Dongguan infected people is growing at a scale of 250,000 to 300,000 per day, and the growth rate is getting faster and faster. Many medical institutions and medical staff are facing unprecedented severe challenges and tremendous pressure.There is a statistic that has never been released to the public before: As of December 22, there were 2,528 medical staff in public hospitals and social health institutions in the city who persisted in working even though they were positive for COVID-19 nucleic acid or antigen, or had fever (body temperature ≥37.5°C). I understand the difficulty for medical staff, and I also understand the difficulty for patients. During the upcoming Spring Festival, there may be a new scale of growth. Faced with the rapidly growing number of " positive " patients, and the shortage of " ibuprofen , Motrin, antigen " and other drugs, on the one hand, we must do a good job in personal protection, and on the other hand, there must be supervision in the market. At the same time, we believe that relevant departments will adhere to the principle of "people first, life first". And these eight words are by no means empty words, but we must believe that the relevant departments will truly "always put the safety and health of the people first." Accepting or facing optimistically, accepting what should be accepted, and facing what should be faced, is the attitude and method that each of us should have.
Having Yang is not terrible. What is terrible is that after having Yang, one attributes the responsibility to a certain aspect or a certain person, but fails to truly understand that this is not a problem of a certain aspect or a certain person. Many times, after people become ill, they will develop a mentality of worrying about gains and losses, and their emotions will drop below freezing point. We can see from Douyin that after someone becomes masculine, the relevant family members, friends, couples, children, and parents behave differently. Some keep a respectful distance, some show great concern, and some don't care. Many times, we are not afraid of the sun, but we are afraid of "scare the sun". Talking about the psychology of yang color change, it is time to reflect on it. The yang color is not terrible, what is terrible is the human heart.
Since the outbreak of the epidemic, we have been inseparable from the word "grab" in the past three years. At the beginning, when the city was closed, I was worried about what to eat. During the home quarantine, the usually bustling markets suddenly became deserted. There were no vegetables at home, and the most popular thing at that time was "vegetables." Three years have passed, and today we are still "stealing". What are we robbing? Cold medicine, fever medicine. The word "rob" summarizes the past three years of the epidemic, the word "rob" contains the suffering of the world, and the word "rob" reveals the bad nature of people. Panic buying has become a morbid psychology after being positive. In the final analysis, many people are not sick physically, but in their hearts. We are not afraid of the sun, what we are afraid of is "robbing", the human heart, and our sudden loss of the warmth of this world.
Marx said: "When the profit reaches 10%, some people are ready to take action; when the profit reaches 50%, some people dare to take risks; when the profit reaches 100%, they dare to practice Violate all laws in the world; and when the profit reaches 300%, we are not even afraid of going to the gallows. Perhaps this is our biggest psychological dilemma after becoming masculine. To use Mr. Lu Xun's famous saying, many people in the world deserve to die, but many people do not. He shouldn't have died, but he did. No matter what happens to us in the end, this process is cruel and merciless. What many of us are afraid of is not the result, but the process. I hope that after becoming masculine, we can still face life with a smile, face this society that makes us love and hate, face this society that makes us laugh and curse.
Sickness in the heart can be cured, but a broken heart cannot be cured. No matter how this society changes, we will always With a heart of expectation, a heart of gratitude, and a calm heart, you should warm others, illuminate others, and change others. The meaning and value of life does not lie in how long we live, but in what we do in the process of living? Although each of us is unknown, after all, everyone's existence must have value and meaning. We don’t need to carry too much baggage, and we don’t need to care about other people’s opinions. Being ourselves is the most praiseworthy thing after we become masculine.
Finally, let me sum up my article today in one sentence. This sentence is: I hope that people in the world are not sick, and I would rather put medicine on the shelf to create dust. Winter is here, can spring be far behind? Let’s meet next spring! ! !
