Lesson 2
Psychological nutrition Unconditional acceptance and life-oriented
1, Unconditional acceptance
Unconditional acceptance
Unconditional acceptance
Unconditional acceptance refers to parents accepting their children's emotions, feelings and psychological needs, and is one of the most needed psychological nutrition children need at 0-3 months. At this time, children cannot speak or move, and need meticulous care, care and love from their parents. As parents, I don’t know whether the child will develop well in the future at this moment, but I will still take care of the child in every possible way, so it is “unconditional acceptance.”
The impact of unconditional acceptance on children
Although children cannot speak or move, they can perceive the information conveyed by their parents from various aspects such as their parents' behavior, language, and emotions. The unconditional acceptance of parents at this moment makes their children bloom the first golden flower⸺ sense of value. On the contrary, if unconditional acceptance is not supplemented, children will easily fall into self-doubt and feel inferior in the future.
How to achieve unconditional acceptance?
0-3 months
Parents keep their emotions stable, respond to their children in a timely manner, and tolerate and accept their children's behavior.
Children over 3 months-25 years old
When the child fails to meet expectations, makes mistakes, fails, and has emotions, the parents need to give the child unconditional acceptance in four situations. Give the child a hug at this time and do not deny the child's personality because of things. is "right to things, not to people".
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themselves make up for their unconditional acceptance, and can talk to themselves when they fail to meet expectations, make mistakes, fail, and have emotions.
2, life to the point of gravity
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The impact of life on children
If you don’t get life from parents, the child will look for other important others to supplement this psychological nutrition throughout his life. may try to express yourself in life to gain attention from others or to show biased behaviors such as fighting, not listening to lectures in class, and excessive star chasing.
How to achieve the most important life?
0-3 months
Parents remain emotionally stable, pay more attention to their children and play with them during this period.
Children over 3 months-25 years old
Parents take enough time to not make rules or play with their children unreasonably, accompany their children wholeheartedly and with high quality on important festivals, so that their children can feel sufficient attention.
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Learn to value yourself , leave the most important time of every day and every year to yourself, do what you want to do most, and treat yourself as the most important person in the world.
