My side job is teaching and training plus psychological counseling. Now the teaching and training are not allowed to be done. Because most parents who consult their children with learning problems are overly anxious in the process of educating their children. Especially young mothers.
Why did Shi Ming entrust me? I wrote two articles with the largest number of readers in Shi Ming. User portraits show that more than 45% of women in the 30-40-year-old group read. The first time I like someone who has nothing to do with me, I have also seen fan culture. The first time I know there are Weibo super talks. Most of them are young mothers who see Shi Ming's super talks on Weibo. I took a few pictures. So there are many young mothers who read my articles, so they take advantage of my brother's traffic to do something that they think is meaningful. I also entrusted my younger brother Shi Ming to talk more about educating children in the live broadcast. Now parents and children are working too hard, and many of them are useless.
Why are women more likely to be anxious?
First of all, women of this age are the hardest. When you are outside the workplace and go home to work hard, you can not only go to the hall or go to the kitchen. You also have to "could deal with the teacher, solve equations, memorize Tang poetry, and play with the king", which is most of the situation. If your child has something to do in school, the teacher calls you and the child makes a handwritten newspaper and shouts you again. When my child was in elementary school, I once counted how many times he could call him in a day. He called him once and I took a stroke of one stroke, hundreds of times. Can you avoid anxiety if you are so stressed inside and outside? Secondly, women are more likely to be anxious than men, which evolved into the genes. As the main body of raising the next generation, being more sensitive to various dangers and more awareness of prevention is conducive to raising the next generation to continue genes. So women are more likely to be anxious.
How to deal with these anxiety?
First of all, your anxiety will be passed on to your child. Being a relaxed and happy mother is the best for your child. Especially, you should not treat your children as a punching bag. The child is very young, and his emotional thinking has not yet developed to analyse problems from a full perspective. When they understand their emotions, how many days have they come to this world? They would think that their mother doesn't love her anymore.
Let me give you an example. My child failed the math test today. If you were promoted and raised today and felt very good, you would say, "It's okay, my mother also failed the exam when she was a child. Isn't it good now?" If you make a mistake in your work today, your leader is targeted by your colleagues and laughed at you, and you go home with anger and see your child failing the exam again, you will most likely lose your temper with your child. Then imagine whether you treat your child as a punching bag at this time. Especially when you are in a bad mood, you must pay attention. Even if this anger is spread on your husband, don’t spread on your children. Once I discussed it two times, and he said that I didn’t care much about my child’s studies. It was all you, and he felt that he was quite indebted. I told him that your effect is too great because you accept a lot of my bad emotions and lose more temper with your child. It is best to reconcile with yourself and digest your bad emotions.
Secondly, if you are anxious, your child will be anxious. If you are not anxious, your child will be anxious. The laws of all things are the same, like the conservation of energy theorem. When you think about your child’s learning, you will worry more, and the child will not care about it. Anyway, someone will care about it. Once when my child was taking a monthly exam, I was on a business trip. When I came back, my wife told me that every morning, the child would urge him to "get up quickly and cook, why don't I be late." I was shocked when I heard that. I usually prepared breakfast and called him, and he would say, "Mom, I'll sleep for another 5 minutes." Because the child has mastered it, the mother would cook early and not let him be late. And the monthly exam results have also improved. So whoever is worried about it, let the child be responsible for himself from an early age.
Again, let my husband participate in the education of his children more and let go appropriately. Occasionally, one or two late, wearing dirty clothes, forgetting homework, and failing the exam are fine. We have a long-term vision. What is more important than high scores is the child's physical and mental health, good habits, and correct views. Nowadays, most of the female teachers in primary and secondary schools are there, so let the child play with his father more and let the father participate in his child's learning more.
