Education expertLi MeijinIs my daughter a poor student?
A large number of psychologists commit suicide. Is it really difficult to raise children?
A few days ago, a friend complained to me and said
"Now experts really can't believe any of them."
I was curious and asked him why he felt so?
result, my friend said
"Take education as an example. Since I gave birth to a child, I have really paid attention to various educational experts. As a result, today I can't beat or scold the child, and tomorrow I can't teach a good child. The key is that both are quite striking. Which one should I believe in?"
I said it's simple. Which one is suitable for your child? Which one is suitable for your child?
0. My friend rolled his eyes
"Then if I can judge what is suitable for my child, what do I want to do? And what makes me most unconvinced is that the children of these educational experts are not very good."
. l0 I was a little speechless now
Although I think in my heart whether a person has theoretical knowledge
and whether they can use it well is not very related to whether they are good
, but this is like you are a cosmetics seller. If your face is bumpy and full of acne
, then it is difficult to convince people if you talk about it in a mess, but it is difficult to convince people. But rather than doubting, I think as parents, we should reflect more on how parents should educate their children
0. Here I will share with you a few cases
I hope parents can gain something from it
01
I believe many people are familiar with the three words Li Meijin
especially when parents are exposed to Professor Li Meijin's various parenting lectures and books
Many people are loyal fans of Professor Li Meijin
It is even more rare. As a university professor
A psychology expert, when Teacher Li Meijin teaches parenting methods
gives people a very down-to-earth feeling, and there is no condescending sense of preaching at all
so I have always liked Li Mei very much. Professor Jin
So, I also learned from Professor Li Meijin's speech
Her daughter is not a top student, but a complete poor student
, especially mathematics. Once, she got 15 points (full score of 120 points)
, so most parents, in this case, usually can't help but lose their temper, or become very anxious
, but Professor Li Meijin did not
, but instead joked with her daughter calmly, saying
, "This is not your fault, your father's math genes are not good."
Why did she say that? The reason is very simple
She thinks that mental health is often more important than children going to prestigious universities
She would rather sleep a little longer and keep a good mood
than force the children to stay up late to study, change to a good grade
So although her daughter has poor grades, she is very cheerful and confident
But Professor Li Meijin didn't say that she completely indulged her children
on the contrary, after finding that her daughter was not studying well
Li Mei Professor Jin actively helped the child think of other "retreatment ways"
, such as encouraging children to exercise, and in the future, they can be a tour guide
, such as encouraging children to learn art, and they can make a living by relying on art
, as a result, her daughter is indeed very interested in musical instruments, and now she has successfully become a music teacher
, many people may think that only children can achieve success
, but in fact, like Professor Li Meijin, they have a healthy and optimistic attitude to cultivate their daughter, and have a stable degree of stability.
Education expertLi MeijinIs my daughter a poor student?
A large number of psychologists commit suicide. Is it really difficult to raise children?
A few days ago, a friend complained to me and said
"Now experts really can't believe any of them."
I was curious and asked him why he felt so?
result, my friend said
"Take education as an example. Since I gave birth to a child, I have really paid attention to various educational experts. As a result, today I can't beat or scold the child, and tomorrow I can't teach a good child. The key is that both are quite striking. Which one should I believe in?"
I said it's simple. Which one is suitable for your child? Which one is suitable for your child?
0. My friend rolled his eyes
"Then if I can judge what is suitable for my child, what do I want to do? And what makes me most unconvinced is that the children of these educational experts are not very good."
. l0 I was a little speechless now
Although I think in my heart whether a person has theoretical knowledge
and whether they can use it well is not very related to whether they are good
, but this is like you are a cosmetics seller. If your face is bumpy and full of acne
, then it is difficult to convince people if you talk about it in a mess, but it is difficult to convince people. But rather than doubting, I think as parents, we should reflect more on how parents should educate their children
0. Here I will share with you a few cases
I hope parents can gain something from it
01
I believe many people are familiar with the three words Li Meijin
especially when parents are exposed to Professor Li Meijin's various parenting lectures and books
Many people are loyal fans of Professor Li Meijin
It is even more rare. As a university professor
A psychology expert, when Teacher Li Meijin teaches parenting methods
gives people a very down-to-earth feeling, and there is no condescending sense of preaching at all
so I have always liked Li Mei very much. Professor Jin
So, I also learned from Professor Li Meijin's speech
Her daughter is not a top student, but a complete poor student
, especially mathematics. Once, she got 15 points (full score of 120 points)
, so most parents, in this case, usually can't help but lose their temper, or become very anxious
, but Professor Li Meijin did not
, but instead joked with her daughter calmly, saying
, "This is not your fault, your father's math genes are not good."
Why did she say that? The reason is very simple
She thinks that mental health is often more important than children going to prestigious universities
She would rather sleep a little longer and keep a good mood
than force the children to stay up late to study, change to a good grade
So although her daughter has poor grades, she is very cheerful and confident
But Professor Li Meijin didn't say that she completely indulged her children
on the contrary, after finding that her daughter was not studying well
Li Mei Professor Jin actively helped the child think of other "retreatment ways"
, such as encouraging children to exercise, and in the future, they can be a tour guide
, such as encouraging children to learn art, and they can make a living by relying on art
, as a result, her daughter is indeed very interested in musical instruments, and now she has successfully become a music teacher
, many people may think that only children can achieve success
, but in fact, like Professor Li Meijin, they have a healthy and optimistic attitude to cultivate their daughter, and have a stable degree of stability.The career you love is actually a kind of success
Otherwise, it is easy to destroy your child's life if you force your child too much
02
In fact, there are indeed psychologists who have destroyed their children like this
believe that many parents who are concerned about parenting knowledge have heard of the " Crying Immunity Method " parenting theory
The founder of the theory Watson Mr. 3 believes that
When the child is crying, it is actually threatening the parents
Then at this time, it is best not to compromise as parents Go and hug the child, and wait until the child finishes crying before hugging him
In this way, the child will grow up very strong
So in order to prove his theory, he did an experiment on his child
Since the child was a child
Since he was a child
Watson refused to easily satisfy the child's wishes and rarely kiss and hug the child
hope to cultivate the child's strong and independent qualities
However, things went against their wishes. His child was under his indifference and alienation, forced and spurred
Not only did not succeed, but he committed suicide one after another.
The only surviving son also became a homeless man
What's more terrible is that this tragedy incident also affected the third generation of children
Watson's granddaughter once said
Because her mother was addicted to alcoholism and was irritable, she was insecure since she was a child and was also infected with alcohol dependence and tried to commit suicide many times
As parents, we must remember
alienation and indifference, and cannot raise firmness. Strongly independent children
will only make children more vulnerable
For children, only if they get enough love and security from their parents from childhood
can they grow happier and happier
or otherwise
03
I have to say that theory and practice are really different often
0 Education experts may not be able to educate successfully
or even ordinary people may not be as good as
. But at the same time, there are some successful cases, which are worth learning from. For example, the educator in the late Qing Dynasty Liang Qichao
His children grew up very well under the education of Mr. Liang Qichao
As an educator who is advanced in thought and advocates "benevolence and education"
Liang Qichao believes that education is to cultivate talents with wisdom, benevolence and courage
. In order to achieve this educational goal, not only should children be educated in learning
, but also emotional education, family education , fun education, philosophy education, determination education and employment education
Therefore, Mr. Liang Qichao attaches great importance to
Since the children were young, Liang Qichao often talks with the children
As long as the children feel curious and question things
Liang Qichao will patiently answer
In addition, he also pays great attention to cultivating children's interests and hobbies. No matter what the children like, he supports
It is precisely because of this that
His 9 children have grown very well and are very outstanding
No matter what they like, he does it. It is no wonder that Liang Qichao's child is "three academicians in one family, nine sons are all talented".
. After reading these educators and psychological experts, they are their stories.
. It is not difficult for us to find that
. In the process of educating children, if you want to truly cultivate healthy and excellent children,
. The best way to
.
. You still need to learn to love and accompany children, respect and trust children. As parents, we must understand that
is compared to each other. Force children to become the perfect child in their minds
Learn to accept the shortcomings of children, respect the choice of children
often makes it easier for children to truly grow up and become a healthy and happy
happy and confident, full of security and happiness
Remember, there is not much fancy raising children
Other people's educational philosophy is not necessarily suitable for our children. Parents should start from their children themselves
Really help children find a path that suits them
Encourage them together
