——The biggest motivation for learning psychology : Growth experience
This article shows in detail and clearly the whole process of an ordinary person's growth from his original ignorance of psychology and psychological counseling to having a strong interest, and finally decides to join the team of psychological counseling workers. This article uses "Ms. X" to represent the party. She is an employee of a company in Nanjing and graduated from university. The quoted in the article are the original written words of the parties involved. The full text is divided into four parts according to different stages. The first part is below.
(I) Participate in the "Maining Salon" and "Reading Club"
1. Ms. X participated in the "Maining Salon" on the ground held by Mr. S, an old student of All-Psychology. After attending the salon, she reported in the questionnaire: "I feel like I have found a harbor to park. There is such a place to dock for you. There is no concern or burden here. Everyone is full of love, which makes people feel warm, allowing me to find problems and solve problems. I feel relaxed, and what no one has ever said has been vented today."
—Comment: "Maining Salon" is a public welfare activity organized by colleagues in all psychology, and is a main form of popularizing theories and methods of mental health and mahayana. It is one of the important sources of students in the "Psychology and Maximum Workshop". Judging from Ms. X's feedback, the salon was held quite successfully, so Ms. X developed a strong sense of belonging. If you don’t understand the situation after receiving machining counseling, it is difficult to understand what she said: “I feel like I have found a harbor to park. There is such a place that is willing to stop for you. There is no concern or burden here. Everyone is full of love, which makes people feel warm, allowing me to find and solve the problem. I feel relaxed, and what no one has ever said has been vented today.” The woman’s childhood experience was very harsh. She has been away from her parents since she was a child and was sent to her grandmother and other places to raise her. I have no fixed place to live, and I have changed into five foster care places within one year. She was disliked as a baby and was not given food at 4 pm when she was in foster care at a family because she was worried that she would defecate at night. She had not received any training in urination and defecation until she became an adult and wet the bed.
2. On June 15, 2020, he attended the ground maturity salon held by Mr. S. After the salon, he reported: "I had no one told me before, but now I am targeted. My mood changes are very different from my usual self. I didn't know what I was anxious or afraid of, but now it all appears."
—Comment: One of the contents of "Maturity Salon" is that participants take turns to express their troubles, and others can experience, understand and feedback. Therefore, every time the participants in the salon participate, they will feel like they are being motivated, and the intensity of negative emotions is reduced. This alone has a certain healing effect.
3. On June 16, 2020, feedback in Mr. S's WeChat group: "I am a beneficiary of the recent beneficiary of the Tongxin Salon. Thank you for saving me from the pain! Let me change from a desperate person to a responsible person! I hope my case can help everyone, and I hope everyone will participate in the Tongxin Salon! Only by participating and experiencing it can you truly understand the mystery! Thank you again for Teacher S! It is really like the feeling of "rebirth" that Teacher S said."
—Comment: This feedback can be regarded as the summary of Ms. X's initial three initial participation in the Tongxin Salon. It can be seen that her gains are gradually getting bigger, and she even mentioned the concept of "rebirth". This shows that the strength of the Maximum Salon changes a person.
4. On June 22, 2020, I attended the online maturity salon organized by Ms. Z, an old student of psychology in all people. After the salon, I reported: "I am a beneficiary of the case. Today I can meet many knowledgeable people online, which has added a lot of motivation to learn. When I posted on my Moments, I asked me if the effect is so effective? In fact, everyone needs psychological counseling. We ignore the real way of communication with others in this fast-paced life.I sincerely hope that more people can understand Tongxin, benefit from it, and carry forward the Tongxin public welfare cause together!
——Comment: Due to the epidemic, the whole person’s psychology has changed a large number of activities from the ground to the online one. Judging from her reflection, the online effect is also good. She has gone from benefiting to having the idea of promoting "maining".
5. On July 16, 2020, he attended the online reading party hosted by Ms. Z. After the reading party, he reported: "Mounting is really interesting. It makes me feel that people should not only communicate with each other, but also notice what they say when communicating with each other. What's more interesting is that no one else is aware of the words I proposed, including the person involved denying it. But why do I still clearly remember the tone, tone, and mood of his speech at that time? How can I not pass the recording? I really want to know whether mounting can achieve this effect?"
—Comment: "Reading Club" is also a public welfare activity organized by all colleagues in psychology, and is a form of popularizing theories and methods of mental health and mounting. She recognized the difference between "maximum" and "not learning" one of the achievements of learning psychology. It turns out that communication between people has a new realm, and it is interesting.
6. On July 17, 2020, Ms. X attended the online reading party hosted by Ms. Z. Ms. X commented on the article "Great Love, No Love and Renunciation" of Tongxin WeChat public account: "...The so-called " Renunciation " means to be aware of yourself, pursue growth, and experience yourself with another new me. Now it is painful to experience growth. The so-called "war of war" is when the family was originally 'calm and calm'. At this time, a person's growth changed and began to disagree with his family and became conflicted. This kind of "growth war" is inevitable."
-Comment: A key to spiritual growth is to get rid of psychological dependence with parents of the original family. She has a good understanding of "separation".
7. On July 17, 2020, Ms. X commented below the article "The Beautiful Realm of Tongxin" by Tongxin WeChat public account "The Beautiful Realm of Tongxin": "The Beautiful Realm of Tongxin: The previous Roman Rolland 's digest made me think of excellent people who achieve each other and promote each other. Since learning art and Tongxin, I feel that my perspective of looking at things has also changed. A while ago, I saw a beginner. I don’t know him at all about paintings, but the landscape paintings he painted only have two big trees and a row of houses. But in my eyes, the two trees are two families, both of which are like a man holding a woman, and the woman is a child in her hands. The tree at the bottom left is pleasant, and the top is pious. The house next to it is also staggered in size, with a strong desire to protect and a sense of security. In addition, he showed me the paintings his child painted, I could also see the child’s mood. This feeling that could not be experienced in the past is very wonderful!”
——Comment: The reading club mainly learns the works published by Teacher Xu and the articles on the official account, which have rich content. She realized that "the perspective of her viewing has also changed..."
8. On August 16, 2020, she attended the ground maturity salon held by Mr. S. on August 16, 2020. She reported: "After attending the salon, I felt relaxed, and I was willing to share many things I didn't want to say, and I felt relieved. People should have a sense of growth and communicate more with others, which will solve many things that I don't understand."
—Comment: I have a new gain when participating in Mr. S's ground maturity salon again: "A lot of things I don't want to say are willing to share." ——This seems simple, but it is actually a solid spiritual growth.
9. On August 25, 2020, he attended the online matrimonial salon hosted by Ms. Z. After the salon, he reported: "For the phenomenon that the epidemic marriage caused a surge in divorce, it should be that everyone did not spend so long before. After a long time, everyone's shortcomings were exposed and the other party could not accept it. The so-called distance creates beauty, and excessive intimacy makes people disgusted. In addition, most people seem to be winners and are unwilling to give in. In this way, the fight will win and the family will be gone.Many things are lacking in frankness, with the purpose of making the family live a good life. Many people ignore this purpose and are struggling with who is dominant in this process. When there are differences in opinions, quarrels will inevitably occur, and both sides will eventually lose. There are problems on both sides of everything. If you want to solve the problem, you must start with self-revolution. ”
——Comment: The parties involved have been able to learn from one example and after learning "maining heart", they can already see social phenomena from the perspective of "maining heart".
10. On August 28, 2020, they attended the online theme "What is Whole-person Psychology?" hosted by Ms. Z. The feedback after the salon: "Whole-person Psychology is influenced by person-centered psychology and later generational psychology. After research and innovation by Teacher Xu, they are expressed in the more inclusive, open and obedient general word "whole-person". After interpreting Teacher Xu's article, I realized that psychology can not only solve human attribute problems, but also understand the great way, transcend general attributes and rise to the state of unity between man and nature. This fearless spirit of not blindly advocating existing schools and taking the essence and removing the dross is awe-inspiring, and the principle and concept of maintaining an independent personality for external knowledge is actually touching. The uniqueness of "whole-person psychology": Whole-person psychology is different from other psychology, and it is specifically reflected in its guiding ideology as "maximum". And solve problems with an open and inclusive attitude. I also have to continue to learn Teacher Xu's whole-person psychology. ”
——Comment: At this point, Ms. X has a good understanding of psychology in her entire life, and she has developed a motivation to directly participate in Teacher Xu Jinsheng’s workshop.
(To be continued. Please read the second and third.)
