I am Weicheng Chaoyu, expressing my attitude towards life in words.
When the incident happened, these criminals would think: "I made a mistake in some places this time, and I must do it neatly next time!" If these criminals become fish that missed the net, they would feel that they had achieved their goal, were proud, and accepted the congratulations and praise from their companions.
We must break the criminal's method of evaluating their courage and wit. But, how to break it? We can do this in home, school or reformat home . After
, we will describe the key points of criminal self-evaluation; now, let us further discuss the environment that may cause cooperation failure. Sometimes, this responsibility must be borne by parents.
Maybe the mother's method is wrong and the child cannot cooperate with her. The mother may think that no one can help her, or that she may be self-pity and cannot cooperate with her.
In an unpleasant marriage or a broken marriage, it is easy to find the lack of cooperative spirit. The baby first works with the mother, and the mother probably doesn't want to expand her child's social interests to his father, other children or adults. In addition, this child may think Bai Ji is the king of the family.
When I was three or four years old, another child was born, and this child was driven off the throne. These are all factors that must be considered. The life of a criminal who faked the tide would probably find that the criminal's problems had already appeared in his early family life. The biggest impact is not the environment itself, but the child’s misunderstanding of its status, and no one corrects this misunderstanding of its children.
In a family, if there is a child who is particularly outstanding or has a very talented person, it will be an embarrassing thing for other children. A gifted child gets the most attention, and others will feel angry and indignant. They refuse to cooperate, they want to compete, but they don’t have enough confidence. These children are obscured by the light of losers and have no chance to show their talents.
In these children, we often see this unpleasant personality development. Among them we may find neurological patients. For children who lack the spirit of cooperation. We were able to see this in his behavior on the first day of school.
Children who lack the spirit of cooperation cannot make friends with other children, do not like teachers, and do not listen to lectures during class. If the teacher doesn't understand him, he may suffer a new blow. He will be cynical and mocked, instead of earnest teaching and encouragement, and the teacher will not teach him the way of cooperation.
There is no doubt that he will find his studies boring! If a child's courage and confidence are constantly hit by new blows, he will naturally not be interested in school life. You often find that many criminals are still in the fourth grade at the age of 13 and are often blamed for their stupidity.
The criminal's interest in others is gradually lost, and his goal is gradually shifted to useless things. However, it is also easy to cause people to have wrong explanations of life. Children from poor origins may be entangled in society outside their families.
His family may be short of food and clothing, and they fight life hard. Children from poor families may also need to make money early to supplement their household income. When children see many rich people living luxury lives and being able to buy things as they please, they will also feel that these people should not enjoy more benefits than them.
This is the reason why there are many crimes in metropolis where the wealth is huge. Jealousy will never produce valuable goals. Children in this environment are prone to misunderstandings, thinking that the way to get superiority is to get money without effort. The feeling of inferiority may also focus on human body defects, which is one of the discoveries of Adler .
also because of this, Adler's genetic theory in neurology and psychiatry has pioneered the way. However, when Adler initially wrote about the self-sensation caused by the body and his spiritual complementary effect, he had already premonitioned this danger.
This kind of inferiority complex should not be attributed to my body, but to the method of education. If our educational methods are correct, children with physical defects will be interested in others and themselves.
If no one is around to help us develop our sense of concern for others, they will only care about themselves. Of course, many people suffer from endocrine function defects, but Adler is happy to clarify the fact that people cannot actually say what the positive effects of a certain endocrine should look like.
The role of human endocrine lines may cause considerable changes, but they will not damage personality. Therefore, we can leave this factor aside.
If our purpose is to find the right way so that these children can grow into good citizens and have an interest in cooperating with others, this should be even more so among criminals, a considerable proportion of orphans are orphans. According to Adler, if humans cannot establish a spirit of cooperation among these orphans, it is a great shame for human civilization. The same is true for illegitimate children, no one is willing to accept their emotions and transfer them to all humans. Abandoned children may go on the path of crime, especially when they know no one wants them.
Among criminals, people with ugly appearances can often be found, and this was once used to prove the importance of inheritance; but if you put yourself in your shoes, what will people with ugly appearances feel? This type of person is very unfortunate.
Maybe he is a mixed race of different races, without attractive appearance, and suffering from social prejudice. If this type of child looks ugly, his whole life will be under heavy pressure, and he will not even have the joyful and beautiful childhood era of each of us.
However, if we treat these children well in the right way, we will also develop social problems. There is also an interesting fact that among criminals, handsome boys or men are sometimes found.
If the aforementioned person with ugly appearance is regarded as a victim of bad habits and is born with physical defects, how should we understand it?
In fact, they are also growing up in a situation where it is difficult to develop social interests. They are spoiled children.
Author of this article: Chaoyu, a writer who keeps walking, has been on the road.
