Text source: Lecture draft of Teacher Yan Wenhua On August 30, Simple Psychology invited Mr. Yan Wenhua, a mature consultant who has been in the industry for 20 years and has a total of 5,500 hours of consulting experience, to bring you the first thematic lecture of "Cultivation

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What tasks do you need to complete before becoming a psychological counselor

In psychological counseling, the counselor must understand both yourself and others. Among them, the first thing for is to understand yourself first , and understand your own values ​​and beliefs; Understand your own strengths and weaknesses; understand your automated thinking; understand your own biases, etc. How to understand yourself

? You can use self-talk, such as talking to yourself, write your own story or draw your own story.

In the morning, before you wake up and get up, you can leave for 2-5 minutes to meditate. You can think about any thoughts related to you and record them without making judgments. Record them after a week and read them for summary and classification. It can help you improve it. Be a good understanding of the inner view of human nature, world view, values, strengths and weaknesses, how to evaluate yourself, etc.

Through self-dialogue, we can understand our basic values ​​and understand how our beliefs and biases will react in our behavior.

However, in self-dialogue, there is often a situation where one's own views and reality are confused.

For example: If you get the last place in the exam, your opinion may be extended to my poor ability. I have never done anything well. I will always be a loser.

In self-dialogue, the one that impresses us the most and talks the most frequently is often the part that I deny. It is common for most people to have a low self-evaluation. Therefore, for consultants, you must first understand and understand through self-dialogue. What kind of person is yourself.

Secondly, you also need to understand your view of human nature.

Is human nature good or evil? Does human nature change or will it not change? Different people have different understandings and different views on human nature. Their words and deeds are different from their attitudes towards clients.

A counselor with a good attitude is likely to exude good intentions from the inside out, while a counselor with a bad attitude is likely to maintain a clear attitude to make the truth or the worst side appear. These attitudes determine that the consultant is investing in the interview In what aspects will you help and in what aspects will you just watch.

Finally, you must also know what your worldview looks like.

How do you view the world around you? What exists in this world? How do we understand ourselves and others? What are good, bad, right, and wrong?

Our worldview will be formed at the age of 5 to 10. A large part of it is influenced by our childhood experiences and parents' education. may produce some prejudices and discrimination that we do not know, such as some people have a high sense of trust in others, and some people have a high sense of trust in others. People have a low sense of trust in others.

In consultation, you also need to use self-awareness. observe your own thinking mode . thinking mode is the operation of the brain automation, which determines how we view things. Thinking modes can be divided into four categories: linear thinking , binary Thinking, hierarchical thinking, and holistic thinking.

Linear thinking refers to the thinking that deduces B from A.

Linear thinking will cause us to have some invisible discrimination. For example, when the visitor talks about his hometown in Sichuan, we will think of him as good as spicy food and a generous personality, etc., but these are not necessarily true.

But every client in the consultation is an individual with a unique personality, so the consultant needs to break the discriminatory nature brought about by linear thinking stereotype .

binary thinking such as "good or bad", "right or wrong", "black or white", "beautiful or ugly" and other thinking.

binary thinking will make us look at problems too extreme .If a person has a good part, he cannot be a bad person. If a person has a little bad part, he cannot be a good person. Such thinking is too extreme and there is no perfect person in the world.

Consultants need to see the advantages and disadvantages of the client and should not be too one-sided.

High-level thinking is thinking that puts oneself or others in a superior position.

High-level thinking can lead to personal over-superiority or excessive inferiority complex.

For example, we think some people are authoritative, and what they say must be right; or as consultants, stand in a better position and point fingers; or some novice consultants are too nervous and dare not stand in a professional position judge.

Overall thinking is to look at problems non-critical from a multi-level and multi-dimensional perspective. Overall thinking is the thinking that consultants need to establish.

My idea makes sense, but I also appreciate your statement because it sounds interesting and this thinking is flexible.

Through self-dialogue, we understand our views on human nature, world view, values, ways of thinking, etc., so as to understand our strengths and weaknesses.

There is also a very important part of understanding yourself, you need to understand what your motivation is for learning psychological counseling.

Do you learn psychological counseling to help yourself, or do you want to help others learn psychological counseling? Some consultants’ overly strong willingness to help others may lead to a deadlock in the consulting process.

For example, the client said I couldn't find a job and I was homeless. Some consultants would find ways to introduce jobs to the client or even provide accommodation. The willingness to help others is good, but the consultant did not discuss the client on a psychological level. The feelings, discussing what he needs at this time, and constantly providing material help will only put the consultation at a deadlock.

Therefore, a consultant must understand why he needs to learn psychological counseling.

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What tasks do you need to complete in the process of becoming a psychological counselor

1, System Learn psychology knowledge

There is a stable theoretical framework to go more Far away, if psychology is a towering tree, then psychological counseling is actually just a branch on this tree.

For example, when I provide psychological counseling services, many people ask me what to do if I have insomnia or wake up early. When I introduce some methods, they say that they have heard of it before, but it does not work much. At this time, I will start from a cognitive level. Let me introduce some knowledge, such as what is the situation of difficulty falling asleep? What is the situation of waking up early? What is the situation of dreaming and waking up frequently? This explanation will help the party to have a different understanding of the current situation he is in and will further deepen the trust relationship with the client.

2. Basic theory of systematic learning of psychological counseling

Psychological counseling is a fork in psychology. Our time and energy are often limited, and we may not be able to learn all aspects. It is recommended that everyone, as beginners, as basic knowledge or You need to understand some basic theories of psychological counseling.

In your continuous understanding, it is easier for you to find this school of knowledge that suits your long-term development in the future, etc. Therefore, I think broad basic knowledge is very important.

3. A lot of exercises and practices

Psychological counseling is different from learning in other subjects, and theoretical knowledge cannot replace practice.

When many consultants first meet a client, their brains will be blank, and their focus will be on their own anxiety and they cannot pay attention to the client.

We must learn slowly through continuous practice and calm our hearts.

Then we can focus on the client, and we will slowly hear from the surface of listening to what he really wants to express, and the inner thoughts he has not brought into the consultation. These are all in a lot of practice I saw it bit by bit.

4. Choose a psychological counseling school that suits you to learn more and more

First of all, you need to understand and contact various schools and develop a unique consulting style that suits you.

For example, in the process of becoming a consultant, I have been exposed to many schools, listened to many lectures, and participated in a lot of studies. When I came into contact with the expression of happiness therapy, I liked the creative part very much, and it is inexhaustible to use it. The inexhaustible creativity uses all the sensory organs of the body, which is very attractive to me.

So far, I will say that I am working in an integrated way, using different treatment methods according to the needs of the client.

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What tasks do you need to complete after becoming a psychological counselor

1, work with the client in the consultation room

Face to face with the client in the consultation room or It is an online consultation, the only part of the job that can be seen by the visitors, but it is a very small part of all the jobs.

2, sorting case reports

After each consultation, I will spend some time sorting out cases, which is indispensable to me. The sorting process will give me some room for reflection. When I look at these materials again, I will see some clearer parts, or find the thoughts that flashed through the consultation

For example, I will ask myself : Why is it extended for five minutes? I seemed to be stuck at a point, why am I stuck? The space and time of these reflections are important to me, so I will make sure I have this time to reflect.

3, accept supervision

Supervision includes individual supervision and group supervision.

Individual supervision is one-to-one supervision. When I was undergoing psychoanalysis training, I would submit word-by-word drafts. I think this part is very important to my training, so I have always maintained it and improved my skills.

Group Supervision is that we are all supervisors and we will talk about it. Group supervision has also helped me very well, especially when we have a good group, the progress brought about is also very great.

I suggest that whether it is a student majoring in psychology or a student who wants to change careers, if you take a case, you must accept supervision. Supervisors can not only provide technical support to consultants, but also provide emotional support to everyone.

Technical support is reflected in that repetitive exercises cannot help us improve the technology itself, but the guided repetitive exercises can help everyone improve better.

A doctor said that he was supervised once when he was in the hospital. The doctor was a chief doctor, so he was very skilled in all aspects. After supervising his entire operation, he only said one sentence, doing it During the operation, you can try to move your left foot forward half a step. Maybe your feeling will be different. When the doctor tried it next time and found that the position of the surgery had changed, he The pain that the body had before gradually subsided after the operation, and finally stopped the pain. The same is true for psychological counseling. Through repeated practice and relying on our understanding, we can sometimes realize it, and sometimes we cannot realize it. At this time, we need to rely on supervision or feedback from our visitors.

emotional support is reflected in the supervisor's affirmation of the consultant and the cultivation of the consultant's hope.

Take me as an example. When I was supervising, I felt a sense of fear and could not end my supervision. The supervisor mentioned that the visitor manipulated many parts of me, such as the idea of ​​projective identification.

I have only been exposed to this part in books before, and I have no idea that the visitors control me like this. I felt the emotions of fear at that time. The supervisor of

began to comfort me that there are also many cute parts in the visitors. We want to do What is to get rid of their control over us is to not use the dichotomy thinking and look at everything with a holistic thinking.

4, personal experience or personal analysis

Personal experience or personal analysis part, this part is very important to me.

Of course, this part may be related to the genre. When I was in training, I was asked to receive such a personal experience. After my training program was over, I still think this is a very good part, so I have continued to use it until now.

Counselor is a lonely profession, because becoming a counselor will have various constraints. Your personal image and the part that appears in the public need to consider yourself. The teachings that occur deep in our psychology at the end of the consultation. Becoming a consultant is destined to be a very lonely journey.

5, Learning

Whether I am a novice consultant or now, I spend a lot of time studying every year.

For example, some course workshops, long-term course projects, classic literature and books related to consultation. Sometimes when I feel frustrated with my work with my clients, I will make some supplements from the theoretical aspects to give me more guidance, etc. .

6, self-cultivation and characterization

Consultants need time and space to cultivate their body and mind, entertainment and leisure, and personal life is indispensable. If a consultant is always working, he will definitely feel a little unbalanced and tilted.

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Things that psychological counselors must continue to complete

1. Always on the road to learning

Counselors are always on the road to learning, I have been in contact with it during the training stage There are all kinds of teachers. My biggest teacher is in my 90s, but I am still full of energy working in the career I love. I think they are all good role models.

2. Assess your competency

Consultants should evaluate their competency, especially for beginners.

When I supervise a novice consultant, the consultant will be unwilling to let go after receiving a case.

I understand that the consultant is eager to start his own consulting path, but when the competency model evaluation appears during this period, it is not suitable for the work of a novice consultant, I still hope that the consultant will improve his competency through a certain amount of time. Afterwards, we are conducting case practice work.

The career path of psychological counselors must be full of sunshine, secluded paths, fragrant flowers and thorny bushes; every person who chooses to become a psychological counselor is a brave man who constantly explores and grows firmly.

Of course, in this process, if novice consultants can find a way that suits them more and have mature experience to protect them, then this road will be even more exciting.

Currently Simple Psychology Uni has launched the psychological counselor education project "Practice" as the ultimate goal of . The purpose is to help all practitioners who love and are committed to working as psychological counselors. We have moved onto our career path more smoothly.

project hopes to help students grow into a psychological counselor with theoretical knowledge, consulting skills and basic abilities to work with clients through 2 and 600 hours of theoretical study, internships and supervision and training with theoretical knowledge, consulting skills and basic abilities .

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combined with University of Minnesota Skovholt's team of professors on psychological counselors for more than 20 years, APA psychological counselor competency model, international professional theoretical research, and a large number of platform consultations After the teacher's practical experience, we concluded that in order to grow into a psychological counselor with professional competence, we must have three major elements. l9:

• Continuously immersed in an efficient knowledge theory learning environment

• Continuous internship and accumulation of supervision time

• There is a clear and stable practice path

And this is exactly the three unique features of the simple psychology Uni "psychological counselor training program" Have an advantage.

This year, "Psychological Counselor Training Program" further polished and upgraded on the original basis to ensure that the curriculum system is more authoritative and systematic, and the course content is more scientific and suitable for novice counselors.

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