"Let's call this stupid 'Belly'!" The king of football Bailey hated the name "Belly" very much when he was a child because it was the nickname given to him by the people who bullied him.
But before he went to the World Cup, his father gave him a special gift - the word "Belly" was embroidered on his clothes.
Bailey didn't understand, and his father said to him, "Everyone is calling your name, I don't feel ashamed, I think the era of Bailey is coming."
From slums to podium, Bailey is the well-deserved king of football. , and the reason why he was able to overcome inferiority complex again and again was the love of his father and mother that gave him confidence.
How can children face inferiority complex, surpass themselves, and gain confidence? The book "How Faith Works" combines the latest research in disciplines such as psychology , neuroscience , brain science , and brain science to explain the underlying logic of confidence in an easy-to-understand manner.
01 Give children confidence with small success
Confidence will not arise out of thin air. A child who knows nothing will not become confident because of his parents' hypocritical praise "You are so great!" "You are so smart!"
When parents find that their children show obvious inferiority in some aspects, they can help them set goals that they can achieve by standing on tiptoe. In this way, if they put in a little effort, they can taste the sweetness of success, and a small success is to bring them to the point. The best help to succeed.
There is an impressive case in the book "How Confidence Works" - the story of Kingman. She has been very inferior since she was a child, and when she grew up, she messed up everything. Her family's confusion, herself The abandonment made her life in chaos.
And when she began to set one small goal after another and continued to succeed, her confidence really came out, and more and more confidence made her life gradually return to the right track.
Confidence can be learned, action will bring success, and success can further strengthen self-confidence and bring more good luck and results.
02 Successfully incubated with active words
What would you say when facing the child’s temporary failure?
complained with a heart-wrenching regret, "Who told you not to listen to me? I deserve it!"
still accept and comfort unconditionally "It's okay, my parents are here."
Bailey suffered a Waterloo in the game, thinking of his hard training, This resulted in the exchange. He was heartbroken and contacted his family crying and confessed to his mother. He regretted that he did not listen to his mother, regretted that he did not study hard and continued to study, regret that he did not follow the steps to find a job, and lived an ordinary but steady life. Life...
However, the mother who once hated football responded gently and firmly : "This is the choice we made together, and it is the right decision! No matter what happens, your dad and I will always love you."
"How faith works" mentioned, "Language is a powerful tool that can be controlled Our attention can also control our emotions. If we can control our attention and feelings, we can focus on goals that we have opportunities to achieve within our control."
Golf Harlington At one point, I wanted to give up during the game, and the shadow of failure was like a huge dark cloud covering him. It's his caddie Vlad constantly helps him concentrate with positive language - "Slay one shot at a time, your low-flying ball and pushing ball are the best in the world." In this way, he succeeded The game reversed the format and won the championship incredibly.
Some people say that parents are the children’s lifelong teachers and the hypnotist who has the greatest impact on their children. Every word we say unknowingly shapes the present and future of children.
Instead of threatening and urging children with complaints, it is better to learn from Bailey's parents, use positive words to soothe children's setbacks and tears, accompany their troughs and desperate situations, and use positive guidance and hints to make them move forward in a positive way. courage and strength.
03 Maintaining a high-energy posture
Edison The process of inventing electric lights is a process of constantly trying, failing, and trying again.Thousands of failures failed to make him lose confidence. Instead, he gave him the courage to publicize the information that he had successfully invented the electric light on a large scale.
Fake it till you make it. (Pretend to succeed until you really succeed!) - This way of thinking of Edison is called "High Energy Position" in the book "How Faith Works", letting yourself Pretending to succeed and enjoying the beautiful state in the future will allow you to better devote yourself to your current efforts and attempts, thereby increasing your confidence and gaining more power to help you succeed.
As parents, we can often interact with children using the "pretend to succeed" mini-game, so that they can constantly see what they look like after success, and discover more possibilities for success for themselves in the positive mind illustration. This stimulates the huge potential in the body.
No matter how bad our conditions are, it will not be worse than the growth environment of the football king Bailey in the movie "The Birth of Legend";
No matter how low our qualifications are, it will not be better than the ridiculed Einstein's performance when he was young. Oops; what made them later become top figures in their respective fields?
But we are gradually becoming mediocre and performing mediocre?
might as well open the book "How faith works". I believe that while reshaping confidence for ourselves, we also understand the underlying logic of confidence, which can better enable our children to train correctly and make them calm and calm Faced with the challenges of negation from others and failure, they can better learn to protect their lives with confidence.
