, as a psychological counselor, do you think the happiest thing in our group is to charges to chat? However, you don't know that in our group, the most fearful thing is -the visitor has a sense of attachment to form a misunderstanding of love. Especially in the face of visitors with same -sex orientation, once they are attached to you, the consequences may be terrible!
The psychological counselors you think, the attachment to the visitors will have a steady stream of consulting income, then you are wrong. As a psychological counselor, 80%of the communication and exchanges with the visitor will end with a normal relationship. However, there is such a group of groups that will have the illusion of attachment to the consultant. The recognition of her, appreciation of her as a love or an intimate relationship. As a result, the sense of isolation of consultation and reality. Especially between same sex, it looks more prominent.
We often have such a psychological saying: When one day, when you get along with someone, it is very comfortable, comfortable, and understands you. In fact, 50%is illusory. This is not necessarily that you are familiar with you. The love of girlfriends, or love, because there are 50%possibilities, because the other party has learned psychology, so your friend will know you better than your family.
So, one day, you are comfortable with the other party, really don't really think how much the other person is or you think of you at first sight. Native family and childhood trauma. When
communicates with visitors in the same sex, psychological counselors should pay special attention to avoiding this. Because it may be the same sex, it will form a disadvantaged result compared to the opposite sex, which will make the visitors understand her very well, or you know a very deep understanding of her illusion, and even she will think of your understanding. It is a lot of thoughts to study the other party, so that the other party has formed a consultation with addiction or difficulty in discording in the process of consulting you.
is incomplete statistics. Because of the illusion of homosexual attachment consulting relationship, the visitors follow the consultant to make a confession to the consultant. For excessive shape. Some visitors of
will have a concept of lightness because of the refusal of the consultant. They often cry: "Why did he/she abandon me? Why did he/she not answer my phone call, do not return my text message, pull me black me "
, what these visitors do not know is that because their attachment and follow -up may also cause the consultant's great trauma, such as: fear and control, some novice consultants are overwhelmed because of the overwhelming. I also chose to live.
So, how can psychological counselors prevent the worst consequences caused by the attachment to homosexual orientation in advance during the consultation process?
1. Do not disclose to any visitor to your family address, private phone or family member information
. Do not let yourself be exposed or found. Famous staff on duty, with anti -violence and emergencies;
2. You need to clearly inform the visitor to consult the reasoning and boundary
. Divine divisions need to actively inform the visitor's corresponding sense of boundaries. What are the safety social distances of consultants and visitors, and they can also guide visitors how to expand their social circles to the outside world. All need to be formulated strictly in accordance with the consultation time, rather than unintentionally chatting the so -called emoji or the graph that causes misunderstandings;
I. You Can't accept it. Because you do n’t know, some gifts may be carefully selected for a few years, months, or even a few days.Once you receive this gift, for visitors who come to mind, you may accept your love for him/her, which will cause unnecessary misunderstandings;
Four. Find the follow -up to the police in a timely manner to protect the police in time to protect well to protect well and protect well to protect well to protect well and protect well to protect well. Personal personal safety
Some homosexual paranoid visitor may form an unclear borders in consulting and attachment to you, and even reaches you. If you only need to find it once, you must use legal weapons to stop it, and at the same time, protect your personal personal safety; at the end of
, the psychological counselor cannot show disrespect or surprise when communicating with the same sex orientation visitor. While accepting and respecting them, protect themselves, and let the other party understand the existence of the border at the same time.
Author: psychological counselor Zeng Yan
