Anger is a very common emotion. Everyone will be furious from time to time, but anger will not only not solve the problem, but will often hurt yourself and others. So today we will talk to the consultant about how to control our temper.
First of all, we must realize that losing control is actually just an excuse. When we are angry, we often conduct a risk assessment unconsciously, so we are often angry with people or subordinates, and not angry with our boss, so there is no such thing as uncontrollable. At the same time, it is not someone else who makes you angry. Because you feel that what others do does not meet your standards or specifications or harm your interests, but we should put ourselves in others' shoes and think more from the perspective of others, so that you can be less angry. Ultimately, emotions are your own, not others. Secondly, losing your temper is no trivial matter. Every time you lose your temper, everything you do in the past will be written off. At the same time, emotions not only play a crucial role in our intimate relationships, but are also closely related to our lives.
So how should we regulate our emotions?
First of all, you need to soothe your emotions through physical movements. For example, leave for a while, or find a quiet place to take a deep breath, or turn your eyes, or choose exercise. After that, find out where you feel uncomfortable when you are angry, and then calm down your emotions: take deep breaths or exercise.
Then feel the emotions.
First, remember what makes you angry and determine your emotions. Then explore your needs.
Next, convert your emotions. By thinking from the other person's perspective, think from the other person's perspective. For example, if you think about why the other person is right and think about the other person’s situation, you will have new discoveries.
Finally, check your emotions through behavior.
The following are some methods: After you lose your temper and calm down, find out the other party to communicate calmly, and tell the other party about your own needs and how to meet your needs, and then understand his needs and how to meet them. And agree on solutions to similar things.
