When children study abroad, will they definitely live a glamorous, happy life and study?
Many parents of international students may be more concerned about their children's studies and life abroad, and will try their best to provide their children with enough financial support, but it is easy to ignore this point:
Children's mental health. Why does
need to emphasize this?
First, let’s take a look at these real events:
On April 16, 2019, Yan Yang, a 21-year-old flight academy student, hanged himself in the dormitory bathroom of the Denton Flight Academy (US Aviation Group) in Texas, USA;
2019 2 On March 11, a Chinese student at Stanford University committed suicide in the Paul G. Allen laboratory building of the School of Engineering.
On June 13, 2019, University of Florida doctoral student Chen Huixiang committed suicide in the campus office;
2017 On December 13, Tian Miaoxiu, a 21-year-old fourth-year Chinese female international student in the School of Materials Science and Engineering at Cornell University, was found dead in her apartment;
On February 12, 2017, Weiwei, a Chinese girl from the University of California, Santa Barbara Liu committed suicide in his dormitory;
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These international students who were supposed to have a happy and bright future chose to commit suicide, which is very heartbreaking and regretful.
Justin Chen, a psychiatrist at Massachusetts General Hospital, said that depression and anxiety are common among Chinese international students.
And A survey released by Yale University related researchers also showed the seriousness of the problem:
This is an extremely high value.
The depression among international students is far more serious than you think.
An international student fell into a state of depression just two months after going abroad. He overeated, lost a lot of hair, was extremely lethargic, had panic attacks palpitations and felt that every day of his life was a torment.
Some international students also said that they are very lonely because they cannot make new friends and their language skills are not good. They are busy doing homework until the early hours of the morning every day, but their grades can only guarantee that they will not fail the course.
Some international students said that after going abroad, they would suddenly cry when walking on the street or in class.
What happened to these children studying abroad? Are they too fragile and not strong enough?
The depression of international students is often not understood by everyone. Not only is it not understood by the general public, but even parents may think that their children are too pretentious:
I have sent you to study abroad. If you don't study hard and are still so pretentious, it means your life is too good. Bar?
You said you are depressed. I think it is because you are not busy enough with your studies and are complaining for no reason.
You are so old now, it’s time to be more independent. Can’t you handle such a small thing yourself?
How come others can do the same thing but you can’t?
I think you need to strengthen your psychological quality and be strong on your own. You can't always rely on your parents.
But they ignored it. Once the children went abroad, it could be said that they entered a completely unfamiliar environment.
Some children go to unfamiliar host families. The completely different culture, food, family atmosphere, and the possible indifference and neglect they may encounter can easily make children feel at a loss.
Some people need to apply for it, apply for a visa, rent a house by themselves, find a nearby supermarket, take an hour's bus ride every week to buy groceries, cook, do hygiene, learn to drive, repair water pipes, flush toilets, wash carpets, etc. Mowing the lawn...
Suddenly I have to do all the big and small things by myself.
Being far away from close family and friends, the sense of security and belonging is no longer found, and the feeling of loneliness arises .
On September 3rd (this Saturday)
centering on the two major themes of study abroad safety and mental health
The international education exchange community under the International Student Daily
Panteng Parents Meeting
will conduct an in-depth offline exchange meeting for parents of international students
We sincerely invite you to join
Scan the QR code below to register now
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Know Yourself’s survey shows that the top three reasons for international students’ negative emotions or psychological distress are: academic (71.90%), social and interpersonal relationships (52.93%) ), and language barrier (45.90%).
First of all, language is a very big challenge.
The language proficiency of many international students is not sufficient to ensure a smooth life and study abroad.
Once the language barrier is not resolved, it will be difficult to keep up with the classwork, and the final results will be unsatisfactory and far lower than expected, which can easily put a psychological burden on international students.
There are also many international students who are very good at English at home, but after going abroad, they find that they have difficulties in oral communication. Once they are hit in communication and lose their self-confidence, it is easy to trigger a vicious cycle, and they become more and more afraid to speak.
The coursework of international students is also very stressful. Some courses in
require them to go to the library to consult a large amount of information, and there are also many reading requirements. In a week, in addition to the textbook preview, there may be hundreds of pages of other book reading requirements, and then based on these, they need to prepare an article worth thousands of dollars. A word paper or presentation.
also has countless questions, assignments, papers, projects... Many courses involve questionnaire surveys, field surveys, interviews, etc., which also require a lot of time and energy in and . What's even more frightening about
is that many courses have implemented curve's elimination system of and , and a certain proportion of people will always fail. There is no such thing as a 60-point score in
. When the classmates are all excellent, the pressure is so great that it makes people bald. They also have to worry about the risk of being dropped out of school if they fail too many subjects.
Under these pressures, anxiety and depression breed, and many international students who are not used to talking and seeking solutions end up suffering from depression.
In addition to language and academic studies, international students also face social dilemmas .
Many international students were full of confidence when they first went abroad, thinking that they would be able to quickly integrate into the campus and make many foreign friends.
However, they will be disappointed when they later discover that this is not as easy as they thought.
An international student at Michigan State University said that due to cultural differences, it was difficult for her to get close to her American peers. Even though she got along well with her three American roommates, they did not become close friends.
And sometimes they will find that not only can they not make foreign friends, but it is also difficult for international students who are also from China to find close friends .
When I'm stressed, I can't even find friends to talk to.
Due to various factors such as life, language, academics, social interaction, culture, etc., there are not a few international students who are depressed or suffer from depression.
On September 3rd (this Saturday)
centering on the two major themes of study abroad safety and mental health
International Education Exchange Community under the International Student Daily
Panteng Parents Meeting
will conduct an in-depth study abroad conference. Offline exchange meeting for students and parents
We sincerely invite you to join
Scan the QR code below to register immediately
👇👇
International students are like many ordinary children. They want to become independent and strong after leaving their parents, so as not to worry their parents .
But when they encounter excessive pressure, they will also become anxious and depressed.
This is not because they are too squeamish, but because the education they received since childhood rarely involved paying attention to their own mental state and how to solve emotional problems.
Sometimes something goes wrong. In order to avoid family worries, they do not tell their families, but choose to report good news instead of .
Sometimes even if you tell your parents, you may not be understood.
Parents can’t even understand, depression is not an emotion, but a disease .
In fact, depression is a brain dysfunction disease with a biological basis. For mild depression, consultation with a psychiatrist is indeed effective, but for moderate or above depression, you must rely on medication.
Depression can cause severe psychological symptoms, which will affect people's feelings, thinking, and daily activities, such as eating, sleeping, studying, working, etc. .
There are many ways to relieve depression, and emotional support is the most important and effective one.
Before their children go abroad, parents must consider the problems that their children may encounter. Remember not to put too much pressure on their children, encourage them to communicate more with their families, learn to actively relieve stress, and seek intervention.
You should also pay attention to your children's mental state after going abroad.
Faced with children's depression or depression after going abroad, parents must provide understanding and support .
Let the child know that you understand all his pressures and difficulties, and that his family is his eternal support. There is no need to feel ashamed because of depression .
Then encourage the children to go to a regular hospital for examination or go to the school's psychological counseling center for examination and guidance.
If you need to take medication, let your children not resist taking the medication, and don't have to be mentally burdened. Encourage them to do some appropriate exercise, and everything will gradually get better.
Finally, I hope that all parents of international students can have a better understanding of their children. I also hope that all international students can not be kidnapped by pressure, relax their mentality, and learn to love themselves.
On September 3 (this Saturday), focusing on the two major themes of the safety of studying abroad and the psychology of studying abroad , the international education exchange community Climbing Teng Parents Meeting under the International Student Daily will conduct an in-depth parents of overseas students. Offline exchange meeting . Here sincerely invites you to join us.
Participating members:
Parents of students who are about to study/currently study in world-famous schools
Limited number of people:20-30 people
Registration will be closed when the number of people reaches the upper limit.Hurry up and sign up
Activity theme
Exchange meeting Live lectures will focus on study abroad safety and study abroad psychology Two major sections unfold.
includes analysis of cases of overseas students in danger/what to do if you get new crown overseas/what to do if you find someone around you taking drugs/safety topics such as how to avoid accidents to the greatest extent, and how parents can effectively get along with their children at a distance. , pay attention to the child's physical and mental health in a timely manner.
Topic 1: Safety while studying abroad
What to do if you get COVID-19 overseas
How to effectively prevent accidents and personal injuries overseas
What to do if you encounter accidents or personal injuries overseas
What to do if you find someone taking drugs around you
...
Topic 2: Psychology of studying abroad
How to communicate with children at a distance
How to manage emotions in family education
How to manage healthy family relationships and improve happiness
How to communicate effectively
How to balance family roles that keep pace with the times
...
We will invite:
famous family education blogger, Master of Psychology from Cornell University in the United States , Beijing Jianhua Experimental International School’s special psychological tutor Mei Lingjie ;
University of Washington Law Academy Global Executive director of the Alumni Council, partner of Shanghai Duan & Duan (Beijing) Law Firm, elite lawyer Ding Jie;
with 15 years of cross-border work experience in China, the United States and South Korea, and founder of the well-known international education new media "International Students Daily" He is also the editor-in-chief, Forbes "30 Elites Under 30" Lin Guoyu .
event process:
3:30-14:00 Check-in 4:00-16:30 Guest sharing 6:30-17:00 Free communication event time and location
September 3, 2022 (this Saturday)
13:30-17:00
Location:
Sunshine 100html, No. 2 Guanghua Road, Chaoyang District, Beijing 4D Building B1 Floor Daqing reading aloud
Participating members:
Parents of students who are about to study/currently study in world-famous schools
Registration will be closed when the number of people reaches the upper limit, hurry up and register
