In fact, people have more or less "procrastination" habits, and behind the procrastination, there is also a "three-minute popularity" mentality.
For example:
I saw on the Internet that others were very elegant in playing the piano, so I signed up for an interest class. As a result, I didn’t even remember the phonetic symbols for a week and gave up;
Seeing that all the old classmates started to exercise, but when they were middle-aged, they had a good figure, so I signed up for a gym membership, but I gave up after just 3 days.
There are also some people who see others making money, so they imitate the other party's behavior to make money. As a result, they have only been persisting for a few days, but they give up when they see that they don't make money. The habit of
is three minutes of popularity.
does not have a persistent mentality, firm willpower, or a peaceful mentality. Such people fall into the misunderstanding of "urgent for success".
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Why do some people have "three minutes of popularity"?
The reason why a person is prone to popularity for three minutes is mainly divided into external factors and internal factors.
First: External factors affect
External factors, and there are also two subdivided small factors.
1. Focus is affected by the surrounding environment
For example:
You have to work from home while taking care of your children at home.
You sit in front of the computer to work, and the doll lie on the stroller next to you to sleep.
Whenever your work progresses to a very important stage, you are suddenly interrupted by the cry of the doll. Will you feel broken?
At the beginning, you can still adapt; but if every time you work, the doll doesn’t make you feel at ease, don’t you want to complete this job?
In most daily behavioral habits, as long as we are frequently interrupted by people or something around us, we will lose the desire and driving force to continue doing it.
2. Self-confidence is hit little by little
is like some people's native family get along with each other.
As a person grows up, he always encounters his parents' "accusation-based education method".
Whether he got the first or third place in the exam, the result was no difference. It must be a few words of criticism and blows from his parents.
"I am so proud of this score. Be careful of the next time I take the final exam."
"Don't be proud, this score is still far behind. If you have the ability, you will get the first place in the grade."
You said that when his self-confidence is broken by a close person, does he still have the motivation to continue learning?
Give another example:
You want to learn dancing, but your lover always mocks you: "It's just your figure, you're a clumsy person, don't learn it."
So you gave up after studying for a week.
Why?
Because you want to praise, but he always gives you a blow.
lacks external praise, but receives external criticism, ridicule and blows. People's self-esteem, self-confidence, and action will all decrease to varying degrees.
2: Internal factors affect
Internal factors can also be subdivided into two aspects.
1, accustomed to procrastinating
Some people, procrastination is really serious.
to what extent?
The family prepared the meal and told him to eat quickly; he could have put down his phone and went to eat immediately, but he insisted on playing with the phone until it was out of battery before going to eat.The dirty clothes that were replaced by
can be thrown into the washing machine to wash, but he insisted on delaying it for a week before washing it.
After eating, he could finish his own bowls and chopsticks in 2 minutes, but he soaked the bowl in the basin for a few days before cleaning it up.
similar procrastination behavior has long been integrated into his behavioral habits and has become his subconscious choice.
delay will also cause a person to have the "three-minute popularity" thinking.
2. Laziness in the bones
Laziness is the end of procrastination.
When a person procrastinates to the extreme, he becomes fearless and lazy at heart.
The clothes are dirty and smelly, but they don’t wash;
The gray floor at home is dirty and they don’t drag.
When laziness becomes a subconscious behavior of a person, it will be difficult for him to devote enough attention to something.
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How to do it to change the mentality of "three minutes of popularity"?
First: Stay away from people who bring you negative emotions
If your family always belittles you and mocks you, then let your family feel your principles and bottom line;
If your lover belittles you, then leave the other party;
You should believe in yourself and build self-confidence. You must firmly believe in: "I can do it, and I can do it too."
Those around you who mock you, belittle you, and hit you, and always bring you bad emotions are stumbling blocks on your road to success.
stumbling, then move them away; if you can't move, then jump over.
2: Build "internal drive", love everything you do
What is internal drive?
can be simply understood as:
What we want to do from the bottom of our hearts does not need to rely on external instructions, but our spontaneous behavior.
You like to study and read books. You don’t need the supervision of people around you, you will take the initiative to do this.
Do more things you love to improve your internal motivation.
When your internal drive accumulates to a certain level, even if you encounter something you don’t like, you can still have your own pattern to deal with it.
3 Third: Learn to split big goals into small goals
As we all know, a famous entrepreneur's small goal is: "Earn one hundred million first".
Assuming your big goal is 100W, it may be difficult for you to achieve this big goal in a short period of time.
However, you can split the big target into small targets.
For example: I want to make 300,000 this year and save 150,000.
Only with great success can you gain happiness and satisfaction more easily.
Another example:
In learning, you have to recite 1,000 words in 1 week. The amount of learning like
is difficult for ordinary people to complete within 1-2 days, so you can divide 1,000 words into 5 days to complete memorization, and then use the last two days to consolidate and review.
cakes are divided into small cakes, which tastes simple and easy, right?
Today's topic:
Are you a popular person for three minutes to do things?
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