My daughter has a good grades in junior high school and has always been a well-known child in the school. Needless to say, I studied Chinese and English very quickly after tutoring science.
But it’s related to personality. She has been under a lot of pressure. I’m trying to help her understand her on weekends. But the results are very little. The school was too much, and the teacher's inadvertent words made her nervous.
I started to be tired of school in the third year of junior high school. I was very slow to send her back to school every weekend, and I often went there. Think about it, I was very ruthless and beat the child with a clothes hanger.
But fortunately, in April, she entered the district unified examination, which boosted her confidence. Later, she made great efforts to get high scores in the middle school entrance examination and high scores in the province.
Next is the beginning of the nightmare. I was confused by physics and mathematics, and I got more than 60 points in the first test. This has a huge blow to children who have always scored high. Coupled with the hard-working policy of the physics teacher, the children can't bear it and go home.
lying in bed every day, not interested in anything he does, and everything he says to her is "boring". Take it to see, has depression undoubtedly, so I started taking medicine.
At first, everyone couldn't stand it. Every day it was my aunt and cousin's encouragement text messages and phone calls. All of the same words: "You must not be unwilling to study, be strong!"
I can't stand it either. I have never suffered all kinds of misfortunes over the years, but I have to rely on my daughter's success.
But I am my mother, I have to face it. Whether others encourage or stimulate, I have to digest all the bad emotions in the end.
accepts the reality of children's depression, which is the most important thing.
is difficult to accept at first, and it can’t be turned around. I always feel that there is nothing missing. I encourage you every day, so how can I feel depressed? Don't you want to work hard?
Later I thought about it, not wanting to work hard is just a superficial phenomenon, and behind it is the fact that there is a psychological problem with the child.
is sick and needs to be cured. I will take the medicine to prescribe. As long as it works, I will not refuse the medicine.
It is still very beneficial to go to the hospital. You will see many children seeking medical treatment and they will feel relieved in an instant. It seems that the child is not an isolated case.
Of course, the greater advantage of going to the hospital is that the doctor will communicate with the child and then convey the reasons for the child’s anxiety. Unexpectedly, in life, our inadvertent expressions will cause trouble to our children without us being aware of them.
Children should combine taking medicine and exercise.
The child has been to the hospital and has seen many peers have troubles, some of whom are still very scary manic, and she began to relax psychologically. She said, mom, it’s good that I didn’t go crazy, those people were so hideous.
Yes, I feel the same way. So we celebrated together, and I felt relieved that she could start talking.
Later, I started to accompany her for a walk, and I tried my best to cooperate with her when she talked about it. At first, I was very uncomfortable because she talked about games, ghost stories, and horror movies. These things cause me more or less psychological discomfort.
It’s spring, and the sun is good outside. I just recovered after the operation. Every day, we walk along the walking path. When we are tired, we stop and sit. We feel that we start to trust each other.
helps the child solve her most painful problem.
My ex-husband and I often communicate and think obesity is a very direct reason. When she was in junior high school, she lived in the school. The food in the school was greasy and brought a lot of food, so she started to gain weight in the second year of junior high school.
The third year of junior high school is even more serious. Every weekend I eat takeout, one person eats a nine-inch pizza, a pasta, one baked rice plus one mushroom soup . This is just a meal, not all.
After the high school entrance examination, it will be even more successful. Milk tea every day, completely let yourself go. So the weight soared to 203 pounds at one point. It's quite scary.
She refused to let her lose weight at the beginning. Later in March, I asked again when my mood improved, and she agreed.
I found a professional institution to cup and open acupoints for her. There was no pain. I could eat something, beef, chicken legs, and fruit. My weight dropped very quickly at the beginning, which gave her confidence. After
was reduced to 18, she wanted to exercise. Maybe she was too big and was too tiring to exercise.So she started walking on the treadmill every day, and with diet control, her weight dropped to 75 kilograms.
She began to regain confidence, and I knew that the revolution was half successful.
Emotional recurrence before returning to school.
In August, I was about to resume school, and my emotions began to recur. I went to take the test, but I couldn't pass it. She also often cried and refused to study. What to do if
is not resumed, it will be ruined if you don’t resume school. I found a way to contact her classmates to play, and my dad took her to play exciting games, pirate ships, roller coasters, and whatever exciting games are. I took another meal, traveled around and stayed in a hotel. The
test finally passed, and the doctor gave the diagnosis and was ready to resume school. This is the first step. I wonder if she can adapt to it when she arrives at school?
Thanks to the school’s care, the child fell in love with the school.
Fortunately, the school was very thoughtful. The head teacher of the new class completed all the procedures for her and arranged her life very considerately. After
resumed school, my phone ringtone reached the maximum and I didn’t turn off at night.
The first week, on Wednesday, called and cried. He said he missed me and asked her if she wanted to pick her up. She said she didn't.
The second week, I called at noon on Friday and said I was missing home, but I also shared some fun things.
The third week, I called on Friday night and arranged for me to get my phone and headphones.
job is no longer dragged.
In the past, whether it was a holiday or a weekend, homework was put at the end. It's different now. They are all quick and proactive in doing homework.
In the past, I used to write the easiest thing to do homework first, but now I start with the most difficult ones to write. This is progress, it is so important.
shared today, just to give to friends who have depressed children at home.
accepts children, treats diseases seriously, and is with love. I believe the child will get better!
