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In recent years, a vocabulary has emerged more and more in front of people's eyes. That's "anxiety." It seems that everyone will fall into anxiety and be unable to extricate themselves no matter what their current situation is. Many people are saying that even if they control themselves to maintain mindfulness every day, they will still be influenced by their emotions. Some people even said: "Based on the current situation, it is impossible not to be anxious. Every "now" is full of anxiety!" In fact, anxiety is the vagueness of the present, the fear of the uncertainty of the future, and even the feeling that everything you do is meaningless. of.
So how can we control anxiety? In fact, have you ever thought about what the antonym of anxiety is? Many people may say words such as calm, calm, peaceful and so on. But I would say the antonym of anxiety is actually "specific" . In fact, anxiety is a relatively empty word. When we talk about it concretely, you will not be very anxious. The root cause of anxiety caused by is actually that we tend to think too much and do too little, or we may not be able to do at all.
At this time, some people may say: "We are anxious because it is too specific. We will think about a problem in very detail. The more detailed it is, the more problems it will have, and the more problems it will have, the more anxious it will be." In fact, this kind of thinking only stops at thinking. The level of anxiety is the feeling of anxiety that comes to a head. If we really have a very specific understanding of something and we immediately take action to change it, then this is truly specific.
So how do we solve customer anxiety? At this time, we need to understand a principle. We gave it a fancy name, called the "Small Step Principle." Take one step first, then the second step and the third step. Anxiety is nothing more than the habitual thinking mode jumping out to protect you from harm, and it is the rigidity of thinking and understanding. Face yourself squarely, reduce your desires, hesitate and hesitate. Go do more specific things, specific little things. For example, read a book, take a break, talk to a friend, or even go outside to bask in the sun.
Reduce the deep internal consumption of thoughts and emotions, and use specific actions to relieve anxiety.
The true picture of anxiety: unconscious desires and unthought-out ambitions.
