With the popularity of the TV series "Meng Hua Lu", there are more and more discussions about Ouyang Xu on the Internet. Some people call him a heartless man, while others defend him and think that his blackening is really a result of being forced to do nothing. ; Others use birth theory to explain it, believing that Ouyang Xuās origin and ambition determine that he will climb up by any means necessary...
No one is born a bad person, and "Zimbardo General Psychology" is a book that is better than a novel. This introductory psychology classic will help you analyze how Ouyang Xu transformed from Zhao Paner's lover into a scumbag.
1. Personality is composed of many factors. Personality determines peopleās common behaviors.
Psychological research has found that people are not static. Most people believe that internal determinants such as genes, personality and personality traits together constitute the core self. , thereby determining peopleās common behaviors.
Personality is shaped by biological factors, situations and psychological processes, which all occur within a certain socio-cultural and individual growth background.
Personality includes all the psychological qualities and processes that provide continuity in an individual's behavior across time and situations. Ouyang Xu was a down-and-out scholar who failed in the imperial examination. He was penniless and dying in Qiantang . Fortunately, Zhao Pan'er rescued him and bought a land and house in his name, designed a household registration for him, paid for his education, and encouraged him. He took the imperial examination again and pursued an official career.
At that time, Ouyang Xu fell in love with Pan'er, a young woman from Qiantang who was smart, kind, courageous, beautiful, capable, and quite wealthy. He made a marriage contract and made a promise to her. At that time, Pan'er was the only light in his life, pulling him out of the quagmire and giving him a bright future full of hope.
At that time, a down-and-out scholar and a woman who had been in a music school were compatible in the eyes of the world. They have the same goal: one wants to become an official, the other wants to find a lover, and both want to change their own destiny.
There is nothing wrong with wanting to change your destiny, but the wrong way is the way to change your destiny.
2. The influence of genes and childhood environment on personality
In addition to genetic genes , the environment shapes personality through processes such as behavioral conditioning principles, cognitive learning, social psychology and epigenetic . Your parents not only inherit your genes, but also create an environment for your childhood. From a certain perspective, your parents are the foundation of your personality.
Ouyang Xuās parents do not appear in the play, but we can infer his parents and childhood living environment from some details. Ouyang Xu's family background should have been pretty good before the decline. After all, the family was backward in economics, but he still had a loyal servant and a small amount of money in the family to take care of for him.
However, as his family's fortune declined, his parents not only were unable to cope with this huge gap, but even pinned their hopes of revitalizing the family line on their son Ouyang Xu. We can see this from Uncle Deās painstaking teachings later. However, these are all too heavy for Ouyang Xu. If he works hard on his own step by step, his life may be ordinary and smooth. Unfortunately, his later experiences and his strong motivation to get ahead made him make the wrong choice.
After Ouyang Xu was selected as the top pick in high school, he took advantage of the situation and became the son-in-law of a high-profile observer. While he was telling Zhao Paner his hardships and helplessness, he was deliberately trying to please the high observers. It's not that he can't refuse, but he's unwilling to refuse the marriage.
So, he told Zhao Pan'er that he had no choice but to marry her as his concubine, and regarded this decision as a gift to Zhao Pan'er. After all, Zhao Pan'er once lived in a lowly family, which was not worthy of his status.
However, he had never clearly seen the woman Zhao Pan'er. Her father was a hero who did not hesitate to fight for the sake of the people. His chivalrous and noble character was engraved in Zhao Paner's flesh and blood. Of course she won't compromise.
3. Freud's triple structure theory of personality
The book "Zimbardo's General Psychology" compares the psychodynamic theories of various personalities. The representative figure is Freud, who is the core of his personality theory. The emphasis is on the unconscious.He believes that the unconscious is the hidden inner driving force of personality such as powerful impulses, instincts, motivations and conflicts.
He described personality as three structures composed of three forces: ego, id, and superego, and these three forces are constantly in conflict with each other. He thinks that the ego is like a child, always acting impulsively and regardless of the consequences. When Ouyang Xu felt that Zhao Pan'er's existence was a threat to him, and he blamed Zhao Pan'er for the humiliation he suffered.
Therefore, Zhao Paner has become a thorn in his side and a thorn in his flesh, and he can only deal with it quickly later. He almost strangled Zhao Pan'er to death with his own hands, and used the "Night Banquet Picture" to try to kill Zhao Pan'er.
The superego is a person's ideal self, his view of what kind of person he should strive to be, and our guide to action. Unfortunately, although Ouyang Xu has a clear goal of what kind of person he wants to be, he lacks moral norms and guidance on how to become such a person.
In his heart, he was extremely envious of Gu Qianfan. He always felt that Gu Qianfan could enjoy the shade with his back against the big tree, but he ignored that Gu Qianfan's medals were all earned at the risk of his life. Unfortunately, Ouyang Xu's life has gone off course.
Some people may say that the social culture and unfortunate experiences at that time were the key to Ouyang Xu's tragedy. We can't help but ask, if Gu Qianfan met these people, would his life be the same? The answer is no, because Gu Qianfan's personality has determined his fate. Just as there are no two identical snowflakes in the world, there are no two identical personalities.
Teacher Wu Zhihong once said: "Compared with talent, IQ, and EQ, personality is a person's core competitiveness." If a person is a machine, then personality is its chip, controlling our every word and deed. .
"Zimbardo General Psychology", as a classic psychology textbook, contains 14 introductory psychology knowledge such as mind, biological psychology, life-span development, personality, social psychology, etc., focusing on common problems in life. The core concepts in this field of psychology are strengthened in the transfer and application of theoretical knowledge through sections such as Try It, Write It, and Psychology Is Useful. It is not only suitable for professionals but also for psychology enthusiasts.
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