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The prejudice against older leftover women is more than just the comment section? Psychological counselors suggest: find someone who is divorced and does not take care of the children.
Followed a psychological counselor for a long time, and she taught her son to be kind to her daughter-in-law. After listening to a lot of her short videos, she also taught a girl how to manage her marriage. I feel that this psychological counseling teacher is knowledgeable and has a positive view.
Today, I found a video of her. The title of the video is: "It is better to find divorced and have no children than to find an unmarried person."
Her original words are: "A man wants to find a big girl, but after a man divorces, because he thinks he has never been married, then I said how old you are, you are, you are, you are, you are, 38,940 years old, you might as well find a divorced person, because he has a life.
This has no life at all, and the same is true for men. A man is in his 40s and has never entered a marriage. There must be many people. We call it that characteristic, it must not be easy to get along with. So, then you might as well find a divorced person, so you might as well find a divorced person. If you are married, you have no children.
If you have divorced, you have no children, you are the best choice. If you are divorced, you have no children, you have experience, and after he comes out of the first paragraph, he will reflect. Right, what I did wrong, he will reflect.
Those who have never experienced life experience, I tell you that you are absolutely absent from classes. In foreign countries, you are very old, you are not married, you have no children, and you will not give you important positions. He assumes that you have no sense of responsibility, because you have no family experience and cannot comprehend the sufferings of the people, so I said you think you are very good, but in fact, it is a defective product in the eyes of others."
I will immediately reach the age she mentioned.
I originally thought that only in the "comment area" can I see some people who generalize from the side and prejudice and slander against older leftover women. It turns out that even the so-called psychological counselor will tell other people not to look for older single women or older single men.
That’s right. In her remarks, it is not only older leftover women who have characteristics, but older leftover men are also included. And she believes that we, the so-called older single women and older single men, are all so-called "faulty products" in the eyes of others.
I left 2 messages below this video I gave her, but she did not reply to me.
In fact, no matter what the reason is that I am left, I have become an older single woman. We really can't stop worldly prejudice. I think there must be such people and such problems for those who think older single women and leftover men have psychological problems, but this must not be the entire population.
Today, I just wanted to write an article. The title originally reminded: "Advanced Single Woman: Who is "I"? And who is "you"?
The idea of my article is to say: "No matter how the outside world looks at us, the key is how we look at ourselves? How to define ourselves?"
Do you have any problems that the outside world discriminates against or even slanders of older single women?
If there is a "feature" mentioned by others, how should we correct it?
replied on the psychological counselor I followed: "If there is, correct it, and if there is no, encourage it. It doesn't matter how others define us. The key is how we view ourselves."
Whether it is an older left man or a leftover woman. I think we need to understand one problem.
is, you must clearly know "who are you"?
What do you like? What are your strengths? What kind of life do you want to live? What kind of partner do you think is suitable for you? It can also be said that what kind of partner do you want to find?
Really, I think most of my time is single.What I always think is: "I'm afraid of what I encounter, what I don't want, I've never thought about what I want, let alone what I don't know what is suitable for me."
Before I know how to understand myself clearly, I even know nothing about myself. I didn't think about my preferences and the life I wanted, which was also rough and general. If you don’t understand yourself and figure out what you really want, how can you work hard to realize your wishes?
In this world, some people are biased against older leftover men and women, and some are biased against divorced people. Even the psychological counselor I am following suggested that others find someone divorced, and emphasized not to take care of the children.
Hehe, in this set of remarks. In addition to thinking that older leftover men and leftover women are defective products, she also asked divorced men to find divorced women who cannot take care of children. Who will divorced women who take care of children provoke who?
Is it because I have divorced and have children, and I will no longer have the right to be happy?
Despite this, I still pay attention to this psychological counselor. Because some of the content in the short videos are still very rewarding to listen to. Therefore, we must understand "filtering bad information".
If it is useful to us, let’s listen and learn. If we have different opinions from our perspective, or if there is something wrong, then we will "change if there is something, and encourage if there is nothing."
Only we recognize ourselves and know who we are. Only by not being stabbed by other people’s words, even because we know ourselves enough, can we find the person who suits us, avoid detours, and get the partner and life we want as soon as possible.
What do you think?
This article is original by Huayang Emotional Theory. I wish every one who plagiarizes and transfers my article can be a happy "constipated baby" every day.
I wish you will fall silently when you walk " curb ". When your "blade cover is stuck", you can still get up quickly and smile from ear to ear.
