In daily communication, many of us subconsciously believe that we should focus on technical questions. In fact, this is indeed required in the process of using solution-focused short-term therapy, but they are the most basic The requirement is still to make a listening posture, which represents respect and acceptance of the other party. Only by making a listening posture can it be possible to establish a good communication relationship.
I just finished reading the relevant content in "Weird Psychology": Take the attitude of "hearing it for the first time". The author said that in communication, even if we already know something, we must adopt the posture of "don't know" and "hearing it for the first time". Whether it is an expert, family member or friend, when listening to the client's story about his or her own experience, it is easy to assume the attitude of "I already know about your matter." If this is the case, it will be difficult to act autonomously towards the client. A respectful listening gesture.
Blindly believing in these overly preconceived information will hinder listening to the other party. Don't say "I already know about you." The important thing is to use a blank paper that doesn't know anything yet. Treat the other party with the same mentality. Even if you have obtained some information in advance, you must adopt the attitude of "this is the first time I heard it" and respond to the other party's words with "I see". This can make the communication more favorable. direction.
In short, in future communications, we must communicate with the other party with an attitude of "knowing this information for the first time", and do not treat it with a preconceived attitude, because it is easy to act disrespectfully towards the other party. , even if we already know some information before, we must be modest and respectful to avoid missing some important information that is conducive to communication.
