Psychology: Why do some people always blame others? Probably lack this ability

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In today's society, everyone has their own personality type, and there is a personality that is called the accusatory personality. But most people do not have a deep understanding of accusative personality.

This kind of personality reflects social norms through blame. However, For others, living in this society must protect their own rights, and they must not be bullied and abused by others .

Satya (Satya) once clearly pointed out that every gesture of communication is actually rich in three levels:

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Not only that, but he also believes that communication gestures can also be divided into pleasing, accusing, super-sensible, distracting, and consistent.

If your partner has a blame-type personality, then married life often contains pain and helplessness. How should a blame-type partner face marriage?

People with accusatory personality tend to be better at finding faults and mistakes in others.And always like to use his own opinions to criticize and accuse others.

Once they find the shortcomings of the other party, they will enlarge it infinitely, so that the shortcomings completely overwhelm the other's strengths. Rules restrict the other party, it is difficult to realize their own problems, so often quarrels and disagreements with others.

In a marriage, the one who is accused of being denied will also experience emotional fluctuations in his heart. At first, he may argue with the other party for reasons and analyze things objectively with the other party, but as the other party blindly accuses , It will only make the negative party's heart gradually start to become negative.

He began to deny himself and produced a series of pessimistic emotions. He was supposed to be a happy married life, but under the opponent’s criticism and suppression, he became more and more painful. The level of marriage is gradually decreasing. Why do some people always blame others?

According to real data, the formation of many accusatory personalities is likely to have a great relationship with the native family.

If his parents have accusative personality, it means that the child has been criticized and suppressed by his parents since he was a child. When he grows up, children will imitate the way their parents educate themselves. Begin to blame others regardless of their feelings, and the first to be hurt is their future partner and children.

In fact,Many parents always like to put all their care on their children. This is understandable, but excessive petting will turn into spoiling.

Let children become a "little emperor" Self-centered, too self-centered, but ignore the consideration of other people's emotions, like to judge others, always weighs the lives of others with extremely high standards Principles, so such people tend to form accusatory personality when they grow up.

Most accusative personality lacks a kind of ability, a kind of ability that can give oneself a sense of security, so that one can calmly deal with uncertainty.

Many accusative personalities, habitually vent their dissatisfaction on others, and also call it a good name, wanting to make the other person more perfect, but in fact they are just using high-sounding reasons. Look for a scapegoat.

They are wrong, but they still don’t want to admit their mistakes. In their own eyes, everything they do is correct. In fact, this is already an arrogance. Psychology.

If we meet a partner with a blame personality, should not start to feel anxious or depressed because of the other's depreciation. We should look at the problem calmly and examine ourselves clearly.

When many people encounter accusative personality partners, once the other person starts to belittle themselves, then they cannot control their emotions.Want to argue with it.

But in fact, this approach is wrong, it will only stimulate the contradiction between the two people, and make a trivial matter that is not enough to be an irreconcilable contradiction.

Therefore, when we hear negative remarks from the other side, we should examine ourselves and know in our hearts that we are not such a person. We can keep our emotions calm, then praise him and praise him, but Don't be angry, let alone quarrel with him.

When we encounter accusative personality, instead of grasping the other's emotions, instead of letting him find his own problems, should learn to improve ourselves, increase the ability to control emotions, and be good at discovering ourselves Advantages, let yourself truly recognize yourself.

When the opponent judges himself again, he has enough courage and confidence to resist the opponent's voice. At that time, the interference of the accusatory personality on you is as insignificant as a feather.

In fact, accusative personality is a manifestation of insecurity. The reason they will accuse others is that they want to attract others' attention through their own means_spanstrongspan5 _strong14 .