There is a big psychology V on the Internet, whose account name is "Difficult Psychology". According to himself, he has published many works and won many honors.
He has a series of videos about how bad introverted personality is.
I summarized it. His main point is: based on the many cases he has experienced in psychology for many years and the research conclusions, it can be fully proved that introverted personality is a very important reason for mental illness, even suicide and crime.
or below is one of the typical cases he listed in detail. Let’s take a look at how ridiculous it is.
In 2003, this psychology expert held a training class called "Practical Counseling Practical Experience" in Wuhan. During this period, he met two sisters from Hunan. The sister was quite outgoing, while the sister studied for three days and was very introverted. So, the psychology expert told other students that he predicted that this sister would sooner or later schizophrenia , and that he had been very confident and waiting for his prediction to come true. As a result, three years later, the sister really suffered from schizophrenia. How about
? Isn’t it a bit funny?
This is like a person with abscess on his head. After seeing it, the doctor made a very confident prediction that sooner or later the person's head would be completely rotten, and then he kept waiting for his accurate prediction to realize so as to prove how powerful he is.
In other words, it is obvious that when this sister participated in the training class, she had psychological problems and even symptoms of depression, and she failed to receive timely treatment, which eventually led to her condition becoming more and more serious.
And this expert called "unique psychology" is indeed quite unique. Not only does it "do the opposite way", but he did not dig deep into the causes of the sister's psychological problems, but he directly regarded the disease as the cause and simply blamed all the problems on "introvert".
In addition to listing such ridiculous cases, he also quoted classics and came up with the view that "people of Taiyin" are so bad as discussed in " Huangdi Neijing " to prove his conclusion that "the person of Taiyin is not good".
However, the "Huangdi Neijing" explains it very clearly: people are divided into five types: people of Taiyin, people of Shaoyin, people of the Sun, people of Shaoyang, and people of Yin and Yang.
Among them, the first four types of people have different types and degrees of defects due to their own yin and yang irregularity. Only the last "Yin and yang peaceful people" have no shortcomings and are the most perfect.
Among them, the specific words about people in Taiyin are as follows: "People in Taiyin are greedy but not kind, with a clear and honest person, prefer to be in the inner but hate to come out, have a harmonious heart but not to be active, do not care about the time, and move afterwards. This is a person in Taiyin."
translated into vernacular: People in Taiyin lack kindness in their hearts, are sinister and cruel, cunning, have a deep sense of conspiracy, and do not show their emotions. They are very capable in their daily lives, but have no principles and no bottom line, and do whatever they want to achieve their goals.
Obviously, the description of "people in Taiyin" in "Huangdi Neijing" is based on the "personality" level, not the "personality" level.
In other words, there can be such insidious and cunning people among introverts, and there can also be such insidious and cunning people among extroverts.
For example, the mastermind in the kidnapping case of star Wu Ruofu Wang Lihua , after being arrested, he still made jokes with the police with a smile. How can you tell a hint of introversion?
For example, aren’t many of those gangsters and fraudsters also extroverts and clever?
So, whether intentionally or not, this so-called psychology expert obviously mistakenly equates "people of Taiyin" with "people of introverted personality".
List a few well-known people, Einstein , Dell Carnegie , Chen Jingrun , and Wei Dongyi , which one is not a restrained and introverted person, who has had mental illness, who has committed suicide, and who has committed a crime?
not only did not, but also achieved success and made indelible contributions to the entire human society.
At first I was shocked and confused about why a person who seemed knowledgeable and accomplished had made such absurd behavior.
Until I heard him say that he was a very extroverted person, and how he drank a lot when he went to Inner Mongolia and how he played boldly, I realized that it was very likely that he was because as an extroverted and bold person, he instinctively had subconscious disgust towards the "introverted personality" that was opposite to his attributes, which subtly created his extreme and wrong perception.
This is like, a person who is impatient and quick to do things, and encounters a slow and slow person, it is natural for two people to look at each other instinctively.
However, as an expert, especially a psychology expert, if you are led by your subconscious instinct and your own likes and dislikes, and conduct research on projects and solve psychological problems for others with an extremely lack of objectivity and rational way of thinking, it would be too unprofessional and too deceitful.
What’s even more terrifying is that as a psychology blogger with many fans, spreading such extreme remarks through self-media under the banner of experts is very likely to mislead many people and become disgusted with introverted people, thus causing "character discrimination" like "regional discrimination".
In fact, in real life, compared with "extroverted personality", the original living environment of "introverted personality" is not very good.
For example, in a company I performed my duties a long time ago, the company's senior management clearly told us that these sales team supervisors must not recruit introverts.
Later, I carried the pressure of the leader and left a salesperson who performed well during the probation period, was very motivated, but introverted.
This salesperson comes first every day and leaves the latest. He has poor expression skills. He communicates with customers through chat software regardless of work. As long as the customer has a little intention, he will pay out his own pocket to mail small gifts to the customer to establish a customer relationship .
In the end, this salesperson won wide recognition and praise from customers with his down-to-earth care, patience and resilience, as well as good empathy, and has won the sales championship repeatedly with his super high customer referral rate.
Before, we talked about the five types of people in the "Huangdi Neijing" are explained, namely: people from Taiyin, people from Shaoyin, people from the Sun, people from Shaoyang, and people from the peaceful yin and yang.
The question is here, which category does this psychology expert belong to?
"Huangdi Neijing" describes the "Sunman" as follows: "The Sunman lives in a place, talks about big things, is incompetent and speaks in vain, is determined to be a world, acts regardless of right or wrong, and is always used by oneself when doing things. Even if things fail, they always have no regrets. This is the Sunman."
means: The Sunman is arrogant and arrogant, often likes to talk big, ignores reality, and is very happy to be successful. Although he is in a prosperous and powerful way, he gives people a feeling of motivation, but he is high in his eyes and low in his hands and is ambitious.
