A consultant once shared a case:
In a mental hospital, there was a female patient who was advised to be hospitalized because of a ghost at home. The doctor diagnosed a hallucination.
When she stayed at home, she always felt that someone was poking her finger in the back, and she was too scared to look back.
Even in the daytime, she locked the door of her room, always worried that someone would break in.
The strange thing is that when she was hospitalized, there were no more ghosts, it seemed to disappear overnight!
What is the secret here?
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you are not afraid of ghosts
but your innermost secrets
In fact,Fear of ghosts is just appearance, and the real fear is hidden in her subconscious.
Psychology believes that 5% of our daily "conscious" thoughts are just the tip of the iceberg. The remaining 95% of are hidden underwater subconscious minds. Most of the secrets of human nature are hidden in the subconscious mind.
So, what is this female patient subconsciously aware of?
It turns out that she had the experience of being abandoned by her family in her childhood. subconsciously feared being alone , so she imagined that a ghost would come out to accompany her.
When she was sent to a mental hospital, she would not be in the company of others to think about it, and the ghost would disappear.
Psychology believes that from childhood, the subconscious will slowly accumulate and solidify life experience into real inner psychological characteristics, "project" into yourself and the things around you, and affect your Cognition and behavior.
This is the subconscious portrait.
it doesn’t perform very often,But it invisibly guides your judgment of yourself and the outside world, and controls your personality, cognition and behavior, and even destiny.
There is such a visitor:
he dares not to communicate with others, he does not understand the leadership I dare not speak out if I have thoughts in my heart, because I am afraid that others have opinions about myself.
Even if you encounter a problem that you don’t understand, because you are afraid of being blamed and questioned, you will conceal it. In the end, you will regret it , so I have always been the one who suffers the most.. ....
When asked what he was afraid of, he only answered 3 words: I don't know.
After analysis by the consultant, he discovered that it was his subconscious mind:
of.
This kind of subconscious fear can easily be projected onto other people.
Even if the boss himself is an amiable person,But in his subconscious mind, he would subconsciously fear, resist and avoid contact with him.
In fact, he was controlled by the subconscious " fear-walker " portrait. He felt that he was not worthy of love, not worthy of appreciation, and fear of being rejected.
When the consultant is aware of this problem, he gives advice: Remember, you are afraid of the person in your head, not the person in front of you.
This sentence, which seemed to have no so-called "technique", came into play at some point three days later.
In the meeting room, when the boss asked if anyone had a better idea, the visitor's mind suddenly popped up with the consultant's words, and he understood that he was not afraid of the boss.
At that moment, he raised his hand in a mysterious manner. What he didn't expect was that his performance was appreciated by the boss.
Since then, he has become more brave to communicate, try, and seize the opportunity for promotion.
can’t see the subconscious,It will prevent us from becoming better people.
However, when you open the door of the subconscious mind, recognize your inner weakness controlled by the subconscious mind, and try to improve it, you can get out of the psychological circle and start the path of life's transformation.
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How to see the subconscious and change fate?
Jung once said: The subconscious mind is manipulating your life, but you call it destiny.
- In life, you obviously want to make a lot of money, but the busier you get, the poorer you are, because subconsciously is accustomed to being a "poor", not worth it or believing that you can have better Life;
- When in love, you keep conflicting, proving love, and then disappointed in intimate relationships. conscious wants to get intimacy, but subconsciously rejects intimacy
- at work,You always feel that you haven't prepared well enough, you dare not fight for yourself, and you often miss opportunities. Well-planned, one hit is consciousness, is afraid of being different, and fear of making mistakes is your subconscious .
You know what to do, but the result goes in the opposite direction. Such " things go against your wish " is the tearing of consciousness and subconsciousness. To change yourself, you must first see what your subconscious portrait is.
In addition to the " trespasser" mentioned above, there are some common portraits that exist in our subconscious mind: the winner, the selfless, the one with a thousand faces...
Winner:
Surface consciousness: a strong sense of purpose, upward and then positive p
p0 that will make people disappointed. Once you fail, you tend to fall into anxiety and depression.
Selfless:
Surface consciousness: good affinity, enjoy interpersonal relationship
Don't dare to be alone. If abandoned, it is very easy to collapse
Thousand-faced:
: friendly, subconsciously sensitive, catering to others sensitive, low-consciousness Self-esteem, extremely insecure
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