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Lack of love is a very broad word.
Every person who lacks love has a deep desire to be loved, but the deep inferiority in their bones makes them feel powerless, like people in the abyss, longing for the vast blue sky, but they can’t touch them. .
Liu Xiao is a girl who is extremely lack of love in her heart. When she analyzes her life state, she said: "Every time I see those confident girls, I am envious, but I am unable to change, and then continue to feel inferior and enter the viciousness. Cycle."
This state of self-doubt also makes it difficult for her to make true friends.
From a psychological point of view, people who lack love are particularly sensitive in their hearts, and they will be very concerned about a little trouble in life, and they tend to go to extremes in the pursuit of being loved by others.
For example, in the process of interacting with friends, they will be overly concerned about the feelings of their friends, thus ignoring the suppression of their own inner thoughts, and blindly flattering others in order to gain recognition and love from others.
During their relationship with their lovers, they feel very insecure in their hearts. They don't believe that someone will love themselves, but they are very eager for love, so they will repeatedly test their partners to verify their innermost answers.
Every person who lacks love is essentially not loving himself enough. If a person does not even love himself, it is difficult to get the love of others.
interpersonal communication master Carnegie said: "Love is not about who wants to please others.But there is someone who likes the real you, you just need to be yourself.
In the process of interpersonal communication, it is indeed difficult for people who lack love to have real friends, but as long as they face up to their heart and work hard to change, they can also have a happy and beautiful life.
Generally speaking, People who lack love in their hearts often have these three characteristics, and learn to face them bravely and adjust themselves, which will make their life full of love.
01: Sensitive heart, easy to deny yourself, glass heart
knows that there is a question on : "What is the experience of having a glass-hearted friend by your side? "
Some netizens replied: "The person with the glass heart is very dangerous. She broke herself and she did not forget to break the glass slag to the people around her, so I advise everyone to cherish life and stay away from the glass heart. "
Some netizens said: "Glass-hearted people are actually very delicate. If you really want to be his friend, after a long time, it will be understandable.
There are two sides to everything. People with a glass heart will be more sensitive to the emotional changes of the people around them. If they can grasp the interpersonal relationship, they will be easily welcomed by others;
In interpersonal communication, everyone Willing to get along with people who make them feel comfortable, so they tend to associate with optimistic and positive people.
In interpersonal communication, everyone is willing to get along with people who make themselves comfortable, so they tend to associate To associate with optimistic and positive people.
If a person’s heart is too sensitive,Always convey negative emotions to the outside world, even if someone wants to make friends with you, it is easy to be dissuaded.
Some netizens shared their own real life experiences:
Liu Hui is a different kind of existence in the class. She has a mouthful of buck teeth, and she always speaks exclusively, never daring to look into the eyes of others.
Once upon a time, a classmate wanted to make friends with her, but simply asked "Why do you always speak so quietly", she covered her mouth and blamed others for mocking her buck teeth.
Over time, no one in the class would like to communicate with her, not only worried that she would be accused for no reason, but also afraid that she would cry out for no reason, so that others would misunderstand that they would bully her.
If a person's heart is too sensitive, it is easy to misunderstand the goodwill of others and block communication with each other.
From the perspective of psychology, this is essentially a denial of oneself and distrust of the outside world.
If you are a person who likes to deny yourself, you can be in your truest state. Use a pen to list your strengths and weaknesses, first learn to love yourself, and then slowly make up for your weaknesses.
02: Compromise, desire for love, please type personality
have you ever met good old people in your life? This kind of person hardly knows how to refuse other people's requests, even if they resist it in their own heart, they will be wronged and agree to others for a while.
is a typical pleasing personality from a psychological point of view.They will conceal their truest needs in order to satisfy the demands of others. People who lack love tend to yearn for love in their hearts, and the easier it is to beg for love in a humble manner, even if they are wronged to please others, they are willing to do so.
Lin Xin's parents divorced when she was young, and both of them used money to make up for their love for her, but they did not know that they developed their daughter into a flattering personality.
Lin Xi longed for the love of her parents since she was a child. Because she couldn't ask for it, she took friendship and love as the medicine for getting love.
She is almost responsive to her friends. She is as small as going downstairs to help her friends get express delivery, and she is as large as lending money to friends many times without any complaints.
She doesn't know how to judge the quality of friendship, as long as she is willing to get along with her, she will be full of enthusiasm for each other.
She had a good living condition, but she lowered her standard of living in order to lend money to friends.
Once, she lent all her money to a friend, and the two agreed on a time to pay back the money. But when she was about to pay the rent, her friend had already blacked her out.
The prerequisite for interpersonal relationships is equality. Blindly flattering will not only fail to get love, but will easily make yourself bruised.
The lack of love in childhood will affect our behavior in the future. Most people who lack love in their hearts deeply believe that they are not worthy of love.
If we want to change this situation, the key is to face our own past,Only by accepting who you were before can you really change.
As mentioned in the book "The Intimate Relationship of a Lifetime", there is a view: only one person is willing to explore his own past tense, and there is a chance to take back the control of love from the past model.
03: The mentality is easy to collapse, the sense of self-worth is low, and emotional
Life is inevitably going through wind and rain, and the mentality of people who lack love can easily collapse when the wind and rain come.
Lin Jing is particularly prone to collapse in the workplace. The boss said that she had made a mistake in her work, and she was easy to cry, and then she began to self-doubt:
"Do I really have the ability to do well?
"I'm so bad, my job will definitely fail."
"Anyway, I'm a dispensable person, so let's resign."
, the more people are scared It is easy to make mistakes. If a person who lacks love in his heart makes a mistake, he will often blame himself for the first time, thus believing that he is not good enough.
Only if you learn to trust yourself can you have a better life.
I hope that everyone who lacks love in their hearts can love themselves first, have the ability to create love, and start a happy life.
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