Zhuang Diexiaomeng / Seeing the essence through the story
An original emotional number
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People often say that there is no age to marry, only people who should get married.
To some extent, this sentence does have a certain truth. If you don't meet the most suitable person, you won't be happy even if you get married. This sentence of
is to warn everyone not to get married indiscriminately, and make a decision after thinking about some things. There is nothing wrong with it.
is just that many people's attitude towards marriage is too stubborn. They set a high standard in their hearts, and even disdain early marriage, so that they eventually become older men and women.
If the economic conditions are particularly strong, it does not matter whether you are married at the age of 40 or 50. After all, you do not have to worry about raising children. If you are just ordinary people, this matter will seem difficult for everyone.
If you have no experience in this area, you can observe the lives of those around you. Many parents in their twenties are relatively energetic. At this time, they can raise their children well and exercise more discipline on them. In addition, everyone can make money desperately.
After all, everyone’s body and energy are the best at this time, but if they are in their forties, everyone’s energy and body will drop significantly. Even some things in the workplace are not controlled by everyone, plus family The pressure, the child is still young, everyone will really fall into difficulties.
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neighbor Lao Wang is forty-five years old this year, his child is only six, and he has just entered the first grade of elementary school.
Lao Wang is not a rich man. He just bought a house and a car through his own efforts. His monthly income is more than 10,000. Some people may think that this standard is not bad, at least it will not let his family live too much. Poor, but he himself is very dissatisfied with the current life.
As for the reason, it was naturally that he had tasted the pressure brought by his age. When he thought that his child was still young, and the future was unknown, he felt extremely panic.
Lao Wang was also a foolish person when he was young. At that time, he was confused every day. He never had any plans for his life. His relatives and friends urged him when he reached the age of marriage, but he was not willing to cross. Entering the palace of marriage, perhaps because of the pursuit of freedom at that time.
When men are pursuing freedom, they often ignore the path of the future. When a man is young, he will never consider the hardships and difficulties of old age.
This is the true portrayal of Lao Wang. When he was in his twenties or even in his early thirties, he had no idea about marriage. He felt that it would be fine to live alone. He didn't start until he was thirty-five. Feel how terrible a person's life is.
As we all know, as a person grows older, his body will decline. This is what he can feel. At that time, he suddenly felt that if he lived alone in the future and no one cares about it, it should be something What a terrible thing, so he went around looking for people to help him introduce him.
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But he is old, it is really difficult to find a suitable partner. People of the same age have been married and have children, and young girls despise him for being too old. When he was 38 years old, he married a couple. The woman who married with a daughter is his current wife. When
was thirty-nine years old, he had his own son, and at that moment he seemed to have new hope in his life.
, but after having a child, he discovered what kind of hard work it takes to raise a child.
Raising children has never been an easy task. It requires not only material conditions, but also more energy. For a middle-aged person who is no longer young, this matter will be particularly difficult.
Lao Wang always struggles to educate his son. In addition, his son is very naughty. He doesn't know what to do. Sometimes he is very upset. After all, his work is very busy.
When young, many men thought that they would have a successful career when they were in their forties, but in fact many men in their forties just have a jobOnly, the most terrifying thing is that they will encounter professional crisis.
As long as you are not a civil servant, everyone is in danger of losing your job. In addition, you are not young anymore, and you are not a powerful executive, so you will inevitably encounter some problems in your work. At this time, he discovered that getting married late is really a terrible thing, because he is an ordinary person. He has to support his family, educate his children, and deal with life and work. , And all of this is somewhat powerless for him.
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Ordinary people getting married late is a bit similar to asking for trouble.
Many leftover men say that men should marry later, so that there are material conditions and the child will not suffer hardship after the birth. In fact, this is just self-comfort. .
The world obeys the 28 law. Eighty percent of people in this world are ordinary people. The best life for ordinary people in their lives is probably to have a house and a car, without worrying about food and clothing, and want to be rich It is basically impossible.
In other words, as long as you work hard, you can buy a house and a car at a certain age. After all, this is just a need for life, not an advantage.
When we were in our twenties, we got married and had children. When we were in our thirties, we were able to buy a house and a car. We stayed single until we were in their thirties. In the end, we could only buy a house and a car, which also delayed the best years of marriage. , It is not worth the loss.
also has a house and a car, other people's children are already in elementary school or even junior high school, but you have just entered the palace of marriage.
The biggest disadvantage of getting married at an older age is that they are unable to do what they want, raising children, taking care of the family, and working hard. These are like huge mountains weighing on everyone.
If you are still young, these are naturally not a problem. After all, you have the body and energy to carry it. If you are not young anymore, and your physical fitness and energy are not as good as before, then this is a very troublesome thing.
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The biggest fear of getting married at an older age is that your child has not grown up yet, but you are old.
Let’s imagine, if you are in your forties, your child has just entered elementary school, which means waiting until you are six. At the age of ten, the child may not have graduated from college.
In the future, he will buy a house, a car, and marry a daughter-in-law, and you can’t help at all. If you want to be an irresponsible parent and let your child lose on the starting line, you don’t have to worry about it. , But most parents want to let their children live a better life.
Compared with what a child needs when he grows up, everything that everyone faces before he grows up is the most terrifying.
When you are in your 40s or 50s, you have been worrying about life, about work, worrying about which day you will be unemployed, and your children are in need of spending money and their future is uncertain. At this time, you will fall into In a complete panic.
Based on the above, everyone should think of the stakes.
It is always wise for an ordinary person to get married early, so that you can avoid the situation of powerlessness.
Don't compare with rich people. You are not at the same level. Ordinary people should do the same as ordinary people, so as to avoid suffering for themselves and their children.
Zhuang Diexiaomeng / Original author of the emotional column
May your life be full of surprises, and may your happiness come as scheduled.
