, Li Zi also published articles such as "spare tires, scumbags", and every time I talk about it, I really feel distressed for the old iron who has had similar experiences.
Originally, our longing for love was "one couple for life", anyone who expected to find a "shared girlfriend" would feel aggrieved.
does not take the initiative and refuses to be irresponsible. While squeezing your wallet, you have to be on standby 24 hours a day; if you are hot and cold, it can affect your heart at any time.
The kite-flying tricks of bad girls really played a lot of old iron around. The most important thing about
is that they are also good at disguising. Many times they don't even realize that these behaviors are scumbags.
However, as the old saying goes, iron requires hard work. Since we can't know ourselves and the enemy, then we can only increase our awareness of slag prevention from the inside, so as to avoid poisoning.
In this issue, Chestnut will share the four “slag prevention rules” to help you stay away from scum girls and avoid becoming a spare tire.
Code 1: Don’t expose
prematurely. What is the sense of need? Simply put, it is the desire to do something, or the intensity of something.
In a relationship between the sexes, the more you like each other, the stronger the sense of need. Although
says, "Say love out loud", it is not a good thing to expose the sense of need prematurely.
For example, when some Lao Tie first met a girl, he frequently chatted with each other, responding to messages in seconds and responding to requests, which clearly meant that they liked each other.
After seeing your performance, a girl can basically be sure that you want to chase her. If she has not considered whether to accept your love at this time, she will choose to wait and see.
As a result, girls are in full control of the relationship, and you must meet any requirements you make of you afterwards, and the more you do, the psychological threshold of girls will continue to increase.
For example, if you have achieved seven points now, she will expect you to achieve ten points. With this kind of continuous wait and see, she has more and more needs, and she enjoys this kind of flattering feeling.
In her opinion, anyway, if you maintain the status quo, you can get all of your good. Then she will naturally not be willing to upgrade the relationship with you. Over time, you will become her long-term spare tire.
Sometimes it's not that girls want to scum, but the old guys lick it too clearly. If you want to avoid becoming a licking dog spare tire, you must not expose your sense of need prematurely.
For example, in chat, you can take the initiative to find a girl to chat, but don't contact as soon as you have time. In the early days of acquaintance, chatting 3-4 times a week is enough.
When replying to a message, you don’t need to reply every second. If you can’t grasp the rhythm, follow the girls’ reply frequency.
If she goes back in seconds, we will go back in seconds; if she reincarnates, then what should we do.
Rule 2: Don't pay without asking for return
Treat the person you love, we all want to give him the best, and your kindness can really move the other person.
For example, when a girl is in a bad mood, she silently acts as her emotional trash can; when a girl feels unwell, she is busy taking care of her; when a girl needs help, she will try her best to help. These behaviors of
can indeed move girls, but being moved does not mean liking. If they are equal, it is just out of guilt.
So in a relationship, don't forget to ask for rewards while paying.
always remember that giving is valuable, and you want me to treat you well, but you have to pay for this relationship accordingly.
Rule 3: Keep in mind the difference between licking and petting
We man can pet girls, but we must not lick girls. Many old irons cannot distinguish between licking and petting. Let me explain in detail below.
First of all, you have to understand that as long as you meet true love, you are good to girls. It is love, tolerance, and even indulgence from the heart.
is like a father who asks his daughter to crawl over his head and grab her hair. He is still happy. At this time, his heart is soft, his eyes are gentle and joyful, and his expression is relaxed, so petting is a kind of enjoyment.
Compared to this, licking is tangled and painful. In the process, he was forbearing, not enjoying.
Here, chestnuts warn fellow males, a girl who is worthy of being loved by boys, must be a girl who knows how to advance and retreat, and has a sense of measure.
A girl who blindly asks boys to let her go, it is impossible to get true love.
Rule 4: Never subconsciously rationalize self-behavior
Psychologist Freud once said: "When a person is in a pain that cannot be overcome and cannot be avoided, he will fall in love with this pain. Look at it. Into happiness". What
says is actually a self-defense mechanism-rationalization.
What is rationalization? Simply put, it is to create "reasonable" reasons to explain and conceal self-harm.
The reason why someone becomes a spare tire and chooses to forgive is because subconsciously rationalize the other's behavior.
For example, girls are very enthusiastic about you at first, and then gradually become colder, you will rationalize that because girls are more reserved, they become colder.
When you find that she is ambiguous with other boys, you will feel that you think too much or ask too much. This is how
people will continue to explain unreasonable phenomena, in fact, they want to use seemingly "reasonable" excuses to avoid harm.
So in the relationship, the old guys still have to establish their own frame, stick to their own bottom line and principles, don't think about going with the situation, your will, in the eyes of the other party, it is estimated that it will also be.
Conclusion: No one at
wants to make the love he truly gives becomes a scam, and he does not want to look cheap in the eyes of his lover.
So always remember that only if you become precious enough, others will cherish you.
For those scumbags who play with other people's feelings, Li Zi also wants to say: truly attractive people will not rely on the number of spare tires to prove themselves, maybe you have countless spare tires, it is because you are cheap and versatile!
