by Xueluowuchen
If you ask women, what is the biggest pain to them in their married life? Their answer must be: the betrayal of the lover.
is true. For any woman, betrayal is undoubtedly the man she loves the most. She stabbed it in her heart, and this wound is hard to heal.
Faced with the injury of the other half, some women chose to bear the humiliation for the integrity of the family and let the injury continue to erode themselves. And some women bravely walked out of the pain and became the best self.
So, when people are middle-aged, when they find their husband betrayed, is it forbearance or separation? Her approach is worth learning from women.
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Her name is Li Rong, 47 years old this year, and like all women, she completely broke down when she learned that her husband had betrayed her.
has been married for so many years, and her married life is not at all satisfactory.
In the first few years when she gave birth, she had to take two children alone, and she had to do all the housework at home. Not only did her mother-in-law not help at all, she provoked the relationship between their husband and wife. The mother-in-law
accused her in front of her more than once, saying that she ate idle meals at home and did not earn a penny, so she waited for a man to feed her. Husband is also affected by her mother-in-law, and usually doesn't have a good face to her.
Once she was cooking, and her son was sitting in the stroller and cried, so she asked her husband to help coax her, and her husband immediately reprimanded her loudly, saying she was really useless. Isn’t it just taking a child and making a meal? None of this can be done well.
Her heart was cold, and after thinking about it, she decided to leave this home with her two children. A friend of
had a facade house in the city, which could be rented to her at a low price to open a small shop. She packed up and set off without much thought.
Initially, her husband stayed in her hometown, she had to take care of the shop alone, and she had to take care of the two children, so she was very busy. A year later, the business of the small shop was booming, and she was too busy, so she asked her husband to come to the city to help.
Although they are very busy every day, after leaving their mother-in-law, the relationship between their husband and wife has recovered a lot, and even the number of quarrels has been reduced a lot.
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Li Rong originally thought that all the hardships she had suffered were over, and that their family of four would just live a plain life like this, but she didn't know that she would face even greater hardships.
During that period, my husband said that he would go back to his hometown to see his parents, but he didn't come back for half a month after he left, and the phone was always turned off.
If it wasn't that her daughter was sick and she called her mother-in-law's house, she might have been kept in the dark. Because of her daughter's appendicitis, Li Rong couldn't contact her husband, so he called her mother-in-law's house.
But her mother-in-law told her that her son hadn't returned to her hometown and hadn't contacted them for a long time. Li Rong was dumbfounded at the time, and her husband didn't go back to his hometown, so where could he go?
Later, a friend told Li Rong that he saw her husband in the city and was shopping affectionately with a woman, and the friend sent her the photo. The man in the photo of
is Li Rong's husband. He is holding a woman's waist tightly. This is already a clear fact, and there is no need to doubt.
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Unexpectedly, her daughter fell ill and was hospitalized, but she accidentally revealed her husband's "secret", and she angrily filed for divorce.
Li Rong did not stop the couple, but quietly wrote a divorce agreement.
That night, she made herself cry enough. After crying, she told herself to calm down. Her daughter was in the third year of junior high school and was about to face the entrance examination for high school. She could not let this affect her daughter.
The next day, my husband came back and continued to weave lies in front of her. He said that the two elderly people in the family were not in good health, so he stayed for a few more days... The written divorce agreement was handed to him, and finally said to him: After signing, leave immediately.
When people reach middle age, life is all helpless, the love between husband and wife is gone, elderly parents need to take care of them, children’s studies need to be cared for, everything has to go on.
Li Rong was not crushed by these hardships. After the divorce, she relied on her thin shoulders to shoulder the important task of this small family.
With her efforts, the shop has been changed in a few yearsAfter changing the head, it has now become a medium-sized supermarket. This year, my daughter passed the entrance exam to a prestigious university, and his son also entered a local key high school.
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actor Liu Mintao once said: "I don't believe that fatigue and numbness are the background color of middle-aged people. Middle-aged is actually the best time for a woman." Z1z
Yes, middle-aged should be the best time for every woman. Beautiful season.
After years of baptism and precipitation, they finally know how they should live in the future, how to treat themselves well and enjoy life, and they have also found their happiest and most comfortable appearance.
Maybe each of us will encounter a lot of setbacks in our life, but in the face of various setbacks, if there is no one to shelter you from the wind and rain, then we must learn to overcome obstacles and face everything.
As long as you work hard for it, you will surely be able to use your stubborn pride to live a wonderful life that no one can match.
watched this year's popular variety show "Sister Riding the Wind and Waves", I feel more and more that it is not the female stars who come to this show to be called "Sister Riding the Wind and Waves".
Every middle-aged woman who works hard for it in life is actually a "sister who rides the wind and waves."
Marriage is probably the most important thing in a woman's life. But marriage is also risky. It is not that two people love each other, and they will last forever.
In the long married life, we will also encounter many setbacks. Even a close couple may not be able to go on. When it comes to such a moment, women are often hit hard.
Because of the failure of marriage, some women will be devastated and go to the rest of their lives in a muddle-headed manner, but some women can stand up bravely and embark on a wonderful life for themselves.
So women, I hope you can have a strong heart and independent courage to hold onto your marriage. In this regard, there is a set of books on the growth of women, I hope you can come and read it.
In this series of books for women with a strong inner heart, it will help you to find the direction of happiness again, lose the fragility in the heart, let the heart slowly become stronger, and have enough strength to deal with the ups and downs of life and marriage .
Actually, in this life, we can only rely on ourselves most of the time. If this is the case, try to make yourself stronger, at least, you can live real and have what you really want.
