"The Truth of Marriage": Marriage is not a system at all, it is just companionship. The cooling-off period is of little significance!

1: Marriage is not a system, but companionship

Recently, the hottest topic is the divorce cooling-off period.

The divorce rate continues to increase in recent years, and more and more people choose to be single after divorce. What is more worrying is that not only has the divorce rate increased, but the marriage rate is also gradually decreasing. Many young people do not get married directly, and more and more young people choose to live alone. The cooling-off period for divorce arises from time to time.

However, many people have suggested that if two people are infinitely disappointed in the marriage, even if this cooling-off period is long, the marriage may be difficult to save. Marriage cooling-off period cannot fundamentally solve marital problems, and saving the divorce rate is yet to be determined.

So many people questioned pessimistically, will the marriage system die out?

actually don't have to worry about this, because marriage requires understanding and rationality. The famous psychologist Li Zixun of

briefly summarized the essence of marriage as "marriage is a companionship." From this point of view, marriage is not originally a system. After recognizing the truth, it is not difficult to manage marriage. The author of

pointed out that the reason why many people cannot find a soul mate, or marriage fails, is that they do not understand the nature of marriage.

Marriage and love are not the same. It is based on the development of people’s mentality. It requires frank dialogue. It needs to transform the intimacy between the sexes into true intimacy and love. It also requires constant self-reflection and growth and self-improvement. In order to make a marriage eternal.

Teacher Li Zixun is the first person to study postmodern psychology. In "The Truth of Marriage", he selected 25 sensitive marriage psychology topics, and analyzed the knack of managing a good marriage for us in the way of dialogue: Don't hold fantasies to be the truth, and to implement it is to succeed.

2: Managing marriage, transforming the intimacy between the sexes into true intimacy and love

"The Truth of Marriage" has no boring psychological terms. It is a book about marriage psychology that everyone can read through storytelling. The protagonists of the

story are Mr. Zimu and Mrs. Zimu.

Mr. Zimu and Mrs. Zimu have a sweet love. Before they got married, they also had pre-marital anxiety. After they got married, they faced many marital problems. From two people to two people forming a family, to three people, or more family members running the family together, they both raise questions and reflect on the conversation.

For example, on their wedding anniversary, do you need to surprise each other? Sometimes they think that the other party will make troubles when they communicate, struggle for the second child, nervous about the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, and conflict for raising children. Tangled with private money, fearing that the other party will cheat by meeting a better person in the marriage, etc.

has both major problems in principle and minor problems. These problems are almost the commonality of marriage.

Teacher Li Zixun first put forward his own point of view, marriage must be managed.

He believes that marriage grows from the seeds of love, which expands its inner meaning and connotation. This passion will fade and the nature of interdependence will gradually emerge. It takes two people in the marriage to realize, help each other, and respect each other in order to obtain the happiness of marriage.

He made us recognize that marriage is not only a union of two people, it is also a union of two families, a fusion of two family habits and values. We must face the conflict between two family cultures and the conflict between two family habits. For example, you have to deal with the relationship with the elders and cultivate the relationship with the children.

In marriage, we must first know how to tolerate, and secondly, we must control our own emotions, have more companionship, know how to be rational, know how to add interesting things to life, and let both parties have equal rights to determine the mode of life. Z3z

may say these things, we all understand. Nowadays, the concept of marriage management is overwhelming. But in order to manage the marriage well, it is also necessary to implement the marriage to the details. Details are the key to the success or failure of a marriage.

For example, how to integrate into marriage, establish an effective model, and so on.

3: The happiness of marriage is related to the development of mental ability

So what is the happiness of marriage related to?

In real life, we often see such phenomena. Marriage is not a good match, Siblings, old and young, and even the growth environment of some families, income, etc., are not directly proportional. But these marriages did not fail, showing that others envied their own happiness.

In the book "The Truth of Marriage", the author points out a very important point. The happiness of marriage is actually related to the development of mental ability. The relationship between husband and wife is what determines the direction of a happy marriage.

There is a causal relationship between the mental ability of each person in the marriage and their respective native families and even their growing habits.

Therefore, everyone who enters marriage must learn to reflect on themselves, starting from examining and decorating their hearts, to understand marriage in a true sense. We must know that the original family has a great influence on our marriage. But our lover can let us grow up again, and learn from each other these influences because of close relationships, and slowly change. At the same time, we must also be clear that in order to maintain our own view of marriage, to destroy our own marriage is not worth the loss.

Marriage is like life, it will be different at different stages. In conflicts and troubles, we must clearly realize that it is very important to respect each other, give more power to each other, and allow both sides to explain themselves from the perspective of empathy. The author of

gave us an important reminder at the end: we must realize that the most important thing in marriage is one person's affairs. Only when one person has perfected himself can we manage the lives of two people well, and can also balance well. The relationship of the whole family.

This is something we must keep in mind.

Amway this book!