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Love is a very beautiful emotion, and it has an extremely important position in life. Because of love, there will be marriages, children, and a better life. Two people who never knew each other met in a huge crowd, and then they knew each other and fell in love, and joined hands to enter into marriage. This is the fate cultivated in the previous life.
Marriage must be based on love. If there is no love, this marriage will not be happy. Love is not a fixed pattern. Different people have different types of love. As long as the person feels happy in each type of love, you don't have to insist on what you want.
Of course, love and marriage must meet the requirements of law and morality. Law and morality are a kind of behavior criterion. Without this criterion, people will easily lose their way. Because love is so beautiful, makes people intoxicated and does not know the north, south, east and west, and finally makes a mess.
people have to be loyal to marriage after they have a marriage. This is the bottom line of marriage. Whether it is a man or a woman, as long as one party breaks the bottom line of the marriage, the marriage will not be happy. Even if there is no divorce due to various objective reasons, the pain will never be erased, at most it will just not be mentioned again.
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People tend to have greed, and they obviously have a happy marriage, but they still think about an affair outside of marriage. This is full of eating in the bowl and looking at the pot, as soon as there is a chance, I will eat the pot immediately.
has nothing for nothing in the world, extramarital affairs are really charming, it has the beauty of love, but does not need to bear the responsibility of marriage. Therefore, there are always people who are eager to find extramarital affairs. Some men are even proud of it and feel that they can eat well and have the ability.
Extramarital affairs are like fireworks in the night sky. They are indeed bright, but they are fleeting. After the fireworks are on, it will be endless troubles and will make you pay painful generations.
Since ancient times, the word "color" has a knife. A person who is greedy for beauty outside of marriage will sooner or later lose to this beauty. This is an eternal law, and you are no exception. So it's better to be a down-to-earth person. If you don't like that person, don't get married.
03
If you find that the person is inappropriate after getting married, you can get a divorce. Now is the age of freedom of marriage. No one will force you to marry someone, and no one will force you to grow old with someone you don’t like.
Marriage is a contractual relationship in the final analysis, so we must abide by the spirit of contract. If the couple can't live together, then choose a divorce. Maybe you will say that he refuses to divorce, or can't leave, then give him some time.
Everything needs a process. You originally promised to live your life with others, but now you are about to file for a divorce halfway through. This is your change of mind. In such a situation, if you don't give others some time to accept and don't compensate them, of course they can't accept it for a while.
Sometimes haste is not enough. You can't act too hastily. You have to walk around and think twice. Perhaps in the course of this consideration, you have changed your mind. There is no couple in the world that is always smooth sailing. Life will always encounter ups and downs.
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If you think about it, you still think you can’t live with him, then divorce is not a bad thing. Marriage is for happiness, divorce is also for happiness, let each other a way to survive.
When you are divorced and become single again, you can find new happiness. At this time you will be very free, you don't need to be sneaky, and be honest with the person you like. But if you have not yet divorced, then you are not qualified to pursue another opposite sex, which is not good for anyone.
Extramarital affairs are like poppies, which can make people infatuated and poison people quietly. There are a lot of juniors. When you were just with her, she didn't want anything and acted very indifferent. She kept saying that she loves you, as long as she is with you, she doesn't care about anything.
But when you are really with her, after having a relationship with her, you will know that things are not that simple. She doesn't really care nothing, she doesn't love you as much as she said, she needs the same as your original wife needs.
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people have similar needs. His wife wants to grow old with you, and wants to live a solid life with you. If Xiaosan takes this relationship seriously, then she also needs these things, then after you date her, she will force you to divorce sooner or later.
You want to have a wife at home, a lover outside, and enjoy the blessings of all people. This is beautiful! Love has always been xenophobic. The ancients had three wives and four concubines, but in these families, do you know how many fights, tears and pain?
is now monogamous, and that woman can no longer share the same man with other women. The same is true for men. They can't accept a wife who has a lover, which is an insult to a man.
If Xiaosan is not taking this relationship seriously, then she must have another attempt. She wants to get other things from you, such as money. Anyone who does things has a purpose and will think of giving back. Even if she hasn't mentioned it for a while, it will be raised sooner or later, and those who come out will have to pay back sooner or later.
Therefore, every married person should not touch the extramarital affairs. It is a matter of digging their own graves. You should live steadily with your spouse and love each other as a family. This is happiness.
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