In our lives, there is such a phenomenon: when we are praised and affirmed, we will be very happy. We are often frustrated when others point out our shortcomings. Why is this? In fact, as long as we understand the reasons, it is not difficult to find solutions; and once we unders

In our lives, there is such a phenomenon: when we are praised and affirmed, we will be very happy. We are often frustrated when others point out our shortcomings. Why is this? In fact, as long as we understand the reasons, it is not difficult to find solutions; and once we understand these reasons, we can get rid of these problems.

In marriage and love, why do some people get praise and affirmation from others? That’s because they know they deserve praise and recognition. So the question is: Why do some people know that they are worthy of praise and support?

• . They believe that they are worthy of being praised.
• In marriage and love, when we receive praise and affirmation from others, we will feel: "Ah! I am worthy of being praised." However, in real life, not everyone can know that they are worthy of being praised and supported. In our lives, some people will feel that "I did not do well and did not get his recognition"; others will feel that "I did well, but the other party did not recognize me very much". These are normal phenomena. And once you realize this, you can think of ways to change the situation.
• In fact, like many celebrities, they will self-evaluate and rate themselves on their performance in life. For example, Zhang Ziyi 's performance in "Very Quiet Distance" received extremely high praise - "She did a great job"! This shows that Zhang Ziyi has inserted herself into the role in the play; she already knows that she is worthy of being praised.

• So as long as you adjust yourself, you can change this situation. In fact, from another perspective, many people are often confused when faced with compliments from others, and do not know how to respond and how to express themselves to make others happy. But if you understand: Praise is very important to a person, you won’t be confused!
• Because you know how important this "compliment" is to you - how much value it brings to you! The main reason why you feel confused is that you do not have enough sense of value. So what can you do to get more compliments from others? Very simple!

• Step 1: Make a positive evaluation of yourself.
• Step 2: Find a suitable time and occasion to respond affirmatively to yourself; this is the best way!
• Step 3: Find an advantage that fits your own characteristics and can have a positive impact on others, and then praise it (such as: "You did a good job"); and on this basis, use more affirmations to respond and express your own sense of value (such as: What will I do if I encounter a similar situation next time). I believe that as long as you can do these three steps, you will not be far away from getting more praise from others!

• . They will discover what supports them.
• This is because when a person knows that he is worthy of being appreciated and affirmed, he will find that what supports him is not only the other party's affirmation and praise of you, but also something deeper. That is, this recognition brings more value: In my opinion, recognition and praise can bring us two huge benefits: first, it will make us gain confidence, and second, it will make us feel loved.
• These two points are difficult for many people to do, but they are both present. When a person knows that he is worthy of recognition, he will have a strong self-confidence. This self-confidence is not like an affirmation or approval of external things, but an affirmation and recognition of his own inner abilities and values.
• Just like when a person has a certain degree of self-confidence when being praised by others, he will find: If I can make myself better, then I will also become better. Therefore, he will no longer deny himself or others: even if others have given him many pertinent comments and suggestions.

• And when a person is praised by others, this sense of self-affirmation will make him more confident. It's like there are always some people in our workplace who like to say "Why are you so bad?" And when others praise you for your excellence, you can confidently say: This is what I should do! I am already very good! If you say: "It's fine if I'm not as bad as you!" it will only make the other person feel more sad: because it's really not easy for you to be together! ! !
• On the contrary, when a person is recognized and praised, they will also feel happy and happy. It is definitely a good thing if a person gets recognition and praise from the other person. Because it can make them feel happier; because others can learn something from them; and at this time, others are doing it for you, right? ! Another benefit is: when we feel good about doing something, we are more likely to do it in the future; when we find that we are lacking in some aspects, that is naturally a good thing! !
• Because it's like a child growing up to be an actor - he now has so many opportunities to act! |||When you want to have more opportunities to show yourself. At this time, he will definitely become more than just a good actor. And a person who deserves to be praised and affirmed will naturally get more opportunities to perform and show himself! ! !

• . They are not perfect, but they are worth it.
• Just like our life, it cannot always be perfect. In marriage and love, you will definitely find that those who love you are not perfect, and they even have many shortcomings. And all this is normal for those who are praised and recognized.
• If you really want to be an excellent person, then you should accept and learn how to be an excellent person; and for those who do not know how to accept praise and recognition, you should also understand: Praise and recognition are very good positive emotional tools; use this positive emotional tool to inspire others to achieve the goals we want to achieve.