If you marry a husband who loves you, you will be very happy for the rest of your life, but if you marry a husband who doesn't love you, your life will be very painful for the rest of your life;
And if you marry a husband with good conditions and a husband with not very good conditions, your life will be very different.
Some people say that if you marry a rich husband, you will have no worries about food and clothing for the rest of your life, and the two of you will save at least ten years of struggle.
Many women hope that men can be their cash machines. However, in fact, it is not so easy for men to become women's cash machines. They are very realistic when it comes to marriage.
When getting married, not only will the woman choose the man, but the man will also look at the woman's conditions.
The woman will either bring him good fortune or bring him a good future. If there is neither, at least it cannot be a drag on him, and at least the two of them must be equally matched.
The story of friend Wenwen is a vivid example.
Wenwen and his partner Xiao Zhao are classmates in university. Wenwen is very beautiful. She also has a gentle personality and is very shrewd in doing things. She is the kind of girl who combines virtuousness and talent.
Wenwen had no mother since she was a child, and her father single-handedly raised her and her younger brother. Because she was born in a rural area, her family's financial situation was not very good, and her father had little financial resources. In order to support her in college, her younger brother only finished junior high school and then returned home to work in farming.
Xiao Zhao's conditions are much better. Both his parents are civil servants. When Xiao Zhao reached the age of marriage, his parents bought him a building early. His parents urged him to get married several times, just waiting for him to take his girlfriend home.
Wenwen and Xiao Zhao have been together in college for three years. After graduation, both of them worked in an private company .
Although neither of them makes much money, they are relatively stable. They have paid all the insurance required by the company, and it is considered a good company in the local area. After
's work stabilized, the two began to talk about marriage. Wenwen visited Xiao Zhao's home several times. Xiao Zhao's parents were quite satisfied with Wenwen's appearance and behavior and urged them to get married quickly.
At this time, news of the national civil service examination came.
Xiao Zhao’s parents were stunned and asked Xiao Zhao to try it, saying that the compilation was always stable.
Xiao Zhao originally didn't want to leave Wenwen, thinking it would be best for the two of them to be in the same unit, but his parents insisted on letting him take the exam, so he decided to bite the bullet and give it a try.
I didn’t want to just give it a try, but ended up passing the exam. Some people describe the civil service exam as a single-plank bridge for tens of thousands of people to cross. However, Xiao Zhao passed the highly competitive exam, which made Xiao Zhao's parents extremely happy.
In the eyes of Xiao Zhao’s parents, nothing is more important than a stable job. They believe that although private enterprises are good, they always lack a guarantee.
After knowing that Zhao passed the exam, they did not hesitate to let Xiao Zhao quit his job in a private company and become a civil servant.
When Xiao Zhao left, he made an appointment with Wenwen that he would come back and marry her when his job was stable.
After Xiao Zhao was transferred, half a year later, he never mentioned the marriage to Wenwen again, and his greetings and concern for Wenwen became less and less.
The two of them had already decided on the furniture. Xiao Zhao didn't mention the marriage for so long. Wenwen felt the change in Xiao Zhao. She was very painful, but she still wanted to get to the bottom of it.
Under Wenwen's questioning, Xiao Zhao had to admit that his parents were unwilling to let him marry a woman with an unstable job. More importantly, Wenwen also had an underage brother, and he might have to help him raise his brother in the future.
Wenwen's father has no financial resources, and he has no mother. To put it further, he may have to help Wenwen's younger brother get a wife and pay a bride price in the future.
Wenwen heard Xiao Zhao's frank and hurtful explanation and hung up the phone without saying anything. The relationship ended like this.
After the breakup, Wenwen was sick for a week. After recovering from her illness, she quit her job in the private sector and started a supermarket business. She worked more than ten hours a day, carried goods live, and prepared for various activities. In one year, the size of her supermarket tripled.
After that, she spent two years to open Wenwen supermarket chain to 23 stores in the suburbs. She also became one of the top ten outstanding young people selected by the TV station that year.
She is no longer the little girl she was three years ago, and Xiao Zhao is still the civil servant working from 9 to 5, earning a dead salary, and following the monotonous route of family and work.
Although Wenwen has not found the right person yet, she no longer loves Xiao Zhao. The current Xiao Zhao is not worthy of her at all.
But Xiao Zhao taught her the most important lesson in her life, that is, before marriage, men are much more realistic.
Women must not treat men as their own cash machines. If women want to have a happy life, they can only rely on themselves. A sense of security is always given by oneself, and ability and money are a woman's greatest confidence.
Women can only strive for self-improvement and earn a sense of security for themselves. There is a lot of social pressure. After all, men only have small shoulders two feet wide, so they are not capable of everything.
Women should forgive their helplessness and snobbery, but also know how to fight for their own lives, standing next to men as a kapok tree , not the dodder tree.
