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Sister Shuihua in "Mountains and Seas" said this: "People ask for it if they are not pitiful. Women have to understand if they don't want to be pitiful. Now I feel more and more that the most important thing in this world is confidence."
A truly happy woman will not pin her happiness on anyone, not even a couple.
But not all girls can love soberly, which will only make their lives in trouble in the end.
Women with these two habits are most likely unlucky and destined to suffer in life, and it is difficult to be favored.
01: Can’t see clearly the reality of marriage and are used to self-deception
Qixin (pseudonym) has a very gentle personality, and her parents’ financial situation is not bad, and each has a pension.
Her work and cultural level are also very good. As long as she finds a true partner, she will definitely live a happy and satisfying life.
But she refused to listen to her parents' persuasion and insisted on marrying her then boyfriend.
Qixin’s husband is indeed very handsome, but he has a bad personality, has no ability to shoulder the responsibilities of marriage, and does not love her at all.
However, Qixin cannot see clearly the reality of marriage and is used to self-deception.
Her parents did not ask for a bride price and even helped her prepare a wedding room. They had been married less than half a year before their parents-in-law moved in with them.
Qixin is not only busy with work, but also has to work hard to cook and wash clothes for her parents-in-law after get off work. However, her contribution has never been cherished and respected.
My husband even thinks that when she does these things, it is the duty of a wife and there is no need to feel distressed.
html After 35 years of marriage, Qixin has never complained. This year, my brother-in-law and his wife had numerous fights and eventually divorced.
They had been married for less than two years, and their relationship could no longer continue.
My brother-in-law is too willful and selfish, and his parents-in-law dote on him. During the divorce, the woman's family was particularly powerful and the house could only be given to them.
As a result, the father-in-law said to his eldest son: "Your brother is divorced and the house is for him to live in. You move out."
After Qi Xin heard this, she felt that this matter was impossible no matter what, but The husband immediately replied: "Dad, I will listen to you. We will move when we find a suitable house."
Because of this incident, Qixin quarreled with her husband for the first time, but no matter how she communicated, her husband did not consider the feelings of her and the children, and only wanted to give the house to her brother-in-law.
At this moment, Qixin felt extremely painful, but she was reluctant to divorce her husband.
Women who cannot see clearly the reality of marriage and are accustomed to self-deception and comfort are most likely unlucky and have a miserable life because of their own doing.
If Qixin doesn’t wake up, the days ahead will only become more and more difficult.
02: A soft-hearted person who doesn’t know how to protect his own rights.
The word kindness is very expensive and should be reserved for those who are worthy. However, Qixin's ears are too soft and she doesn't know how to protect her own rights.
When her parents-in-law made her feel uncomfortable, she was unwilling to agree at first.
But as long as her husband deliberately refuses to talk to her and treats her like nothing, within a week, Qixin will take the initiative to find a way out and lower her bottom line.
Her husband knows her very well. When he wants to get benefits from his wife, he can easily get it done by saying some beautiful words of love to her.
A woman who has soft ears and doesn't know how to protect her rights is often a sign of a miserable life.
This cannot be called true kindness, but a lack of wisdom and principles.
Powerful women will never allow themselves to be casually neglected or bullied. When faced with unreasonable demands, even if they are made by the people closest to them, they will firmly refuse.
Women with the above two habits are most likely unlucky and doomed to suffer in life.
No matter how much you put into your marriage, it is difficult to be loved and respected by your partner.
There is a sentence in the book "Happy Marriage": "The key to a successful marriage is not a candlelight dinner or a romantic beach, but caring about the other person and caring about the small moments in life."
Some obsessions will cause harm to you. If you want to have a healthy and long-term relationship, remember to learn to see the truth about marriage and stop being moved by yourself.
Only when a man truly cares about you and makes you feel the happiness of being preferred can all your efforts and persistence be meaningful.
