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China has 9.6 million square kilometers. Not to mention the dietary differences between the north and the south, the batter of single pancake fruit , and the ones in Tianjin have to be with Shandong next door, because they use mung bean noodles or mixed grain noodles, so they can't argue.
So when my son Xu Zheng was in college, I told him not to find a girl from another place and to be my daughter-in-law when he came back. Otherwise, there will be huge differences in thinking and living habits, and life will definitely be messy.
Where is my son, only child, spoiled, rebellious and independent. He ignored my advice for love, and eventually he found a girlfriend from another place.
Young man is involved in a partner, and the dry Chai Liehuo is not careful. The two have just graduated for a year and Yuanyuan became pregnant. Our family is a decent person, but we don’t do that kind of irresponsible thing. Since we are pregnant, we will arrange to let the children get married quickly.
When Xu Zheng was in college, he happened to catch up with his wife's factory bought out his work experience . His wife had a long work experience and received a large amount of compensation. In order to prepare for her son's future marriage, we used the money and all our savings and bought him a commercial house for him in full.
Xu Zheng is preparing to get married. Naturally, this house is his wedding house. The most important thing is that there is no mortgage, and their future life will be much easier. This is also the love we love our children as parents.
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But when we were about to go to Yuanyuan's hometown to propose marriage, Xu Zheng suddenly held my hand and hesitated and stopped. He asked me if I understand the marriage customs of Yuanyuan and their family?
I shook my head and said truthfully, I don’t understand.
Xu Zheng hesitated for a moment, and still said: Mom, you and my dad must be prepared, Yuanyuan and their bride price are a bit high. I'll give you a vaccination in advance. I didn't know about it either. Yuanyuan talked to me about this topic before and revealed some to me.
We don’t have a bride price here. When we get married, the man’s house will prepare a house, express his or her intentions, and do what he can.
Since my son told us, my husband and I were also prepared and reassured that we would agree as long as it was not too much.
What I thought at the time was that Yuanyuan is an only child and her parents are both educated people, so she will definitely not make things difficult for us.
Yuanyuan's parents are indeed well-educated and reasonable. We had a great time talking, but when it comes to the bride price, they refused to give in at all. The bride price of 388,000 yuan is not a cent.
I said our family has prepared a wedding house, but I really can't afford that much money. I only have one son, and Yuanyuan’s marriage means I have another daughter, and I will definitely not treat her badly.
Yuanyuan's mother waved her hand: "The mother-in-law and daughter-in-law have never been in the same body, and the heart is separated from her belly. Who can't say beautiful words? Only by taking out real money can it represent care and make people see sincerity."
Yuanyuan's parents have a firm attitude. They believe that the bride price represents the value of a girl. The higher the bride price, the greater the value. They worked hard to train their children to become talents, and they could not just give them to others.
But considering the actual situation of our family, they are willing to lower the price of the bride price, which is 190,000, and the number is also good.
However, the money for drinking, the change of the woman, hardware, clothes, etc., also needs to be paid by our family. I calculated that it was nearly 300,000.
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There is no way. Who asked Xu Zheng to let the girl get pregnant first? We have to bear the consequences if we are in the wrong. I could only complain that Xu Zheng was disobedient while raising money.
Fortunately, after giving the bride gift, everything went smoothly, and the children held the wedding lively.
Because I have retired, after Xu Zheng and Yuanyuan got married, I took on the heavy responsibility of taking care of Yuanyuan's pregnancy. I think my cooking skills are OK, but I have a round stomach.She has no interest in the buns I made, jar of meat , and she loves to eat wax and steamed dishes, and she still has no spicy food.
It is hard for me to learn how to cook with videos at the age of my age. I often cry when I was choking with peppers in the kitchen. Every time this time, I will complain in my heart about the trouble that Xu Zheng has caused me.
As Yuanyuan's gestational week gets bigger and bigger, more and more places to spend money. The couple just started working for a while and their salary was not high, so I still have to pay for it at all times.
I asked Xu Zheng privately, when they got married, the dowry was 198,000 yuan, and did Yuanyuan not bring it back as a dowry?
Xu Zheng smiled bitterly: "When I got married, Yuanyuan's parents gave her 20,000 yuan in dowry, but I was embarrassed to touch my wife's money."
I pointed at Xu Zheng's head with my fingers and scolded him for being careless.
I feel frustrated. I have been asking for so many betrothal gifts after marrying a daughter, and I only brought back 20,000 yuan. We have emptied our family’s fortunes and married our son, and we have to serve and supplement them like old mothers. It's really thankless.
But who can you rely on this?
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The birth of a grandson lets us turn our attention to the children. Seeing Yuanyuan taking care of her grandson meticulously, I gradually forgot about the previous unhappiness.
A few days later, the couple discussed with me and my wife to sell the house.
Yuanyuan means selling this house and buying a school district house to facilitate children to go to school in the future. Because my wife and I paid for this house, although my son's name was written only, we still have to discuss it with us.
My wife and I naturally cannot agree. This house is the pre-marital property we bought for our son. If they sell it and buy it again, it will be their property after marriage. Once there is a problem with the marriage, Yuanyuan has the right to part with half of it.
This is all our savings. How can we get cheaper for others? Besides, we have spent nearly 300,000 yuan to get married. It is impossible for Yuanyuan to make a decision on our house again.
Yuanyuan saw that I disagree and advised me, "Mom, I know you disagree because you are afraid of taking advantage of me. But have you ever thought that if you change a house, the house we sold is not enough. Xu Zheng and I also need a loan, and we both pay the loan together. No one takes advantage of it."
I think Yuanyuan's statement makes some sense, but I was not in a hurry to let go. I have to think carefully for a while to avoid accidentally falling into a trap I didn't hear it. After all, getting married is a wife, our family has lost their wealth and cannot be spared in the end.
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A few days later, a family in the faraway place came to visit. I didn't go to the Three Treasures Hall for nothing. Sure enough, they came for the house. They asked me why I didn't agree with the children changing houses.
I'm funny. Their family really does it for money. They don't even hide the fox's tail, so they speak so directly.
Then I was not polite: "Why can't you live in a good house? I'm just trying to add Yuanyuan's name to turn the house into a post-marriage property. Our family has paid so many benefactors, why are you still calculating our house?" I exuded all my resentment.
But the in-laws not only weren't annoyed, but laughed: "So you are still worried about the bride price?"
She held my hand and said earnestly: "We parents are all in the same mind, afraid that our children will suffer losses, so we play games on major marriages in order to let the children suffer as little as possible.
Your family is a son, and you are still like this. Besides, our family is a daughter. Think about it, if you really get a divorce, is it difficult for your handsome and capable son to find a partner, or is it difficult for us, a daughter who has given birth to children?
So we want a lot of bride gifts, which is also to make the man's family take into account this bride gift when they have conflicts with our daughter, and they are discouraged from divorce.Let’s take a step back, if our children really can’t be together, these brides are the capital to guarantee my daughter’s restart. "
The in-laws paused, changed into a relaxed tone and continued, "But there are no parents in the world who don't care about their children? Since the children want to live a good life, we should fully support it. Now the relationship between the couple is stable and they have children. We are pursuing a good life, so we don’t have to keep this bride price. The couple bought a house, but our family filled in all the insufficient parts, so the children would not be allowed to take out loans. "As he said, my in-laws took out a bank card and stuffed it into my hand.
Looking at the bank card in his hand, we all smiled and let go of our past grudges.
Although China has 9.6 million square kilometers, each place has different thinking and eating habits, but as Chinese children, the regions are different, but love is the same. Just like pancakes, whether it is mung bean noodles or mixed grain noodles, they are the same delicious.
