The husband sued his wife for bigamy, and just wanted his children to call him "Dad", but the children said that if they did not let their adoptive father go, they would not recognize the father.
Tang Huizhong is 53 years old and from Zhijiang County, Hunan Province. In September 1980, Tang Huizhong tied the knot with Wu Hongying, a rural girl who was 3 years younger than him.
After marriage, the two have 1 son and 1 daughter. Tang Huizhong had both children and children. He should have enjoyed the joy of family life, but he had a home that he could not go back. He had been wandering outside for more than ten years, and it was full of bitter tears.
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Tang Huizhong is short and weak and sickly, and has been honest and dull since childhood. In contrast to his compatriot brother Tang Huilai is not only tall and strong, but also has a strong personality. So Tang Huizhong saw his brother like a mouse seeing a cat.
Although the palms and backs of hands are all flesh, parents will prefer the weak one among their children. So Tang Huizhong has always grown up under the care of his parents, and his parents worry about both big and small matters.
As soon as Tang Huizhong became an adult, his parents asked someone to introduce him to him. Fortunately, Tang Huizhong had the sign of urban household registration. Without much effort, he came with the young and beautiful rural girl Wu Hongying.
Tang Huizhong also lived a stable life for four years after his marriage, but with the birth of his daughter Tang Xiaoju and son Tang Yongfu, the disadvantage of Tang Huizhong's inability to assume the heavy responsibility of his family was highlighted.
Tang Huizhong is not only weak and unable to do physical work, but also has no opinion when encountering things. So once the Tang family encounters a big problem, Wu Hongying has no choice but to find the smart and capable eldest uncle Tang Hui to help.
Wu Hongying tried her best to get out of the countryside, just thinking of living a comfortable life in the city, but she didn't expect her husband to be unable to support him. She was the one who was the one who was inside and outside.
After a long time, Wu Hongying felt upset when she saw her husband's cowardly appearance, and the balance in her heart gradually turned to the active-minded Tang Huilai. Tang Huilai also coveted Wu Hongying's beauty, and the two hit it off and began to secretly visit Chen Cang.
02
The fire cannot be contained in the paper. Tang Huizhong noticed that his brother and Wu Hongying behaved abnormally, but he did not dare to say anything due to his brother's fierceness.
Soon Tang Huilai's wife also discovered the situation and persuaded her kindly, but she was beaten by Tang Huilai, but she did not give up. With his wife's strong interference, Tang Huilai had to temporarily restrain his contacts with Wu Hongying.
In 1998, Tang Huilai's wife died of illness. Tang Huilai and Wu Hongying, who were no longer restrained, even though Tang Huizhong's feelings and social gossip, they blatantly lived together openly.
One night, Tang Hui came into his younger brother's house and locked his younger brother outside the bedroom door. Tang Huizhong's anger defeated his cowardice, and he picked up the stool and smashed it at the bedroom door. The stool bounced back with a "bang".
But when Tang Huizhong raised his stool and smashed the door again, Tang Huilai rushed out and knocked Tang Huizhong to the ground with a punch. The neighbors around him heard Tang Huizhong's screams and rushed to persuade him to fight. Only then did Tang Huizhong escape and was sent to the hospital for emergency treatment.
The next day, the village head and relatives and friends came to Tang Huizhong's house and condemned Tang Huilai for not only being immoral, but also being inappropriate to hit people.
But Tang Huilai let others get tired of their mouths and still insists on his own, even threatening to kill anyone who wants to interfere with his and Wu Hongying's good things.
Anyone who encounters such a fool will hide far away, so no one dares to care about the private affairs of Tang Huizhong's family.
Wu Hongying never visited Tang Huizhong during her hospitalization, let alone cook and deliver food to her husband. Tang Huizhong has a daughter and son taking care of him by his bedside. Perhaps this is the rare family warmth he has enjoyed.
After Tang Huizhong recovered from the hospital on the seventh day, he found that the lock of the bedroom door at home had been changed, and his bag of changing clothes was thrown on the sofa in the living room. It was obvious that this was Tang Huilai who swore his position in front of his younger brother and wanted to join forces with Wu Hongying to sweep his younger brother out.
Tang Huizhong understood his brother's intention, but he didn't know who to argue with him, nor did he really have the ability to resist, so he had to put down his hatred of taking his wife, abandon his attachment to his children, and began to wander around.
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When Tang Huizhong ran away from home, Tang Xiaoju was 17 years old and Tang Yongfu was 13 years old.Although Tang Xiaoju and Tang Yongfu are sensible, since they can remember, their uncle takes care of both major and minor matters at home, and their mother Wu Hongying only obeys his uncle's advice. Sometimes, even when their family members are hospitalized for medical treatment, they are all paid for it.
So in the minds of Tang Xiaoju and his brother, uncle Tang Huilai is a non-staff member of his family. As for the departure of his father Tang Huizhong, although Tang Xiaoju and his brother were a little disappointed, because of his uncle, they did not feel that the family lacked fatherly love and warmth.
I want to say that although Tang Huilai is very fierce and affectionate to his younger brother, he really has nothing to say to his nieces and nephews.
Tang Xiaoju remembers that when school started at the end of August 1995, she was eagerly waiting for her father to pay the tuition, but her father said that the family had no money and asked her to drop out of school and go to work.
Later, my uncle saw that she was about to go to school and stayed at home. After asking about the situation, he not only went to the market to buy her a beautiful schoolbag, but also personally sent her to school.
Then Tang Yongfu's schooling fee was also paid by his uncle. It was from that year that all the expenses for Tang Xiaoju and his brother to go to school were taken care of by his uncle.
In 1999, Tang Huilai and Wu Hongying briefly set up several banquets, all of which were announcing their "marriage" to their relatives and friends. Since then, Tang Huilai and Wu Hongying have publicly regarded themselves as husband and wife, and Tang Huilai has also become the backbone of the family.
Tang Hui comes to treat Tang Xiaoju as his biological brother. Children are young and may not be able to tell the difference in emotional matters, but they will remember who is good to them.
So Tang Xiaoju treats his uncle better than his father. Not only does he call Tang Huilai "Dad" in front of others, but even the school parent meeting asked Tang Huilai to attend as a "father".
It can be said that Tang Huizhong's departure did not cause much turmoil to this family, and the family's life quickly returned to peace.
04
Wu Hongying and her children were not affected by family changes, but Tang Huizhong was suffering outside.
Tang Huizhong is not healthy and has no skill. He encounters walls everywhere when looking for a job. He begs others to give alms everywhere, and he just goes to the garbage dump to pick things up.
Later, a kind-hearted person saw that Tang Huizhong was so pitiful, so he found him a job doing odd job in a restaurant. He had no salary every day, so he just had to eat three meals a day.
Tang Huizhong has been living outside for a day without wanting his wife and children, but he doesn't have the courage to take the step back home.
Until 2008, Tang Huizhong, who had been away from home for 10 years, secretly returned to Zhijiang county town. At that time, Tang Huizhong was over fifty years old and longed for family warmth, but when he walked outside the door of his house, he was still wandering.
One day, Tang Huizhen couldn't bear the longing for his children, and intercepted Tang Xiaoju and his brother halfway, wanting to recognize them.
"I am your father!"
Ten years, Tang Xiaoju and his brother are already in their twenties, but their biological father's appearance has long faded in their hearts.
Tang Xiaoju and his brother looked for a long time before they recognized their father, but they neither wanted to recognize him nor did they care about him, so they all turned around and left on their own.
Tang Huizhong never expected things to turn out like this, but he didn't blame his children. After all, his father has not fulfilled his responsibilities in the past ten years.
The disheartened Tang Huizhong stayed in a small hotel. The hotel owner was Tang Huizhong's former neighbor. At first, he did not recognize the aging Tang Huizhong. It was not until three days later that he recognized this poor man.
Neighbors listened to Tang Huizhong's revelation of his wandering experience over the years and understood Tang Huizhong's longing for his children's affection, and couldn't help but sigh. Later, in order to help Tang Huizhong recover his long-lost family affection, the neighbor took him to a lawyer for consultation.
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After listening to the complicated story of Tang Huizhong's family, the lawyer believed that Wu Hongying was still Tang Huizhong's legal wife. Tang Huizhong could walk into that house with confidence without asking anyone's opinion. However, given the arrogant Tang Huizhong came, it is very likely that Tang Huizhong would be hurt if he did that.
At the same time, the lawyer believes that if Tang Huizhong sues his children in court and raises his children's spiritual and material support requirements, it may intensify the conflict with his children and cause the already indifferent father-son family ties to fall apart.
Because after all, Tang Huizhong has not fulfilled his obligation to raise his children over the years, and he is easily in conflict with his children.
Later, the lawyer thought about it and thought that Tang Huizhong sued his wife bigamy , and it was possible that when Wu Hongying and Tang Hui came to accept legal sanctions, they would return to their kinship with their children.
In April 2008, Tang Huizhong filed a lawsuit in court, demanding that Tang Huilai and Wu Hongying be investigated for their bigamy crimes. But the direction of things did not develop as Tang Huizhong had thought in advance.
First, Wu Hongying picked up the fruit knife and expressed that if she regained Tang Huizhong's wife, it would be better to die. Tang Huilai, who is over 60 years old, also threatened to say that even if he was in prison, he would never leave Wu Hongying.
Tang Xiaoju and his brother felt so uncomfortable when they saw their honest and cowardly deposed father and went to court with their close uncle.
Tang Xiaoju regretted his ignorance of his father on the street that day, but they were also unable to give up when facing his uncle who was raising him.
Tang Xiaoju and his brother felt that their father had experienced so many years of hardships outside. When he was old, he was not only poor and sick, but also had no place to live. He urgently needed family affection to calm his resentment.
But they also don’t want their elderly uncle to endure the jail. So before the trial, Tang Xiaoju and his brother took the initiative to find the presiding officer to express their thoughts.
If Tang Huizhong insists on holding his mother and uncle accountable, then the siblings will never recognize their biological father in this life. If Tang Huizhong can reach an understanding and withdraw the lawsuit, the siblings will voluntarily assume the obligation to support his father's old age and see him off.
Considering the opinions of Tang Xiaoju and his brother, the court felt that simply discussing the case might be counterproductive, and it would be better to organize family mediation.
In fact, the purpose of Tang Hui’s advice to his wife for bigamy was not to put his wife and brother to death, nor to ask his wife to return to his side, but to recall the affection of his children. So when he heard his children's opinions, he immediately nodded in agreement.
"Dad!"
A long-lost call of family affection made Tang Huizhong burst into tears, and the awakening of his children melted the resentment accumulated in his heart for many years.
Tang Huizhong took advantage of the recession and soon signed a divorce agreement with Wu Hongying to let him be free. Tang Huilai and Wu Hongying felt deeply guilty when they saw Tang Huizhong's behavior. During the second trial, they took the initiative to compensate Tang Huizhong for his mental losses of 30,000 yuan.
Tang Huizhong also expressed on the spot that he gave up the responsibility of pursuing his wife and brother bigamy. Ten years of emotional entanglement have settled. Tang Huizhong, accompanied by his children, can be considered as having a place to rely on.
06
Kindness is precious, but kindness does not grow teeth, that is weakness, and weakness is useless in marriage.
In reality, marriage does not have so much love at all, it is more just mutual need. When the other person no longer needs you, it is the moment when the marriage breaks down.
Just like Tang Huizhong cannot take on the heavy responsibility of his family, it is also one of the reasons why his wife chose to put herself in someone else's arms. Therefore, although Wu Hongying and Tang Huilai lack morality, Tang Huizhong cannot say that he has no responsibility at all.
Because there is no ability, there is no freedom. Freedom is not the result of choice, but the result of ability.
