Introduction:
There is a saying in the American drama " Proud Wife ": The greatest charm of marriage is actually to explore how deep the connection two people who are not related to blood can reach.
Whether it is a couple in a marriage or a partner who lives with them, as long as someone proposes to live a life of AA, it is destined to fall apart.
When people are middle-aged, they choose to remarry, but they hope to have a companion in life, someone can help you when you need it, someone stands with you at dusk, and someone asks you how warm the porridge is.
Others outsiders know that 65-year-old Aunt Zhou and 69-year-old Mr. Qin have been remarried for many years. Unexpectedly, when Mr. Qin cerebral infarction in the back of his body hemiplegia , Aunt Zhou would choose to "leave it."
Many people say that Aunt Zhou is really ruthless. After all, she is a second-married couple. She only has benefits, no feelings. But Aunt Zhou said that he had agreed to get a marriage certificate and remarry. Mr. Qin chose to live with Aunt Zhou because of his own selfish interests, and also had to implement an AA life with Aunt Zhou.
Aunt Zhou said: We have been working together in AA system for 15 years. If it weren't for the sake of face, I would have withdrawn long ago. He has never treated me well. Why should I take care of his old age? He is ruthless and don’t blame me for being unrighteous. He has paralyzed me and I will retreat and will never see you in the next life.
Contributor: 65-year-old Aunt Zhou
I am Aunt Zhou, I am 65 years old this year, and my only daughter starts a family and has a baby in another place.
When I was 40 years old, I divorced my ex-husband and I never wanted to marry again with my daughter. It was not until my daughter went to college and later started working that I had the idea of finding another wife.
When I retired at the age of 50, when I was learning boxing with the Tai Chi team in the square, I met Lao Qin, who was 4 years older than me. We got together and talked together, and we slowly got together.
At the beginning, I insisted on getting a marriage certificate, otherwise it would be a "good but not good" thing. At first, Lao Qin was willing to get a marriage certificate with me. Later, because of the house problem, he was afraid that after we got the certificate, I would occupy his three-bedroom elevator room.
In fact, he was thinking too much. I have a house myself and my daughter started a family in another place. How could I want his house? I just want to find a man to live a good life together.
At any time, people have no intention of harming tigers, but tigers have the intention of hurting people.
I moved to his house to live with Lao Qin's sweet words. He told me that we should learn the " trial marriage " of young people first. Everyone felt that it was suitable and comfortable in their hearts, so they got married and held a banquet.
I was very excited at that time because Lao Qin was a man who had a very sweet mouth, was good-sounding, and could do a lot of work. He was different from my ex-husband. He was not only lazy but also had many special things, but only had a "skin" that attracted people.
Although Lao Qin's appearance is a little worse than my ex-husband, his mouth is very useful, so women are willing to be with him. Whether he is sincere or false, at least when I am with him, is often very funny by him, and life is comfortable.
After we were together for a year, I proposed to him to get a marriage certificate and remarry many times, but he looked for reasons again and again. When I was forced to the end, he actually proposed that we live a life in AA system.
I live in him, and he pays all the expenses, but the money for meals must be paid half of each, and each person's relationships must be paid by each other. The other party cannot ask the other party to pay for their children.
When I listened to him talking about our AA, I wanted to break up, but at that time my house was rented out, and I signed a 5-year contract at once. So, no matter what conditions Lao Qin proposed, I could only compromise and agree.
Then I had to save face at that time, and felt that I had finally found a better man than my ex-husband, so why did I let go easily? Maybe I am old and when Lao Qin needs me, if I do better, Lao Qin will get a marriage certificate with me.
However, ideals are beautiful, but reality is cruel. My life with Lao Qin is becoming more and more painful. Not only does he not care about me, but he also takes other women home for the night while I was in the hospital.
When I found out, I was struggling with him, but he said, "Get out, this is my house, and we don't have a marriage certificate, can you keep me in mind?"
Yes, who am I? Can I control him? But every time I have a big fight, Lao Qin will coax me with all kinds of sweet words, which makes me very enjoyable, and it is also the reason why I can't live without him.
Later, Lao Qin's daughter-in-law gave birth to a second child. He asked me to help, and by the way, he also helped to take care of the child for several years. I followed Lao Qin's wishes. I thought I had helped his family so much that Lao Qin would be grateful and get a marriage certificate with me.
Who knew that when I went to his son's house to take care of his children, Lao Qin did not let himself be idle. He was unclear with several single women. Some of them were asked for them on their own initiative, and some were asked for them on their own initiative.
In short, Lao Qin has the ability to always be a woman.
Maybe God couldn't stand it anymore. When he was enjoying a "candlelight dinner" with a single woman, he suddenly suffered from cerebral congestion and was sent to the hospital by the woman.
people were rescued, but half of his right body could not move, and one hand became a "frozen chicken feet". Lao Qin was not speaking smoothly at this time, and when he saw me, his eyes were filled with a flattering smile.
After I took care of him in the hospital for a month, Lao Qin was discharged from the hospital and returned home to recover and recuperate. At this time, I told him, give me your pension salary card and tell me your password, so I can go and withdraw money and live.
Who knew that it was this sentence that touched Lao Qin's sensitive nerves. He yelled and screamed at me, but he was very anxious if he couldn't explain it clearly, as if I wanted his life.
Later, it was Lao Qin's son who came. He gave me Lao Qin's pension card and asked me to take good care of his father. He would not treat me badly. I said to Lao Qin's son directly: Your father and I did not get a marriage certificate, but had been in the AA system for 15 years. So, I am taking care of him now. At what price do you give me the wages?
Lao Qin's son was particularly surprised. He said that Lao Qin told him that he was getting a marriage certificate, so I have the responsibility and obligation to take care of Lao Qin's second half of his life. I asked Lao Qin to take out our marriage certificate. Lao Qin looked at his son and lowered his head and murmured, "Who knows that will be there today."
Old Qin's son is unwilling to pay the wages, and I am too lazy to talk nonsense to their father and son. He packed his luggage and then evacuated it. I don't care who you want to take care of me, I just need to take care of myself.
is here, I want to give a few reminders to single middle-aged and elderly women:
1. No matter when, don’t just listen to what men say, but look at how men do it. No matter how nice it is, is, you can’t be used as food or clothes. A man who doesn’t show his sincerity, no matter how good he says, don’t be with him easily. It is easy to be brainwashed by him or even mentally controlled by him.
2. No matter when a single woman reaches, she must learn to stop losses in time. should not work hard with Lao Qin for 15 years for the so-called face. As long as it is not your own food, stop the loss immediately. I would rather live alone than be confused by the so-called bright future of men.
3. Women should learn to love themselves, not be inferior, and not be humble, because not all kindness and dedication will be treated kindly. Treat yourself and your family more kindly, and the rest are just icing on the cake.
Author: Huagui Zenxin
Follow my words and enter your heart. You have stories, I have tea, let’s talk about the rest of my life together.
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