Forty, you are not confused, and you know your destiny in fifty.
If nothing unexpected happens, when we reach the age of fifty, we will have a lot of harvest.
I should have bought a house and a car, the child has grown up, the savings are a little bit, and the pension insurance has been paid almost all. Next, you should enjoy the blessing.
"Harvest Paradox" reminds us that if we achieve a great harvest in life, the real income will become smaller. Because there are too many things, the price will not be raised, breaking the balance of supply and demand, and instead increasing worries.
Therefore, after the age of fifty, we should still be positive and consider the long-term, and not forget about the temporary harvest. If you have money, you should spend it slowly, live in an orderly manner and have a moderate social relationship.
From the current specific situation, it is recommended that you cover your wallet: don’t borrow money from three people, and don’t follow the gifts from four companies.
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money won’t lend three people, first look at their character.
There is a swearing saying in the countryside: "Meat buns beat dogs."
In other words, if you encounter a dog that wags its tail and begs for mercy, don't think about coming back. Or, if you encounter a very ferocious dog and you smash it with a bun, it will be a waste of your own bun.
After all, it is to remind us to learn to look at people, analyze the situation, and protect the "bulls" in our hands.
If you meet a poor person, give him a bun, he is grateful to you. When he gets rich in the future, he will give back to your "grace for a meal", that's right.
People interact with people and cannot borrow money unless necessary. Otherwise, it will also become a situation where the meat buns are thrown away.
Specifically, the following types of people have poor character, so it is better not to borrow money. You have to make an excuse in a tactful way to make the other party retreat. If the other party is entangled, then break off the relationship.
One, people who are lazy can’t repay it.
will not do anything except asking for money. If you encounter such a person, you must bypass it. After he borrowed money, he would agree to repay the money, but he would never have the ability to repay the money in his life.
One of my cousins has a disability in the left foot. Therefore, many relatives sympathized with him and lent him money to live. Unfortunately, he stayed at home every day and said he couldn't work.
A relative introduced him to be a security guard, and he felt it was too embarrassing; when he went to be a cleaning, he said that he couldn't get a big broom... It seems that many poor people in the world are lazy and not worth borrowing money.
You lend money to lazy people, which will only make them lazy and become lazy. It is really unnecessary to be accustomed to "reach out your hands when you get clothes and open your mouth when you get food."
Secondly, people with different hearts have no integrity.
When borrowing money, you will say all the good things; when paying back the money, you will turn your back on others. If you encounter such a person, you should remain indifferent. His mouth was covered with honey, but his heart was like ice.
When the money is in his hands, he will immediately become your "enemy" and blame you for collecting debts.
Third, people with bad nature are inevitably deceptive.
There are always some people who think about the routine of hiding the debt or escape when they first borrow money.
For example, some bad merchants use unjust enrichment to attract you to invest, and after you invest, they will disappear. You will find that you are not the only one who was deceived.
The character is not up to standard, and everything is busy. We all know that people with poor character will never be famous in their entire lives. But if you get involved in his life circle, you will be like him and be busy.
Before borrowing money, you must see your character clearly. Your money is hard-earned money, how can you waste it?
Borrowing money is love, not borrowing it is your own kindness.
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gifts do not follow the four families, first look at the favor.
" Rites " says: "A ritual is to determine closeness, to determine suspicion, distinguish between similarities and differences, and to clarify right and wrong."
Through etiquette, you can judge whether the other party and you are intimate or distant; you can know whether the other party is trustworthy, and you can also see whether the other party is on the same path as you.
is not a fellow traveler, and you won’t join in the fun of him, right?
If you are very happy after receiving the gift, then you are willing to give and achieve the goal of promoting harmony. As the ancients said: "Those who are happy are harmonious; those who are happy are free of grudges." There is such a short story on
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An aunt met a friend through an acquaintance. When this friend's house was holding a wedding ceremony, she gave her 1,200 gift.
Later, a friend introduced her to a daughter-in-law.
It’s a good day for my son and daughter-in-law to get married, and the aunt invites friends to have a wedding banquet. A friend said that she is a matchmaker and cannot take gifts.
Auntie was very uncomfortable and thought that her friend had cheated on her.
Some netizens analyzed that in some places, there is indeed such a custom, and matchmakers cannot give gifts to newlyweds; some netizens said that it is obvious that friends are lying on their debts; and some netizens said that this is because the aunt is too petty, after all, they have contributed to good things, so that is all that money is gone.
There are many rules for favors, and the situation in each place is different, we should see clearly. Otherwise, after you receive the gift, you will find that you have given you a favor and a red envelope for nothing. Maybe you don’t need this little money, but you’ll have a lot of money over the years.
suggests that after the age of fifty, you need to subtract socially. You should not take gifts for the following families.
One, Relatives and friends who have not dated for a long time no longer have feelings for each other.
Secondly, Relatives and friends who settled in distant cities will basically not be able to date for the rest of their lives.
Third, Old classmates and colleagues who usually have holidays will become more upset the more they date.
The fourth is, . People who are very selfish will always cheat people if they accept gifts but don’t return them.
Gifts and feelings are inseparable, and giving gifts is to promote feelings. If you give gifts but your relationship becomes weaker, it means that continuous interaction is unnecessary.
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As the saying goes, "use money on the blade."
After the age of fifty, you will retire in a flash. Income will decrease, but your expenses may not decrease, or even increase.
Children need to start a family and start a business and buy a house; you have to travel by yourself and you have to deal with the illness. In addition, it will cost a lot of money to help your children take care of their grandchildren.
Remember at any time that it is safest to keep money in your own bag. If he emptied his wallet, your life would be less confident.
Learn to refuse is not because you are stingy, but because you are aware of the times and are a hero.
Author: Common people eat coarse food.
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