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Life is a long journey.
We will meet all kinds of people in this journey, and most people can only accompany you for a while, so we must learn to say goodbye properly.
In life, everyone hopes to meet a soul mate and work with themselves until they are old.
However, birth, old age, sickness and death are fates that no one can escape.
If your partner is ahead of you, please do not let sadness invade your brain and make decisions that will make your loved ones sad.
You must understand that if there is heaven and love your partner, I hope you can be happy and healthy for the rest of your life.
After your wife leaves, you must grasp your life and love yourself well. Only by loving yourself is the best and smartest way to live in the rest of your life.
01. Love yourself, don’t waste time for people who are not worth it
People have too many things to deal with in this life, some of which are irrelevant chores. If you invest enough time and energy, you will delay your important things. The same is true for interpersonal communication.
In the old age, people will inevitably feel lonely after their partners leave, but if they interact with unworthy people in order to dispel loneliness, they will only cause more troubles in their lives.
In life, we must learn to screen the people around us. Don’t blindly choose friends because we are afraid of loneliness, and avoid being in vain for the lack of understanding of people, and even being hurt again.
02. Love yourself and focus your life on yourself
In real life, many people will feel very confused after their spouses leave, and they will find it difficult to adapt to living alone for a while and cannot grasp the focus of life.
Some people will show this discomfort particularly clearly. They will often talk about their loneliness with others and talk about their deceased partners.
However, everyone has their own life, who can patiently listen to your endless stories every day?
Some people bury their nostalgia for their spouse in their hearts. Even if they miss each other in their hearts, this deep emotion will not affect the people around them.
is like the father of Gu Jia in the TV series " thirty" . After his wife passed away, he never thought of finding someone to spend the rest of his life. After raising his daughter alone, he focused his life on himself and was unwilling to disturb his daughter's life.
Old people like
are rich in heart, see through the various aspects of life, and can live in the most comfortable state.
03. Love yourself, don’t give your own everything for your children
In the old age, the wife who supports each other suddenly passed away, and the most important relatives are the only children left.
Parents’ love for their children is deep, so they will devote all their time and money to their children, wanting to feel the warmth of home from their children.
This behavior itself is not wrong, but after children get married, a new life begins. If the elderly blindly insert their children's lives, it will disrupt the original happiness of the family.
Moreover, some elderly people never leave a way out for themselves. If their children want money, they will empty their pension; if their children need help to take care of their children, they will agree without saying a word.
If the children are filial, it may allow the elderly to spend their old age in peace. If the children are unfilial, the elderly will devote all their efforts to the end but will be disappointed, and the ending will inevitably be too miserable.
In this life, the most important thing for people is themselves.
Even if we are parents, we don’t need to do everything we have for our children. Instead, we teach our children the ability to survive independently and the principles of dealing with people and the world.
In life, don’t ignore your experience of "life journey". Only by paying attention to your inner needs can you choose the lifestyle that suits you the most.
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