Introduction :
After I gave my mother his 80th birthday, I took my mother to the city to live with her. The neighbors knew that my mother was going to enter the city, and they all said that my mother was blessed and praised me for her filial piety.
But I didn’t expect that after living with our family for a while, my mother looked worried and couldn’t be happy at all. I felt it was a mess...
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When my father passed away, my mother was 75 years old. My brother and sister and I wanted my mother to follow her to support her, but my mother was unwilling to say that she could still farm and wanted to live by herself. Just let us go home and see her when we have time.
Our family is from Lanxi, Jinhua, but none of us siblings live and work in Lanxi.
The eldest brother went to Guangzhou to work at the age of 18. Later, he bought a house in Dongguan, married a wife from Guangdong, and started a family and started a business there.
My eldest sister married a local farmer in Lanxi, but my brother-in-law later went to Xinjiang to contract land, grow fruits and cotton, and she could not go home once a year.
I am the closest to my mother. I am a teacher in Wucheng District, Jinhua. I am also a native of Jinhua. It only takes more than 2 hours to drive back to my hometown from Jinhua. Therefore, among the three brothers and sisters, I went home to see my mother the most.
Mother’s 80th birthday, and my brothers and sisters took their families back to their hometown to celebrate their mother’s birthday. After their mother’s birthday, everyone discussed the issue of mother’s pension.
Our neighbor next door is only 68 years old, a round younger than my mother, and his children are not around. One day, he fell down and my mother happened to go to play with relatives. When she went home to see the neighbors, she found that she was out of breath.
Neighbors' incident caused a big blow to us. Although my mother is in good health, not dizzy and not deaf, she is 80 years old after all, and it is too late to regret it if there is anything we have.
So my brother and sister and I discussed the issue of my mother's pension.
"How about I come back to accompany my mother. I am my son. Mom should have followed me." The eldest brother made his statement first.
"Brother, if you come back, it's too tiring for your sister-in-law to take care of three children alone. Let's talk about it when all three children go to school!"
Although the eldest brother and sister-in-law have retired, the nephew responded to national policies after getting married and gave birth to a third child. The oldest is 16 years old, and the youngest is not yet one year old.
nephews and nephews opened a small factory, and the children were all taken by their elder brother and sister-in-law, so it was unrealistic to ask the elder brother to go home to take care of his mother.
"If you don't let our mother go to Xinjiang with me, we will be back for another two years."
"Big sister, don't you remember the last time our mother went to Xinjiang with you? Didn't she get sick when she arrived? She is not adapting to the local environment, so it's better to follow us to Dongguan when she goes to Xinjiang."
"Hearing my sister told her to ask her mother to go to Xinjiang, the eldest sister-in-law quickly stopped her.
"Brother, sister, it's not realistic for mom to follow you. You are all too far away. Let our mom go with me to my house. It's convenient for her to go home, and my family is also big."
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siblings, I studied the most, my brother and sister only finished elementary school. For the sake of life, they went out to work at a very young age to earn money to support my family and let me go to school.
The reason why I was able to graduate from college, finish graduate school, find a good job, and marry a good man is because I have, love my parents and brothers and sisters.
I have experienced the college entrance examination three times, and my academic performance has always been very good, but before the first year of the college entrance examination, I got sick. On the day of the college entrance examination, I still had more than 38 degrees of fever, so naturally I didn’t perform well, so I failed the exam.
00 The early 1990s was not easy to get into college. After failing the exam, I wanted to go out to work. My brother stopped me and he wrote me a letter asking me to go to the city to repeat the year, and he paid for the tuition and living expenses for the resuming of the school.
But after repeating the exam for a year, I failed to pass the exam, and I was only two points away from the admission score line. Those who usually had worse academic performance than me in the repeating class were admitted to college, but I didn’t.
I think maybe it was because of this fate that I got sick before the exam in the first year and got 2 points away from the admission score in the second year. Maybe I was destined to not go to college.
And there were some rumors in the village at that time, saying that my heart was higher than the sky, my life was thinner than paper, my family was not in good condition, and I had to repeat the school, and I didn’t understand my parents and brothers at all.
When I decided to give up, it was my mother's words that woke me up, "Your mother, I haven't read a day, but I also know that being a cultural person is definitely better than farming."
"Why do you want to listen to what others say? We parents are willing to support you in school, and your brother is willing to support you in school."
My sister went to Shanghai to work with her brother-in-law, and asked her fellow villagers to bring me 500 yuan back and give me another one year of exams.
I took the third college entrance examination with the expectations of my parents and my brothers and sisters. This time I was admitted to university. My brothers and sisters were far away from my parents. I chose to study locally. My first choice was Zhejiang Normal University.
college entrance examination results came out, and I was successfully admitted to Zhejiang Normal University. My parents and brothers and sisters were so happy.
After graduating from university, my school was admitted to a postgraduate student. After graduating from graduate school, I stayed at school to work. The husband I was looking for was a local from Jinhua and worked in a news publishing house.
After getting married, I settled in the city. Although my family is closest to my parents, my parents only came to my house when I got married. They have not been to my house for more than 10 years, and they are unwilling to enter the city!
My parents have been living in the countryside. Because I was busy with work, I only went home to see my parents once a month or two. My brothers and sisters were far away, so I basically only went home when I went home.
Our three siblings are very filial. After the parents are 60 years old, we will give their parents a support every month.
After my father passed away, we were not at ease with my mother at home alone. We all wanted to take my mother to live at our home, but my mother was unwilling and said that she liked to live in the village.
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After my mother's 80th birthday, she finally worked hard to make her work, making her willing to live in my house. There are 3 brothers and sisters. My house has the largest house and the working hours are quite loose. My brothers and sisters also agree that my mother will live in my house.
In order to welcome my mother, my husband and daughter, I did a thorough cleaning and arranged my mother's room. My mother likes to shake the chairs, so my husband specially ordered one for her online.
Mom has always been very good to my husband, and my husband is also very concerned about this mother-in-law. When my mother-in-law is not around, my husband will treat my mother even better. Sometimes I don’t have time, and my husband will go to the countryside to see my mother alone.
Before picking up my mother, my husband also specifically reminded me: "You are in a hurry, sometimes you are like a firecracker. You can't do this to your mother-in-law. Mother-in-law is old, you must be patient!"
After my mother's birthday, I took my mother into the city. After arriving at home, I asked my mother to take a break and go to the supermarket to buy vegetables by myself.
I came back from buying vegetables. When my mother was handling vegetables, she saw a small receipt from the supermarket. When she saw a few dishes, it cost more than 100 yuan. She felt so distressed that she shouted: "I can grow these dishes myself. It's too difficult for you to live in the city. Everything costs money!"
After dinner, I took my mother to familiarize herself with the environment and stroll around the community to save her from getting lost if she goes out.
Mom walked around and said, "Your community is too big, I feel like I'm getting lost. I didn't expect there was a small garden in the community. Alas, it's a pity to grow flowers. It would be great if you grow vegetables!"
"Mom, remember which building you live in, what floors and units you live in. If you get lost, the security guard or guard of the community will send you back."
" It's so good, I'll send it home if you ask, and you'll pay them! "
" It can really be said that their salary was paid by me, the salary of the security guard and the doorman, and the salary paid by us owners! "
My mother didn't know how to use any other appliances in her hometown except for old-fashioned refrigerators, old-fashioned rice cookers, old-fashioned TVs. When I have time on weekends, I will teach my mother how to use the appliances at home.
But I taught for a long time, and my mother didn't even learn how to adjust the TV. I was a little anxious and my voice became louder.
My husband pulled me and I realized that I was anxious. I really didn't have patience, and my husband accompanied my mother and taught my mother how to adjust the TV.
After my mother knew how to use it, she said to me in a contemptuous tone: "You don't know how to teach yourself, and you still have to say I'm stupid. Look, my son-in-law will teach me in a while. "
When my mother came to her house it was just the weekend.
After the weekend, the family members went to work and the school went to school, and only my mother was left at home.
I was a little worried that my mother was alone at home. Oh, I prepared a lot of fruits and snacks for her, turned on the TV for her before going to work, and told her: "Mom, what do you want to eat at noon, I will bring it back to you. "
" I just had breakfast, and I haven't figured out what to eat for lunch yet. Do you buy it at a restaurant? That's so expensive, I'll do it casually. ”
I was afraid that my mother would not know how to use the things in the kitchen, so I said to her: "Our school canteen is very cheap and more affordable than cooking it myself." "
My mother was alone at home, and I was still very worried. As soon as the class was finished, she called her and asked her how she was. She said it was okay, and she said that my husband had seen her home and I felt relieved.
My mother came for more than 10 days, and I was at work and received a call from the property: "Teacher Wang, please come to the property. Your mother destroyed the green belt of the community, shoveled the flowers in the small garden, and planted vegetables! "
When I arrived at the property, my mother was still arguing with the property, "Our family bought a house here, and we paid all your salary. I grew some vegetables under the house I bought myself. What's wrong? Why don’t I grow vegetables? "
I was speechless, so I could only nod and apologize directly, and said to the property owner: "I'm sorry, I'm sorry, my mother just came from the countryside, and she didn't know that the small garden could not grow vegetables. "
" I will do a good job in the green belt and replant the flowers that my mother shoveled away. Don't worry, I will take responsibility. "
" Daughter, aren't their salary paid by you who buy the house? They should listen to what you buy a house, why do you want to apologize to him? "Mom asked me in confusion.
"Mom, this park is collective and belongs to everyone. It cannot be grown in private, and it is specially used to grow flowers and trees. "I can only explain to my mother patiently.
But I looked at my mother with a confused look on her face. Although she nodded, I knew she didn't understand.
In the next few days, my mother should be very bored. She calls me and husband from time to time and ask if we go home for lunch? If we come back, she must prepare the meal first.
Sometimes a phone call has just been completed, and the phone calls come again after a while. I want to teach the students, but it is not convenient to answer the phone. It is really a headache.
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My husband said, "My mother-in-law is used to doing things in the countryside. It's too boring to be alone at home. You can buy her a few flower pots, nutrient soil, and a few vegetable seeds, so that she can grow vegetables on the balcony so that she can do something! ”
I thought my husband’s words were reasonable, so I helped my mother buy various vegetable growing things online. My mother was so happy when she saw the seeds and flower pots. She grew vegetables on the balcony very seriously and went to the balcony to watch several times every day.
After a few days, the planted planting sprouted, and the tender green leaves broke out from the ground. Mom pointed at the green leaves and told her granddaughter: "This is eggplant, this is water cabbage, this is green vegetables, this is tomato, this is chili, this is onion, we will eat it in a while."
to be continued
