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Marriage is like a winding mountain road. The green scenery in your eyes covers the direction ahead. You can't see the next intersection or where the end is.
Love is like a balloon flying to the sky. When you are in love, it rises and falls, as if it is in the clouds. When you encounter setbacks, it is like being deflated, going all the way down.
Love is easy, marriage is not easy, and maintaining marriage requires wisdom and courage.
In marriage, there are always people who give more and gain less, while others have worked hard and persisted, and finally have to end up with divorce.
When divorced, the person who loves deeply is often weaker. Because I am reluctant to let go and love, it will always be difficult to say goodbye. How deep love is, you can see it when you divorce. For the person who loves deeply, money or real estate is not as important as the other party. Therefore, when separated, the person who loves deeply often does not care so much about the division of property.
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When we fall in love, what the two people care about is their feelings, their love and their longing for marriage. But in fact, after two people get married, they will find that they face much more realistic problems than they imagined.
The conflict between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is the first step in the relationship between husband and wife. If the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is not good, then the marriage relationship will definitely be affected.
Because, when a man is stuck in the middle, he neither wants to offend his mother nor his wife. Over time, the two women will become incompatible.
Yu Fang's mother-in-law has never liked her. Although she works diligently and hardworking at home, she always picks on her life.
In the middle of winter, my mother-in-law didn't let Yu Fang use the washing machine, saying that the electricity bill is too expensive now, and women should know how to be thrifty. Throughout the winter, Yu Fang's hands were always red and swollen.
There are many things like this. Yu Fang sometimes tells her husband about her grievances. Her husband is busy with work and always tells Yu Fang not to care about her mother. If she talks too much, her husband will even blame Yu Fang, saying that she does not know how to be filial to the elderly and does not know how to share the burden for her husband.
In marriage, the ignored conflict between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law will destroy the relationship between husband and wife again and again.
Yu Fang had accumulated too much grievance and disappointment with her husband, and finally filed for divorce. The mother-in-law did not realize the ultimate reason for the broken marriage of her son. Instead, she gave her advice and said, "Son, the daughter-in-law is going to divorce. You take the property and give the child to her. The child will still call you father when she grows up!"
Deng Hui listened to his mother's words, gave up the custody of the child, and gave Yu Fang no property. Yu Fang finally took the child and left the family. The mother-in-law won the final victory, but she didn't know that her actions would only hurt her son.
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Everyone will experience a dark time, some people give up on themselves, while others regrouped, defeated that decadent self, and ushered in a better tomorrow.
After the divorce, Yu Fang was depressed for a long time. It was the child who awakened the motivation in her heart. No matter what, the child no longer had fatherly love and she could no longer let the child down.
After sending the child to school, Yu Fang started looking for a job, without any penny of money, and she needed money everywhere in her life. She started from the bottom and put in twice as much effort than others. Finally, life gradually got better.
During this period, she met a man named Yang Jun, who had also been hurt by emotions. It was easier for two people with the same experience to understand each other, and their hearts were slowly getting closer.
Yu Fang thinks Yang Jun is a very down-to-earth person. More importantly, he is very nice to his children, just like his biological child, and he plays games with his children every day.
On weekends, I took my child to the amusement park and bought all kinds of toys and delicious food for the child. The child also regarded him as his father.
Yu Fang and Yang Jun remarried, and thirteen years passed in a blink of an eye. These thirteen years of happy life made her completely forget the hurt she had suffered, and she thought she would never have any interaction with her ex-husband again.
Thirteen years after Deng Hui divorced, he still thought his ex-wife was the best.
After he divorced, he never found a more suitable woman, nor did he take the initiative to visit his child. When he was seriously ill and hospitalized, all he thought of was the kind and gentle ex-wife.
He contacted his ex-wife and asked to see the child. Yu Fang took the child to the hospital. The child had grown up and became sensible. When he saw the man lying on the hospital bed, he felt extremely strange.
Deng Hui looked forward to the child calling him "Dad", but the child was close to the "step-dad" and was unwilling to call him "Dad".
At that time, Deng Hui realized how outrageous he was. He gave up the greatest happiness he had ever been. Now, only regret is with him.
The initial marriage is often the happiest because they are together because of love. When making a separation decision, you must also know how to give the last guarantee to the person you once loved deeply.
Blood ties are certainly unchangeable, but when the child is young, what he needs is the company and love of his parents. He does not establish feelings. Even if he has the most inseparable blood ties, he is like a stranger.
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What do men and women care more about when they get divorced?
When the marriage comes to an end, choosing to let go is actually a kind of love. It is to give the other party freedom and let him continue to find the happiness he wants.
When divorced, men are often more rational and women are more emotional. Women tend to be more difficult after divorce. Especially with children, it will greatly increase the difficulty of employment.
If a man really cares about his children and the woman he once married, he will consider the woman for the last time during the divorce and give her a guarantee of life.
often cannot have both fish and bear's paw. When divorced, men who do not value family affection and love will eventually be disappointed.
Marriage is like two people raising a pot of flowers together. Only by constantly watering and fertilizing can they thrive. But sometimes, separation is also a helpless choice.
I believe that many people have experienced a long torture process before divorce. People also gradually become rational and cautious from momentary impulse. Even analyze from all aspects whether to divorce and how to divide the property during divorce.
Two people got married because of love, but ended up divorced because of love. There must be more connections in the middle, in addition to money and goods, there are also children of two people. He used to be the crystallization of love, but when he divorced, he became an innocent victim.
When divorced, getting together and taking good care of the child’s inner world is the final expression of affection.
Some people say that every child is an angel with broken wings. He is willing to come to this home and choose two as his parents. You must treat your child well and give him the best company.
Even if you divorce, don’t forget your responsibilities as parents and stay with your children often, so as not to hurt them because of the broken family.
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