Introduction
Once we reach a certain age, we have to start worrying about our later years and worrying about how to support our elderly. We all know that there are many places that require money when we are old, and it is definitely a hard time for life without money in our later years. Therefore, most elderly people envy those with pensions because this means having a stable income and is a strong guarantee for their later years.
But having a pension does not mean that life must be beautiful. Some elderly people have a lot of pensions every month, but they still have to worry about pension issues. Even if Aunt Wang is 68 years old, that's the case. What's going on? Next, let’s listen to the story of Aunt Wang together.
self-reporter: Aunt Wang
My surname is Wang, and I am 68 years old this year. I lived a happy and happy first half of my life. My parents are both workers and I have no bad habit of favoring boys over girls. I have also grown up like a spoiled person since I was a child.
Later, after marrying my wife, my life was happier than before. Because I am the one who decides our family, my wife loves me very much and respects me very much. Every time we have conflicts, he will bow his head first. It is really a blessing for me to meet such a good man in this life.
Both of us retired from the unit and had a pension collar every month. When we first retired, we lived a carefree life, and we felt like we had no worries.
But this happy life disappeared after the son got married.
I am not in good health. I have been married for several years before I got pregnant. It is also very dangerous during pregnancy and it is difficult to give birth during delivery. It can be said that I have really experienced a lot of hardships in order to give birth to this child.
We both cherish the child we finally got and carefully cultivated him. We tried our best to give him the best from childhood to adulthood. Although we did not respond to all requests, we also tried our best.
My son has never liked to play with girls since he was a child, so I have never seen him have a friend of the opposite sex. In the past, I often told my wife that I was worried that he would not be able to find a wife in the future, but after all, I had never seen him talk to a girl.
But I didn’t expect that my son started dating the second year after he went to college. His daughter-in-law and he were from the same college, and the two met because of club activities. When we first learned about this, our couple was also very happy. My son finally grew up and knew how to pursue girls. I don’t have to worry about him becoming a bachelor in the future.
But after we got to know our daughter-in-law and her family, we didn't want them to be together. My daughter-in-law's family is from the countryside and is not as good as ours. The conditions of the two families are really too different. In fact, we don’t care about being a good match. Our biggest hope is that our son can live a happy life, so we, as parents, will feel at ease.
The reason we disagree is that the daughter-in-law and the family are not a good-for-nothing. The two in-laws prefer boys over girls is very serious, and the daughter-in-law is also brainwashed thoroughly. She is a "brother-supporting demon". Even if she is not doing well, she has to subsidize her younger brother. In the past, my son spent a lot of money for their family when they were in a relationship.
If my son really gets married to his daughter-in-law, he will definitely be dragged down in the future. I don’t say I hope my son has a good wife, nor do I think I can find a wife who can help him in his career, but at least I can’t hold back.
But my son has grown up and has his own opinions. We persuaded him hard not to take it seriously, and we still firmly insist on our choice. Parents who love their children can’t resist them, so in the end, we compromised.
When talking about the dowry, the two in-laws spoke out loud, asking for a total of 280,000 yuan, and also asked to buy a wedding house. Both of us looked very bad at that time. The bride price here was not high, and it was all given by our heart, and basically it would not exceed 100,000. The bride price of
for 280,000 yuan can be said to be a sky-high price, let alone buying a wedding house. But his son agreed without saying a word, but he just left the society, so how could he get so much money? In the end, we are not here to pay.
Although my husband and I have saved some money over the years, after my son got married, we spent almost all our savings, and only 40,000 to 50,000 yuan left. At that time, we were not too worried. Although we had no deposits, we both had pensions and could live a life.
People say that children are debts from parents’ previous lives, and I think the same is true for our situation. I originally thought that after my son got married, he would be able to support his family and that we both could have our own peaceful life.
But after the grandson was born, the son and daughter-in-law kept crying with us poor, saying that it is stressful to raise children now, so we can be subsidies for grandparents. For our son, we have fulfilled our responsibilities and obligations as parents. We have worked hard to raise him up and bought him a house to get married. We have done everything we can.
So we don’t want to pay too much attention to it, but they always come back with their grandson in their arms. We really can’t bear to face our grandson and we don’t have the will tolerate our grandson’s life. So they often subsidize their family, giving them three to four thousand yuan a month.
In recent years, the couple also asked us how many times we had borrowed money, but the money we borrowed was basically back and forth, so they never mentioned that we had to pay back the money. We both knew that we could not get the money back, but we still couldn't give up our hearts and refused them, and we always compromised again and again.
My wife fell seriously ill half a year ago. The various treatment fees are astronomical to us. We have not saved much money in recent years, and the few savings were quickly spent.
I want to ask my son to take money to treat his illness. Although his son often cries in front of us, we also know that the couple’s life is not that sad. After all, the couple’s income in two months is more than 10,000 yuan, and with our subsidies, we must have saved a lot of money over the years.
But after I finished speaking, my son seemed embarrassed and didn't dare to look directly into my eyes. Then my daughter-in-law said that they had lent all their money to their parents' family, and now they only have more than 10,000 yuan in living expenses. In short, it means that they have no money to lend it to us.
I always feel that although my son listens to his daughter-in-law a little, we parents also have a certain position in his heart. But I didn't expect that my father was sick and my son could watch coldly. We really raised a white-eyed wolf.
Later, I had no choice but to sell our house. Because our house is relatively old and the location is not very good, it only sold for more than 200,000 yuan. This money seems to be a lot, but it doesn't cost anything at all in the hospital, and it's spent it in less than two months. The house was gone and the money was gone, but my wife still couldn't save her.
My life is really sad now. My daughter-in-law doesn't want me to go to their house to retire. My house has been sold and I don't even have a habitat. I had no choice but to rent a house. The conditions of the house I live in are relatively poor. It is a single room with only more than 20 square meters. The room is not in good light. I have to turn on the lights in the house during the day, and there is no bathroom in the room. I share a public toilet with a few people. It is really depressing to live there.
In the past, I definitely couldn't adapt to this kind of living conditions, but now I have to save money. Although the pension of 5,000 yuan seems to be a lot, now I can only rely on this pension. There is no pension or pension money. I am really worried about my old age life and I really don’t know how to live in the future.
Parents really have to be honest. It is enough to raise their children. When they enter the workplace, they should be responsible for their lives. We really don’t have to take too much responsibility for them. We elderly people should take good care of ourselves first and should not spend too much money on our children. Only by having money in our hands can we live with confidence.
But before, I always couldn't see through this truth. I always thought that I had only one son, so I could help more, otherwise I wouldn't have lived like this. Now it would be too late to regret it now.
